to think 6pm is late enough?

[Oakmaiden]

Because my daughter thinks I am very unreasonable. It is still light. She doesn't go to bed for aaaaaages. All her friends are still playing out.

But I think that 6pm is a reasonable time for a 10 year old to come in, eat tea, and then stay indoors.

What do you think?

So anyway - just to check - does this mean I should be letting my 16 year old stay out later than 8pm too???

I do have a teenager, but he is not your "average" teenager. He is on the autistic spectrum, so wanting to go out and play with friends is an entirely alien situation. Eldest would freak at the idea of being sent outside where he might have to interact with people!

Which is why the comment about letting him stay out late was very tongue in cheek. Chance would be a fine thing...

We have a rule of - when the streetlights come on. for DS1 and DD1

Xcountry we had that rule too before the austerity measures

Now if we relied on the street lights coming on, the kids would be out all bloody night

oakmaiden you can play it by ear with staying out later.
If your dd struggles to get up after a week of playing out after dinner, pull it back by half an hour or so.

My dd (10yo) goes to bed at 8 on a school night which is quite early judging by others on here BUT I have to wake her every morning so she clearly needs it.
If she was bouncing out of bed at 6am, I'd push it back iyswim.

I think you have bedtime about right,but I would say state out till 7:30 - that's quite late enough,children need family time too.

on these lovely bright evenings it's lovely to see children playing out! making they stay in is a bit weirdy even at 8

YABU. Playing out with your mates on lovely summer evenings is one of the best things about being a kid! We don't get many of them either so let her enjoy it.

My boys are 8 and 6 and they are allowed to play in the garden till 7 (they are too loud for any later than that). 6YO has to come in and have quick shower and he relaxes by reading or watching 1 programme on telly, he is in bed by 745 at the latest. They are not allowed out on their own yet,just the garden.

DS1 stays out till 8pm as he practises whatever sport he is into that week but has to get to bed by 830 as a rule, with the football on it is usually after the 8pm match if on Thurs onwards.

I think you have bedtime about right,but I would say state out till 7:30 - that's quite late enough,children need family time too.

I am very jealous at living in an area where children play out.They don't round here- only in gardens.I let mine stay out in the graden til it's dark on a nice summer evening

My 10 yo comes in at 7:30pm week nights & 8:30pm weekends/holidays. He showers has a snack and is in bed by around 9pm. I think this is late enough although apparently all his mates are still out and I'm just a cruel mum

1. Home from school
2. Bit of homework
3. Tea / dinner
4. Rest of homework (no escape)
5. Bit of play outside / inside
6. Bath
7. Bed

I think you're being unreasonable.

Light warm evenings are perfect for playing out after tea.

My 7 year old comes in at 6.30, bed at 7, read til lights out at 8. At 10 I think 6pm is very early unless there's a specific reason, like homework or family time. Playing outside is good for them!

yabu
why would you want her to stay in?
baffled

I would let a 16 year old later that 8pm yes OP. I think at that age is has to be more negotiable. If they are having a "gathering" I think 10 or 11 with adequate measures to get home safely. I'm not keen on teenagers just hanging around streets so 8 or 9 is reasonable then if there isn't something particularly on that requires a later time. Otherwise the activity would dictate and negotiate the time at 16 I think.

I call ours in at 8pm, they are 7,11 and 14. I'd much rather the are outside playing.

There is no chance I could get my nearly-9-year-old to bed at 7.30 He would still be awake at 9.30. He has never slept for a 12-hour stretch in his entire life.

Can this - the 16 year old bit was a joke. Well, sort of. In that my 16 year old doesn't go out in the evening at all, so a "coming in" time would be completely irrelevant.

Sorry, I missed your subsequent post about your 16 yearly.