To ask your views :- Is being a mum a job.

[ICanSeeTheSun]

I can not decide if being a mum is a job.

I do see this a lot on Facebook, under employment is full time mummy.

Aibu to think if a mum is a job I want my employment rights, such as 21 day holiday.

Oh in that case I'm chief executive tea drinker,and biscuit Dunker.that's my job
And by your logic because i call it so it is

Aha no,you see if I say it's so,it is.according to this thread folk can proclaim any activity to be their job

No, it's a choice, a blessing for those who choose it, it's hard work. But it's not a job.

I am now a sahm to 5 children. I have been both a sahm and a wohm.

I think that whether or not you see it as a job probably affects how you live your life as a sahm. It is what you make it, the same as everything else so sitting around watching tv, buying ready meals and not spending time with your kids then no sahm is not your job. If you make it your priority and put actual effort into and be the best you can (and I am not talkign of some kind of doormat/50s housewife here) then I think it can be a job just as much as spending 40 hours a week in an office or shop.

No, not. It's life.

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F* no!

Agree with everything you say SillyLass

SirChengin Some of us even manage to have a job AND raise amazing children. This is exactly the type of remark that upsets people. It's making out WOHMs to be some sort of super woman, that SAHMs only trail after, in their lacklustre fashion.

My point is, you are not doing the actual raising when you are at work. How can you be? Someone else is doing the physical, emotional and mental interacting for those hours. There are plenty more hours in the week, of course, for working parents to do all that to ensure a great relationship and raise amazing kids. Because it needs to be done and good parents ensure that they do it.

Everyone agrees that there is value to loving care, right? And everyone agrees that children can't suspend their need for it 9-5 Mon-Fri. How they are looked after for those hours is part of their psyche and will affect them, hence all the work that goes into sorting childcare and making sure the kids are happy there. It matters.

It just ceases to matter when women do it for their own kids instead of any other type of work.

The other point is that people seem to believe that SAHMs just scoff biscuits in front of the telly all day, they can't possibly be able to regulate their own time productively without some big bad clipboard wielder overseeing them.

I've been SAHM & WOHM btw so am not in any particular camp.

Of course i/we raise our kids,we imbue the familial values and behaviour we expect
Given kids at school 830-330 thats presumably time housewife isn't raising family?
If kids were raised by after school etc all attending would all have similar behaviour and values,etc.they dont because after school doesn't raise my kids

Applying that flawed logic parent has no role or impact on children at school,the teacher raises them

But of course it feeds into the mn myth of feral kids at afterschool,crying for absent parents