Uninvited to DN naming day

[dippylongstocking]

My BIL & SIL announced last week that they are having a naming day for their 5MO DS this coming weekend. I thought this was a bit short notice, but there you go. I was told by SIL that I am required to bring a more appropriate gift than the one I gave their DD on her naming day (complete set of winnie the pooh) and that my DC cannot wear blue.

Whatever, I am used to her 'eccentricities' so I just nodded and let it wash over me.

HOWEVER, today I was speaking to my MIL (who I get on well with) and mentioned that my sister has chicken pox. She obviously mentioned it to SIL as about an hour later my DH got a call from BIL to say that we are uninvited to the naming day as they do not want their DC contracting it, so can we give the gifts to MIL to bring on the day.

It is reasonable to be offended by this, right?

Just to make it clear, we haven't actually seen my sister for 4 weeks, as she has been working away.

If she wants the perks of a Christening without actually having a Christening, then you should buy the baby a bible. There are some gorgeous children's bibles around so it can be a really lovely present to treasure as well as a dig at your SIL.

Love the comment along the lines of 'you should pretend you spent the last couple of days licking her [your sister]' - been laughing at that for ages!

You should totally get a set of Beatrix Potter. That would be a brilliant idea, she will hate it and it would still fair on the child.

Spoke to MIL earlier this evening. She's usually very diplomatic, but she actually called SIL a loony and told me not to send a gift to something we are no longer invited to! DH has never been so proud of his mum, although she said if it ever comes out that she thinks that, she'll deny everything.

I'll probably still send a gift though. I don't think the baby should miss out because of his parents attitude.

How about this? www.amazon.co.uk/The-Complete-Book-Flower-Fairies/dp/0723248397 (Currently 42% off)

I loved reading them when I was a child and Mum gave my daughter this edition when she was born.

Winnie the poo stainless steel cutlery?

I would all turn up dressed in blue with painted pox spots in your faces and give her the complete works of William Shakespeare.

Apparently, winnie the pooh is for boys

That sounds a pretty horrible way for her DD to grow up.

My dd 3 had Winnie the poo bed linen.

Your sil sounds a daft cow.

Thank goodness for a sensible mil. You sound very tolerant OP. I know this is an awful mumsnet cliché but sil does have a very young baby and the anxiety about chicken pox makes me wonder if she's a bit down? Anxiety out of all proportion can be a symptom of depression.
Or is this typical of her personality?

Pity that you can't go and all turn up in blue having misunderstood her instructions!!

But if you are not going then there is no need to send a gift, unless it is wildly inappropriate!! (you can always get him something later when there is no danger of it carrying chickenpox germs!!)

poor child having such a loony mum.
lucky escape not to have to go.
do send a gift - you are right that it's not the kid's fault that the mum is rude and grabby - but don't pay any attention to your SIL's weird ideas of what is appropriate.

I'd send another set of WTP books, with a printout of a fake scientific study, saying that it's been proved that WTP is the only children's character not capable of carrying chicken pox.

Wow, shame you can't go as I would love to hear what else your lunatic sil got up to.

She is rude.

Is she also telling the adults what to wear?

What a parts he is.

But a Smurf DVD wrapped in blue paper and tied with a blue ribbon.
It goes without saying that the card should be in a blue envelope..
In your shoes I would for the first time ever be so very thankful for chickenpox!!

The baby is hardly missing out if he doesn't get a naming day gift.