To ask your views :- Is being a mum a job.

[ICanSeeTheSun]

I can not decide if being a mum is a job.

I do see this a lot on Facebook, under employment is full time mummy.

Aibu to think if a mum is a job I want my employment rights, such as 21 day holiday.

And conversely a lot of jobs are incredibly rewarding.....not least because they allow one parent to stay at home.

that hardly negates SillyLass's point

I hate the term full time mum, I am a full time mum but I also work 30 hours a week (when the kids are at school).

My friend on FB (she is absolutely lovely but this does bug me) has her occupation as full time mummy but actually puts in the same amount of hours in with her DCs as me as her DCs are at school too. The only exception is that I pay someone to do my cleaning and ironing and she doesn't as she is at home during the day to do it, however surely that is the 'housewife' part not mum part.

I loved being a SAHM but I also enjoy working now so I have no issues with whatever people want to do but being a SAHM is not a job, it is bringing up your children.

I disagree with what some people say about volunteers though, although it is not classed as a job often volunteers have a huge amount of responsibility and some charities could not run at all without volunteers.

I was a volunteer for 5 years for a charity and I actually had to have insurance to protect me from being taken to court if something went wrong (it would have been highly unlikely to have happened). I was responsible for all the accounts, PAYE and all business matters and was the person accountable legally if anything went wrong.

I still never listed it as my job though.

Personally i think being Mum is not a job. But i think being SAHM and providing something you would outsource and pay for is a job, because you are earning the money of childcare by saving it. I think what i do is a job because by not going to work i am earning the family £400 a month by saving it on childcare. I also work for the family ensuring DH can go to work, so the job i do earns me/us half his salary. So i do think i am technically paid, paid by the money i save and paid by DH's income. If i had a different DH who didn't need so much 'assistance' and helped with childcare then i think it would be different.

It absolutely does negaye Silly's point that many jobs have no value. It is those 'valueless jobs' and 'valued jobs' which bring home the bacon and enable one parent to stay at home - so actually very valuable, regardless of the value that Silly places on paid work.

does not negate - flaming phone

A job you don't get paid for and no sodding holidays.

Of course it's not a job.its a set of tasks for your own kids.mum isn't a job.at all
No external scrutiny.no regulation,no expected standard unlike an actual job

Excellent points Sillylass79.

I think that people considering that their job is being a full time mum actually devalues their work at home, and their choice to be at home.
As if having a job is mandatory.
They can simply say they don't hold a job, but that their occupation is to take care of the children (and, presumably, the house).

Not a job.

Not job

Is someone paying you to do it? Just get on with it like we all have to.

sillylass Wish you and I could go for a coffee as I agree with everything you say.

I have just given up part-time primary teaching for the reasons you give. I am going to do private music lessons in the evenings. Only need to do 7 hours for same money as I got when doing my job, as now do not need to pay for childcare. I am so excited about my new job of "nurturer."

To me this is a lifestyle choice. It will benefit everyone in my family - my dh, my DS and me. Happy mummy, happy family. And I am coming away with the same money overall. Happy days.

Being at home with babies, toddlers and pre school dc is worse than any job.
It's the only time I seriously considered going to work.

Surely that depends on the children and the job Lucy. I didn't find my job that hard but find being at home with the children even easier than that.

I suppose so yes.
Although I speak and have spoken with working mums over the years and although they find it hard juggling everything a lot say and have said they go to work for a rest.

DH has always said he's very happy that he's the breadwinner as no way could he have coped being at home all day when ours were small.

Full time mummy really women call themselves this oh please

of course it is not a job

I suspect Lucy that I find it easy because I probablyave quite low standards and having a house full of children means that they entertain each other.

I only have one, phil, and that was easy too. :)

Must just be my low standards then