I got married last week but I don't really want to take my DH's name.
I have a child from a previous relationship who has my surname, DH and I have a child together who has a double barrelled name (DH's surname - my surname) and I had planned to also have the double barrelled name as I don't want my DS to have a completely different name to the rest of us. But I don't like the double barrelled name, both names have two syllables so it's a bit of a mouthful and I always have to spell DH's part of it.
My surname is a well known one which I never need to spell, it's just simple.
I thought that once we got married I might change my mind and want to take his name, but I don't.
I've spoke to him about it but he seemed to take the hump a bit, he's very traditional and I think he just assumed that I would take his name.
I don't know anybody who hasn't taken their DH's name but I thought in this day in age it was a bit unnecessary and I'm sure lots of people don't change their name these days?
After all, what is in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.
If I didn't have my DS with my name then I probably wouldn't hesitate to take DH's name but his Dad is on his birth certificate and he wouldn't give consent for me to change his name to DH's name, and I think that should be DS's decision to make when he is older.
Plus I'm not particularly keen on DH's family so that doesn't really make help my feelings towards the name.