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to think that actually a lot of women secretly think like this about having a boy?

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channing55 · 30/06/2014 09:16

I just read in the papers about this silly woman who had a boob job on the NHS, is now pregnant and said if she had known it was a boy she would have had an abortion and is drinking and smoking throughout her pregnancy because she doesn't care because it's a boy.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2673898/Im-drinking-smoking-boy-Pregnant-model-boob-job-NHS-says-shed-abortion-shed-known-wasnt-girl.html

I know most women who are pregnant with a boy wouldn't go to the extreme of having an abortion or smoking and drinking but I have heard so many negative remarks from mums pregnant with a boy about how disappointed they are and even when I was pregnant people made rude comments about (me) having a boy.

I actually think a lot of women are secretly disappointed when they find out they are having a boy and that this woman's horrible attitude is just an extreme example of how much prejudice and nastiness there is now towards little boys and the nasty cliches society now attributes to them?

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socksandsandles · 30/06/2014 14:19

Three boys here. Can never 'get' people who are 'hoping' (like their Christmas list or something) for a particular sex. He/she is already in existence by that time. Weird.

..and this woman is weirder..

Mim78 · 30/06/2014 21:52

I keep thinking that everyone is jealous of me for having ds, but that is almost certainly deluded and/or because he is so sweet (4 months).

DarkHeart · 30/06/2014 21:55

I was over the moon to have a boy. Always been glad since.

PunkrockerGirl · 30/06/2014 22:03

Two boys here. When the midwife told me we'd got another ds I remember punching the air with joy. They have been (and still are) a complete joy.

Hissy · 30/06/2014 22:05

Op: don't be so fucking ridulous.

HillyHolbrook · 30/06/2014 22:12

I've been asked if I'm disappointed I'm having a girl a lot Confused

It seems to be the opposite round here, everyone wants a little boy. My cousin is the only male of this generation of our family and he is absolutely worshipped. He has a DD and a DS himself and everyone congratulated him when he had his boy but weren't too fussed about his DD. Don't get me wrong, we are all very loved, but it's like a real status symbol.

Boys are favoured in many cultures. Near where my grandparents live is heavily populated by a major religious group who favour sons, so the local hospital doesn't offer gender scans in case you plan to abort for gender. You have to travel an hour to my city or get what you're given.

IShallCallYouSquishy · 30/06/2014 22:24

I adore my boy. I adore my girl. Completely equally.

We did not want to know the sex of either of them before they were born as it didn't matter to us. We wanted the little people that they are, not a stereotype.

DS is still a baby but he is the cuddliest, snuggliest, most loving little thing ever. DD makes me laugh and smile everyday with her cheeky, funny, happy demeanour, as well as melt my heart with her toddler cuddles and kisses. I wouldn't swap either of them for the world.

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jonicomelately · 30/06/2014 22:28

I was thrilled to have a boy and equally thrilled when I found out I was having another boy.

Wadingthroughsoup · 30/06/2014 22:29

I have a girl and a boy. Before having children, I'd always felt that, if I were to have two of the same sex, I'd prefer two boys to two girls. Like a previous poster, I think this is because I see myself as a bit of a 'difficult' person in some ways, and worried that my relationship with a daughter would be more difficult than with a son. That has turned out to be true, to an extent. My relationship with my son is easier, less complex. But I adore them both, and am grateful to have the experience of being a mother to a girl and a boy.

SquigglySquid · 30/06/2014 22:32

I actually wanted a boy at first. But I was just as happy with a girl. I can do the same things with a girl, and they come with cuter clothes. :)

Giraffeski · 30/06/2014 22:32

She needs a bra intervention. In the article it claims her breast implants boosted her from a 32A to a 36 D. Unless they added four inches to her ribcage during the surgery I very much doubt that she is a D cup. Have you seen the pictures? More like a 32F or G!

Wadingthroughsoup · 30/06/2014 22:35

I thought that too Giraffe.

I also thought...

...£1000 a night? Really?!

tanukiton · 30/06/2014 22:36

I actually felt a bit sad when I was told I was having a girl first. I was told it was a boy second time and felt a bit sad. How could I love another being as much as my little girl??
You know what it is all about expectations... I love them both deeply and they BOTH bring great joy to my life. ( although I do have to remind myself at 5.30am in the morning).

bbombshell · 30/06/2014 22:38

I always wanted boys and now have 2 & couldn't be happier

ladymariner · 30/06/2014 22:38

Couldn't be arsed to read any more than the ridiculous op.....what utter bollocks. Only ever wanted a boy, got him and love him with all my heart.

Op, I would engage with you but sorry, I don't speak fuckwit......

Giraffeski · 30/06/2014 22:54

Wadings- you are so right. Not with that lipstick!

flyingtrue · 30/06/2014 23:05

Bollocks. I'd be very happy if I could have either.

And since said woman said 'don't judge, read my book and all will be explained', it says how much she's using this as a marketing ploy. Just like the DM, she's found sensationalism and controversy sells.

sweetlilacsinspring · 30/06/2014 23:08

Honestly - I was desperate for a girl with Dc2. If she'd been a boy we would have tried for no3 to have one more final chance for a girl, but as it is we are sticking at two as we have one of each.

I envy those of you who say it doesn't matter so freely and genuinely, as the thought of having another boy and being upset/disappointed did make me so, so anxious when TTC and in pregnancy.

sweetlilacsinspring · 30/06/2014 23:09

Also - just to add, I'm sure none of the above reflects well on me, but, I didn't choose to feel like that, I didn't want to feel like that, I just DID.

fifi669 · 30/06/2014 23:22

I wanted a boy, got a boy. Then I wanted a girl but I've got another boy on the way. I was a bit gutted to be honest. We plan on having more anyway but it would have been nice to have one of each sorted so the rest could be surprises (we wanted to know the sex beforehand so we could get over any disappointment). Just want to meet him now :)

buddles · 30/06/2014 23:58

I was thrilled with whatever I had. Now I have a little boy it doesn't bother me what I have next.

That woman is an attention seeing ho-bag.

ilovecolinfirth · 01/07/2014 06:18

Incredibly proud of my 2 boys. Wouldn't change a thing :)

WhoDat · 01/07/2014 06:31

Freud would have a field day with the OP.

rockybalboa · 01/07/2014 06:37

No, not me. I got more than a little bit hacked off with people pulling a sad face when I told them I was having DS3. Said sad face is usually followed by "so will you keep trying for a girl?". That woman is an utter knob head who will say anything to get herself in the tabloids. Her book sounds hilarious (for all the wrong reasons)

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