Uninvited to DN naming day

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My BIL & SIL announced last week that they are having a naming day for their 5MO DS this coming weekend. I thought this was a bit short notice, but there you go. I was told by SIL that I am required to bring a more appropriate gift than the one I gave their DD on her naming day (complete set of winnie the pooh) and that my DC cannot wear blue.

Whatever, I am used to her 'eccentricities' so I just nodded and let it wash over me.

HOWEVER, today I was speaking to my MIL (who I get on well with) and mentioned that my sister has chicken pox. She obviously mentioned it to SIL as about an hour later my DH got a call from BIL to say that we are uninvited to the naming day as they do not want their DC contracting it, so can we give the gifts to MIL to bring on the day.

It is reasonable to be offended by this, right?

Just to make it clear, we haven't actually seen my sister for 4 weeks, as she has been working away.

Think yourself lucky !
It's fathers day - do something nice as a family instead

I would be offended and I would give an unwanted gift for them being so rude.

Sounds like utter madness.

Have you told them you haven't even seen your sister?

Praise the Lord for pox.

Really does sound like a lucky escape.

She sounds like a loon.
You're probably better off not going, but obviously I wouldn't send a gift if I were you.

She sounds awful. I'd be torn in your position. I would be offended about her views on your thoughtfully chosen gift and think that she was barking for being quite so overprotective about the chicken pox.

You've had a lucky escape, but you're missing out on observing more crazy behaviour with which to entertain us.

What is a naming day? Is this for grabby gits who don't have a religion but still want a punt for gifts and an excuse to be self-centred?

WTF, you go to the registry office and get a birth certificate. There, that's the child named.

Sounds like wankery best avoided. I would send a card.

Please don't get a present at all or if you do, do it for the sake of the child. They sound vile.

This sounds like something I would never want to attend anyway. But, you could always show up with an inappropriate gift, and your whole family dressed in blue...

Have you been in contact with your sister during the incubation period (IIRC 14 days before spots appear)?
Have you previously had chicken pox yourself?
Has everyone from your family been in contact with your sister, and have you all had chicken pox before?

I can see exactly why your SIL might be concerned. It is not easy to have a baby with chicken pox, so I can see why she wants to avoid it where possible. So I don't think it is unreasonable of her there.

I see that as a separate issue to the others.
The comments about the gifts are rude, and personally I think that a book set is always a nice gift for a child. She sounds very ungreatful on that score, and I would have been tempted to get her DS a different set of books just to spite her .
Also telling you what to wear and what to dress your DC in for the Christening is going too far! How odd. Christeningzilla much?!

DH told BIL we haven't seen my sister, but SIL told BIL to say they can't take any chances. Their DD goes to nursery 4 days a week and BIL works in a GP surgery, so it isn't like they never come across sick people or germs, anyway.

Just send a card. I would not put up with her vile behaviour, either.

Lucky escape

Seconding the just sending a card idea. I certainly wouldn't give them a gift for being so rude

Naming day? Where both the gift and outfits you buy are dictated to you?

Blimey, how tedious!!

Your poxy sister has done you a HUGE favour.

Don't mention you haven't seen her, for goodness sake! Pretend you spent yesterday licking her or something.

And don't bother with a gift. Just say you were worried a gift might be a pox transporter or summat.

*should have said if you definitely didn't have contact in the incubation period, she is being unreasonable, and you should inform her thusly.

Sounds like a lucky escape to me too, she sounds crazy and demanding, however I don't blame you for feeling offended. It's not nice to be UN-invited.

I would post a card with a voucher in it and leave it at that. Leave the crazy people to their crazy day.

Wtf is a naming day anyway??

Rude rude rude.

And what, exactly, is inappropriate about Winnie the Pooh?

Littleprincess, yes the incubation period is 7-21 days but a person isn't infectious until a couple of days before the spots appear.

I'd give your DN a can of White Lightning. It would help her understand what an appropriate gift for a baby is and would have the added benefit of her probably never speaking to you again. Win win all round I'd say :o

Subconsciously we sometimes do something that gets us off the hook later. Looking back, any chance you mentioned CP to get out of going? If so well done.

What does she think is an appropriate gift?

Lucky escape.

I think the comment about presents is rude, and the non wearing of blue is odd.

I would be more offended about that tbh than the chickenpox disinvite. They may not have realised you haven't seen your sister in 4 weeks.

Lucky escape. I would quietly try to distance yourself from her 'eccentricities'. I would suggest investing in an edition of 'A to Z of Infectious Diseases' which could keep you going for several years.

I think a set of Winnie-the-Pooh books would be about the most appropriate gift you could give a child. WTF does she think is appropriate?