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Am I being unreasonable? DP say he will leave if I get an account I haven't had one for almost a year and all my family well most are living away from me so I hardly see them we have an 12 week old and he will leave if I get one?

OP, I would get this moved to relationships firstly, you will get some brilliant advice.

Why not ring Women's Aid for advice and support?

You absolutely should not be in this relationship. You and your baby deserve a happy life away from this awful man. If he wants to go back to his ex, let him. He isn't worth keeping. He certainly isn't worth winning.

How do I get it moved?

He won't change. You can't change him. The more you take the abuse, the more he's going to abuse you.

Please go. Your mother will help you. Your baby will thank you. You will be happier.

Single parenthood isn't that bad you know, especially if you've got support from your mum. I became a single parent when my ds was 3 months and to be honest after a couple of stressful months I really enjoyed it. I got to focus on my ds without worrying about the constant criticism of the ex. I took myself back to college and found I wasn't worthless or thick. And I could wear what I wanted and talk to who I wanted without having to justify myself to anyone.

You are stronger than you think!

You have to report the thread and say you want it moved to relationships.

Ah lovey you need to wake up and smell the coffee.

He will not get better, only worse. Life is for living and not letting some one grind you down.

Why are you scared of being on your own? I raised my dd1 (18) all by myself and she is ace. It's better to be on your own and happy and full of life than with so e one that gives your orders and makes you sad.

Think about the effect he will have on your ds. Do you want him to turn out like his dad?

Report the thread to MN and ask for it to be moved, (from your OP at the top right of the box) they will do it.

Please don't believe you can change him, you can't and he won't. Let your mum help you. She is probably desperate to get you away. You won't be on your own, you have her and you will move on. Let him move on quickly. It just proves that he doesn't love you and just wants someone he can control. Don't be that person.

I don't know I guess he's all I've known for a while he makes me feel like he's the only one for me and that no on else would have me he's even ed me fat right after I had the baby I know he's worthless and it's all getting to much

Op I feel like I've been where you are ( with a real dick you can't seem to leave ) there will come a point where you will leave. Something will just click. He will probably make you miserable over and over again until that happens though. Chin up, it will get better.

No he doesn't I'm on here and baby centre

What you waiting for? You know he is a knob. Go back to your mams and be happy.

Yes do go back to your Mam's; your child's Nanny will be delighted to help you get back on your feet after you sack off this silly billy

Best of luck

Harrisons Mummy, you have only just had a baby, love. You need some help and support and some looking after. It doesn't sound as though you are getting any of that from him. Do you have a good relationship with your mum? Could you go and stay with her for a wee bit just to get your head clear?

You don't have to leave him forever if you don't want to. Yet. You don't have to make any big decisions at all.

One step at a time. First of all, get yourself somewhere where it is not all too much and you can have a bit of peace. You deserve that as a new mum, don't you think?

Poor you, sounds like you're in a very difficult place. Listen to your mum and ask her for help. I know it seems like the hardest thing ever to leave a relationship (especially with a baby) but you can do it and it will be ok. Get help from others, for your and your baby's sake.

Would you be able to work your way through this course?

www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/online.php

Or give Womens Aid a call? It doesn't show up as that on the bill.

Please speak to your GP urgently.

You may have PND and you are in an abusive relationship. Your baby needs you and you have to take care of yourself. Living with an abuser puts you and your child at risk.

Ask to be referred to a counselling team who can help you make some decisions and take steps to getting yourself to a safer place.

Women's Aid is also excellent and their website cannot be traced from a computer.

You and your child are at risk and you need to take action. Seize these thoughts that things are not right and need changing and use them to motivate you to take the first small step.

Leave. I was n a relationnship like that at 18 and leaving was the best thing i ever did. It gets worse, not better, and you don't need to live that way.

My mum has already said I can stay but I don't want to leave my home, I've lived here for a while and I feel like I should stay it's in my name thanks everyone for your advice I really appreciate you all!

If it's in your name make him leave x

Get out now. Use of FB is normal for 90% of people, young or old. If anything it's old hat. He has serious issues