to think she should have said something?

[janesxx]

so I saw my friend in the street and stopped to talk briefly, while we were talking this little boy (about 5/6) came out of nowhere, ran up to my 1 year old son, grabbed his head with both hands and kissed him on the lips!!

I was totally in shock at the way he grabbed him, his mother then walked past and said "aw he loves babies" and carried on walking.. I wish I had have said something now.. AIBU to think she should have told him NOT to grab random babies and kiss them on the mouth!?

bearing in mind my son has an autoimmune diseases and is extremely vulnerable to getting ill off germs (he has to have everything sterilized still and therefore I dont even kiss him on the lips!)

I haven't got anything sensible to say so I'm just gonna link to .

If your son's health is so fragile, you should have been watching him properly.

Oh my dh has a low immunity due to chemo treatment op. A few idiots think he should live his life indoors too.

Dd 6 has ld and no social boundaries I would and have explained you don't approach unfamiliar people

But she does not understand due to her cogcognitive thinking not being what ours is, I certainly wouldn't tell her off for it though.

brian have you been told to cover their buggy? sickens me that people are going on as if ive purposely put my sons health at risk

m.kidshealth.org/parent/medical/heart/hsp.html

I don't understand

The above article about your sons condition says you only need to take precautions for a month

Its my dh op Imagine putting him in a buggy and covering him. He'd look very silly

laurie when he first got diagnosed my doctor also told me it would only last one month to six weeks, when he still had it seven months on he rendered me to an immunologist where they told me there it is self limiting and it can last from a week to your whole life, not much research is being done on the disease as there isnt many people who actually have it but not one peroson I have spoke to has only had it for a month, especially if there is renal involvement, plus you shouldnt believe everything you read online

BriantheMole - I certainly wasn't saying that op should keep her ds indoors. But I'm sure your DH knows what he can do to minimise risk of infection, therefore all (or most) bases would be covered.

At no point have I said it was acceptable for a random child to come and kiss her dc, however, if it was my dc with this illness, I would take extra precaution when going out.

No offence has been meant with my posts.

Of course, if you don't like alternative opinion - post in chat, not AIBU.

rendered was meant to say referred

Perhaps it would be better posting this in children's health as you said the GP has not discussed precautions for going outside with you

I wasn't referring to you particularly yellow rose. I was actually thinking back to a recent thread where someone took their child out with active chicken pox. But in fairness to the op, I wouldn't expect some random person to come up and kiss my child. Because its never happened to me. Not without people asking if they can touch first. Its just one of those rare random things that you wouldn't expect to happen.

I don't think yabu at all

no I have discussed everyhing with him and he said nothing about when I take him out! your just making this all about health as you accused me of lying the main thing is all the post was about was a thaught she should have told her son not to kiss random babies!? when my son is that age if he does that then I will surely correct him end of!

You have no idea whether she talked to her 5 year old afterwards about kissing babies.

I think you have to get used to the fact that 5 year olds are often unpredictable - you will understand that when your child gets to 5.

And because they're unpredictable if your child has an illness that could be provoked if it comes into contact with germs outside you are the one responsible for those precautions.

And you're right - I don't believe you.

Because it seems utterly crazy to me that someone would whine on about telling off a 5 year old without taking simple precautions with their own child's health

Your priorities are all wrong on this thread

your the one dragging it on trying to cause an argumentnt! I asked was I being unreasonable? some say yes and some say no so deal with it. im done now, if your child ever got ill and you have to put a great deal into looking after them every day and someone accused you of LYING about it then youd feel as angry as I am now. you are absolutely pathetic

So what simple precautions should the OP have taken? Should she cover her child every day in the pushchair, just in case a random child kisses him? Is that event so common as to be expected and planned for?

I would never expect a 5 year old to do that. A toddler maybe, so I might be on high alert around toddlers who are grabby and poke you or kiss you without warning. But no way would I expect a completely strange child to kiss my child in the street.

exactly! its never happened before and probably wont happen again, how can I cover him in this heat and so all he sees everywhere is a blanket..

Yeah well sounds like a lie when you go on about expecting 5 year olds to be told off rather than taking any precautions whatsoever and standing there 'in shock' when your child was kissed by another child.

A clear rain cover over a buggy is the best thing - you get ones with vents for cooling

Not blankets obviously

I'll ask again- what precautions should the op have taken?

I take the proper precautions every day and not one health professional has told me to cover him up, if it sounds like a lie then how is it you find it completely ordinary for kids to kiss random babies? and if you've read anything ive said I didnt ask for him to be told off

I keep cross posting with you

In your title you expected her to have said something ie. telling off

And you said 'she should have told him NOT to grab random babies'