Uninvited to DN naming day

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My BIL & SIL announced last week that they are having a naming day for their 5MO DS this coming weekend. I thought this was a bit short notice, but there you go. I was told by SIL that I am required to bring a more appropriate gift than the one I gave their DD on her naming day (complete set of winnie the pooh) and that my DC cannot wear blue.

Whatever, I am used to her 'eccentricities' so I just nodded and let it wash over me.

HOWEVER, today I was speaking to my MIL (who I get on well with) and mentioned that my sister has chicken pox. She obviously mentioned it to SIL as about an hour later my DH got a call from BIL to say that we are uninvited to the naming day as they do not want their DC contracting it, so can we give the gifts to MIL to bring on the day.

It is reasonable to be offended by this, right?

Just to make it clear, we haven't actually seen my sister for 4 weeks, as she has been working away.

How about a nice sponsored goat for the little chap?

Send them another set of Winnie the Pooh books.

Play with their minds.

Apparently, winnie the pooh is for boys and I should have bought silver jewellery for a girl.

Lucky escape, she sounds crackers.

Has she given any indication what an appropriate present is? I can't see what is inappropriate about the Whinney the Poo set.

Oh for God's sake it's called a gift not a flipping request!! She can't surely demand what the children getas gifts?!

I'd give your DN a can of White Lightning.

And draw pox all over it with a red sharpie.

Oops x post with op.

Whinney the poo is for boys? News to me. I had a naming ceremony for dd and no one bought silver jewellery (than goodness).

Definitely do not send a gift - you don't want it carrying germs do you?

Sounds just like my crazy SIL so I sympathise! I agree she won't want her young child getting chicken pox but as you have not seen your sister in weeks it's practically impossible anyway.
I think you've had a lucky escape! Just send a card and your best wishes. If you do want to get a gift (in the interest of being fair to both children) get what you want to get, don't be dictated to by your grabby loon of a sister in law!

Hire someone to dress up as a smurf to deliver the gift of Peppa Pig books

If you're going to give a serious present, it has to be a set of Beatrix Potter books. Just respectable enough to be a genuine present, but bound to tick SIL off. And in SIL's mind, definitely for girls.

Is be tempted to go with everyone bar ds dressed in.blue

:And Winnie the Pooh is definitely NOT for boys! I mean, its for everyone not that boys can't have it!
I fact my ils thought I was terribly unreasonable for having so mich WTP stuff for Ds, as its for girls apparently

Well, at least you have a 'get out of jail free' card for any event of hers that you don't want to attend. You just have to mention casually that someone in your office, extended family, street or town has come down with chicken pox and you can stay at home and relax.

silver is traditional for a christening - if she wants christening presents then she should get her DC christened!

Sounds like a lucky escape, still, don't see why her DC should suffer so I would get what you think is a lovely gift and send accordingly. And complete Winnie the Pooh is a lovely gift for any child! Agree with Beatrix Potter.

Seeing as you made the dreadful mistake of buying a 'boys' present for their DD then you should follow your own new tradition and buy silver jewellery for their DS. I'm sure you can get something suitable for him, maybe a 'my first nose ring' kit or something similar!

I'd say, lucky escape OP, SIL sounds like a pain in the butt

They're vile and rude. How DARE they slag off your presents and try to dictate what a little kid can and can't wear?!

You've had a lucky escape. Frankly, if they invite you to anything in the future I think your best response would be 'No thank you, I'm not willing to dress myself or my family the way you try to tell me, and I don't appreciate you being rude about presents I've given your family. I think it's best I just stay away you lunatic'

I'd also be buying another set of winnie the pooh books. They can have one each!

She sounds like a loon.

I wouldn't send a gift either, she can't expect a gift after being so rude

Oh but you cant possibly send a gift or a card....imagine the pox being spread all over it

Ok she doesn't get a gift at all then. What a strange person.

Hehe or buy another set of winnie the poohs.

I wouldn't send a gift either, and if she asks, tell her exactly why.

Rude, grabby and has completely got you off the hook. Do not send a present.

Winnie the Pooh present sounded great to me.

I would thank my lucky stars. She sounds like a complete nightmare and asking them to bring a more appropriate gift is down right rude.

Get a sorry we can't come card and ask your sister to rub it on her spots then send to SIL

I may be having a bad day!