To expect him to pay?

[AtSea1979]

This is going to sound terrible I know but for some reason I feel it.
Went on first date with a guy last week, paid £20 babysitter, and met him for drinks, we both bought a round.
He told me he had a lovely time and would I like to go out for dinner next week, I said yes.
Tonight, I paid babysitter another £20, and went out for meal, when bill came I got my purse out to pay (total £55) my half but then he put £30 down and I was surprised he didn't tell me to put my purse away. Even though I would have said no and paid half I still feel like he should have paid the full.
I know they are my kids and my responsibility but I still wonder whether I want to date someone again who is so tight.
AIB completely U? (and date I say, sexist?) Or would others feel similar?

[2rebecca]

If you feel that you are doing a man a service by being in the restaurant with him and he should pay for your company then you're an escort. A date is an equal thing when you want to be with the man as much as he wants to be with you and you both enjoy each other's company. If the enjoyment is just 1 way and you're getting nothing out of it but the expectation of a free meal then you are selling yourself.

[FreudiansSlipper]

i think it I is a little harsh calling someone an escort because they expect a man to pay for dinner on the first night

what it does show is that the relationship (should it become one) is not equal from the start one expecting to be looked after and one maybe expecting something back from that but that suits many people

[redshifter]

limitedperiodonly
I appreciate it is maybe notnhow you meant to come across but yes, to me the words you used do make you sound like an escort. Sorry.

[ilovesooty]

men I dated paid for the pleasure of my company

The comparisons to escorting have arisen from that, the implication of which seems to go beyond a mere expectation of a man paying for dinner on a first date.

[BreakingDad77]

men I dated paid for the pleasure of my company

This just reinforces men as found by IWINWIN beliefs, and depending on the age of men your dating your going to get more or less of these types. I have seen similar postings on the ASKMEN forums in the past and there would be one if not many sarcastic, 'should I leave the money on the pillow' type quips.

Perhaps people should put that they are "traditional" in their profiles to advertise that they expect to be spoilt or stick to sugardaddie, misstravel etc websites

[MrsCosmopilite]

men I dated paid for the pleasure of my company sounds very self-centred and arrogant, regardless of what was meant. Payment for company does sound akin to escort services - there may not be sex involved in escorting. Semantics aside, I feel this comment rather sad.

Surely the purpose of dating is to get to know someone. Yes, you would hopefully enjoy someone's company, but that ought to be a two-way street. Did the men who paid provide interesting/pleasurable company?