To want to shout at this bloody child..

[Wilberforce2]

Not sure if I'm being a bit precious but this is driving me mental.

Every Tuesday my ds does rugby 4-5 and as they are only reception and year 1 all of the parents stay. I like staying and enjoy watching him but one of the little girls of another parent is doing my head in. I have a 4 month old dd and every week this little girl does not leave her alone, constantly plays with the hood on the pram (pushing it backwards and forwards), putting her fingers in the babies mouth, kissing her on the lips, takes her toys/muslin off of her, pokes her eyes it just goes on and on. Last week this girl had a heavy cold and was constantly wiping snot around her face then walked over to dd in her pram (I dared to take my eyes off of her for a second) and stuck her fingers in her mouth, Friday my dd gets an awful cold. The mum just laughs and says "oh she is so motherly" or "she just loves babies" but I want her to tell her to leave her alone for one fricking second. Today I told the girl no a few times and had a couple of looks from the mum who then said "oh *** come over here darling I don't think you are wanted" but I can't just watch her prod and poke her for an hour, she was trying to put a pine cone in her mouth then whipped her with a muslin!

Am I being precious or would you keep telling the girl no? Little girl is 2 years old. Older brother is in my ds's class so I don't want to cause an argument.

I feel anger and frustration to my children sometimes. Of course those feelings are going to be there (even if they are not aware of it). Can you honestly say you never have cross feelings towards a little person of any size - at all - ever? This would include frustration and mild annoyance, of course.

You may not act on those feelings, but they are still there. It's human nature.

Ah, usual, I was wondering when your token nasty comment to me would pop up! Hi! waves

Oh you are - you high horse is so high you can barely see the ground The OP doesn't wish to enter into any form of confrontation with a lazy mare who has already indicated she can't be arsed to deal with her 2 year old - she just wants a quiet life, watching her child play rugby. So what?

Yanbu. My almost seven year old neice constantly picks my one year old up and carries her around as my DD is squirming and upset.

I always say nicely that DD wants to be put down etc but inside I am shouting "will you just leave her alone!"

You would say it was a peculiar urge, I would say it wasn't

Tomayto, tomato

Evans the situation was very easy to avoid. Lots people bring their babies to events for their older children. The OP brought the stress on herself.

Ridiculous to say OP was directing her anger towards the child. She was actually containing it and venting on here!

Oh -and a child with a cold "snotty" isn't horrible or cruel - it's descriptive. And it sounds better than a boogery kid.

No-one likes a snotty kid with bogies.

Fact.

If you have one, keep it away from humans and animals.

Oh, usual, I'm just a faceless nobody who has been on the receiving end of your particular brand of unpleasantness before. Thank goodness you don't know me

I think it's fair to say that most people know who you are usual

No matter how many older children you have, mother of a 4-month old is often going to feel stressed, just because of the hormones alone. Natural motherly instincts dictate that you feel protective of your newborn. The OP didn't necessarily bring any stress upon herself, rather, it was thrust upon her.

Good grief, this is full of people being professionally offended. No one is actually criticising the 2 year old - it is the parenting of said child.

Many people would recoil seeing a child with a crusty nose running towards them - it's not pleasant. I appreciate someone said there was a medical reason for her child, which is different. However there are lazy parents who seem to go have developed a tolerance that others can't.

Again the irritation is that the mum allows the child to intrude - not the actual child.

I think it's the blatant dislike of the child that doesn't sit right with me and the eagerness of a number of posters to agree how annoying she must be and should 'get away' from the pram, etc. criticism should never have been aimed towards a 2yo child when clearly, it is her mum who is at fault.

I feel horribly sorry for this little girl, pretty much left to her own devices by her mum (not saying all the time, before someone jumps on that...) and considered insufferable by OP. why doesn't someone just pay her some fucking attention?!

The thread is titled 'aibu to want to want to shout at this bloody child'

professionally offended

That's the phrase I've been trying to remember. Yes, this, definitely
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The thread is titled 'aibu to want to want to shout at this bloody child'

katie fair enough, it was a description but was there any necessity to then go on with 'last week there were even snot bubbles!' and then for other posters to start their 'eww snotty noses are gross' comments? I don't think so, tbh, that goes a bit beyond simply describing the scene...

and no, the anger she felt was absolutely toward the child, at least before it was pointed out to her that the mum was at fault, as far as I can tell.

Yep, it is entitled that. AIBU is peppered with all sorts of people pushed to the limit for whatever reason, threatening all sorts of things. It's what makes it interesting.

not fussed in the slightest about being the 'professionally offended' in this case because it's an overused and meaningless phrase as I'm generally lost as to what the fuss is about when other people are in hysterics about something fairly minor.

She felt anger????!!

Goodness me, you delicate flower, you

Think of 'professionally offended' as more of an observation than an argument....