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Uninvited to DN naming day

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dippylongstocking · 09/06/2014 16:27

My BIL & SIL announced last week that they are having a naming day for their 5MO DS this coming weekend. I thought this was a bit short notice, but there you go. I was told by SIL that I am required to bring a more appropriate gift than the one I gave their DD on her naming day (complete set of winnie the pooh) and that my DC cannot wear blue.

Whatever, I am used to her 'eccentricities' so I just nodded and let it wash over me.

HOWEVER, today I was speaking to my MIL (who I get on well with) and mentioned that my sister has chicken pox. She obviously mentioned it to SIL as about an hour later my DH got a call from BIL to say that we are uninvited to the naming day as they do not want their DC contracting it, so can we give the gifts to MIL to bring on the day.

It is reasonable to be offended by this, right?

Just to make it clear, we haven't actually seen my sister for 4 weeks, as she has been working away.

OP posts:
Johnogroats · 09/06/2014 17:32

WTF re Winnie the Pooh!?!?! I was given a complete set as a child and loved it. I am now 43, still have it (well DSs have it now), and despite my MN name, I am a girl!

Agree with everyone else...run a mile!

Waltermittythesequel · 09/06/2014 17:35

Send SIL a gift instead.

Book of Good Manners

Lilybensmum1 · 09/06/2014 17:36

I would be offended they sound precious, do what other posters have suggested find an inappropriate gift unlike he last one you gave?!?! Enjoy Father's Day instead. Bonus.

eggsandwich · 09/06/2014 17:39

I would say fair enough being uninvited incase she some how thinks your going to pass on chickenpox to her children when you haven't seen the infected person for four weeks, I would say I wont be giving a gift in case it carrys the infection from our house to yours, wouldn't want to risk the contamination.

Aeroflotgirl · 09/06/2014 17:46

Look at it as a lucky escape. oh darn, that stupid pox Grin

BomChickaMeowMeow · 09/06/2014 18:20

Please buy him a set of Rainbow Fairy books, just for the reaction.

ExitPursuedByABear · 09/06/2014 18:24

Grin Coco

LadyIsabellaWrotham · 09/06/2014 18:31

I'd be tempted to turn up and loudly announce "Good News! I checked with the doctors and apparently there's been some new research that shows that CP isn't transmitted by phone call after all!"

But Sod's law would guarantee that their DC would catch CP from a random playground encounter that week and I'd get the blame.

rumbleinthrjungle · 09/06/2014 19:07

Hurrah for the pox and the escape!

WTP or Beatrix Potter sets are timeless, what a lovely gift, we're still reading the very elderly ones my father had as a child to the tinies in our family! Batty wench.

What is the blue thing all about?

Randomeclectic · 09/06/2014 19:11

Nightmare!

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone · 09/06/2014 19:33

So it's a boy - get a giant thick fake gold chain with a signet pendant on it. With Winnie The Pooh etched on it, flicking the birdie.

Marylou2 · 09/06/2014 19:51

Wow, I'm speechless! The freaks, you've had a lucky escape.Your Winnie the Pooh books are a lovely gift by the way.

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 09/06/2014 19:55

Winnie the Pooh is only for boys???! Arrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhh........

Laquitar · 09/06/2014 20:04

Lol @ cant wear blue.

You had a lucky escape.

For gift i would get something pink.
No, i would get a book about manners with a lovely note that if you cant be tought something by your parents you can teach yourself from books.

Laquitar · 09/06/2014 20:06

Oops! Sorry Waltermity.
I 've just read the thread now (blush)

LoveBeingInTheSun · 09/06/2014 20:13

Iucky you, for a gift how about complete set of peppa pig?

arethereanyleftatall · 09/06/2014 20:14

They are b

arethereanyleftatall · 09/06/2014 20:15

I hadn't finished. They are bonkers. I wouldn't get them a gift either. Or a really crap one.

eddielizzard · 09/06/2014 20:17

get the child an oxfam goat.

seriously, how rude. does your mil think she's rude too?

Slongette · 09/06/2014 20:21

Ooh I got £6 in JL gift vouchers today (a £1 & a £5) for tweeting Waitrose that there was only 9 rashers of bacon in my packet of 10.

I can send you the £1 voucher and you can send that in a card - I think that should represent your feelings on the un-invite!

CharmQuark · 09/06/2014 20:25

Haha, anyone who does not appreciate Winnie the Pooh is a loon and an idiot. What a brilliant present it was.

Are they always like this?

Itsfab · 09/06/2014 20:26

I can understand them not wanting to risk catching chicken pox but the present specification and making it clear you have to buy one is disgraceful.

Itsfab · 09/06/2014 20:29

I misread. Yep, cheeky feckers.

KERALA1 · 09/06/2014 20:34

Result! They sound like idiots - who doesn't appreciate AA Milne?

cutefluffybunnes · 09/06/2014 20:35

Paint fake pox onto your little 'uns, dress them in blue, and buy their DS a little silver Winnie the Pooh necklace. Off to the 'naming day' you go! Then come back and tell us all about it. :)