to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

[brt100]

Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

Its about yet more addictive junk food being pushed onto young impressionable kids with out the parents control. These are 6 yo kids that are being fed harmful food all in the name of its a nice thing to do.

A few weeks ago someone brought in two large shop bought cakes and three 2l bottles of diet coke, completely beyond the parents control as they all came out of school eating them.

2 large cakes between 30 children is hardly a lot though.

Really you are making a mountain out of a molehill, with an issue that doesn't even have anything to do with you!

Giles before this I just put up with the sweets thing at school.

Now, because of this thread -because of the derision and out and out lack of concern for children who do have problems-it has become very clear that I need to be more forthright in putting forward what is best for my child.

I will now write to our school Head and the Governors and formally request that this practice is stopped.

There is no health benefit for children getting these sweets, but sound health reasons why some should not.And this pov is being mocked, minimised, and generally shouted down.

Just think.

One little bag won't hurt.
Nor one little can of pop when they're at a friends.
Nor the apple juice in break.
Nor the flapjack for dessert.
Nor the sweets Grandma bought them.

Just one little thing won't hurt.

Everyone is giving them the same message.

Can't you see that ?

There is nothing stopping a parent asking the school to not allow treats for their child. Or asking if such treats can be given out at home time (which I think the majority are) so that the parent can make the decision.
I do not see why that parenting choice (out right ban) should be made for those parents that have no issue with a packet of sweets on birthdays.

I see more harm in the junk food toy included companies that advertise everywhere than in a packet of sweets that are given as part of a celebration as appose to the junk food companies that push their wares everyday of the week.

When the junk food is given out at home time your lucky if they make it past the gate before getting most of it in their mouth.

Why should a child whose parents take their child's health seriously have to feel excluded from stuff?

But very often children who have problems with sweets have visible signs -overweight or discoloured teeth for example.

It's not really a very good idea to further alienate them or mark them as different.

Even if parents are there at school end ( and plenty of kids are on transport),kids aren't daft.

It's all just so unecessary for 6 little gummy sweets......

Brt, that is up to individual parents. When my children bring sweets home they are in their book bags and they have them after we have dinner.

Why should a child whose parents take their child's health seriously have to feel excluded from stuff?

I take my childs health very seriously, infact due to his medical conditions i have discussed his diet with numerous pedaitricians in order to ensure it is as healthy as possibly - they all agree it is a very healthy diet. It includes the odd bit of chocolate or cake, no sweets as he doesn't like them but thats his choice.

Yes, it is up to individual parents, and the choice is being taken away.

If people want their children to have sweets, provide them at home.

And FYI the sweets do make it home. And I utilise a word "NO" accordingly

If you don't like it ask the school not to give your child any sweets. Don't try to stop others doing something enjoyable and in the view of most rational parents harmless

Brt dd doesn't eat any sweets, she never has because she doesn't like them. She doesn't like chocolate either. Neither she nor I have a problem with her friends being given and eating sweets for children's birthdays. Maybe it is because it is her choice who knows?
What I do know that of my five dc (who I never stopped having sweets or chocolate or crisps because I think everything in moderation is fine) two don't eat any sweets or chocolate ever, two don't eat any sweets and rarely eat chocolate and one occasionally eats sweets and chocolate (generally Easter and Christmas) although would never buy them themselves. I suspect had they been forbidden the allure would have been far greater

All true but it is your job to parent your child and my job to parent mine. I do not allow my children to have the sweets for fear of alienating them I allow it because I have no problem with it.

There are 2 children with diabetes in my sons (y5) class. They do not get the sweets at the end nor do they get a treat provided for by their parents (I have no idea why). They except it. The other children do not alienate them they just accept A & B can't eat sweets. No drama. No cries of your weird.

If you really want to ban it than ask the parents of your school for a vote and go with the majority ruling. You may find that they agree and it's banned but you may also find that they don't.

Sirzy I wonder what the teacher says to the child who can't have sweets?

'Sorry you can't have any because your Mum says you're fat/ have manky teeth'....

ThatBloodyWoman - its the parents issue so the parents can deal with it. All the teacher needs to say is "because your parents don't want you too"

This reminds me of what happened at dd2 s preschool once. When it is a child's birthday they always bring in sweets or chocolate and the children all eat them pretty much immediately as they are leaving.

Dd2 is diabetic so couldn't eat them straight away and got upset. The next day the pre school manager asked me if I wanted her to send a note out asking for people to stop bringing sweets. I said absolutely not, that dd2 will learn and it won't hurt her to save the sweets for after lunch or dinner when I can give her the right dose of insulin to cover the extra sugar.
Dd had a few more upsets but now will happily take a chocolate and hand it to me for later and all the other children still get to enjoy having a treat and helping to celebrate a friends birthday.

Bloodywoman dd's school know that dd doesn't eat sweets, she is offered them anyway and sometimes she brings me some Haribo. When the class are given chocolate (as they are at Christmas and Easter) by their teacher, her teachers have always given dd pencils, erasers, hair bobbles etc.

It's not the parents 'issue'.
It's the parents legitimate concerns for their childs health.

Wow just wow, maybe something that causes you to have to inject your daughter isn't worth the few seconds of enjoyment on the lips?

Whatever the cause of it it is still the parents issue to deal with. You can't expect the whole school to change what they have done for years simply because you don't like it

Don't be ridiculous. Dd has to have an injection with every meal anyway so adjusting the dose based on the carb content is neither here nor there.

I take it enormously seriously but I understand my child will be out there in the big wide world without me to monitor food so I am more for the teaching of good food, serving it at home, having a balanced diet, and why we want to eat good food.

i dont belive in making a huge fuss about things, this perks interest and creates curiosrty.

My child is now offered far more naughty foods than she actually accepts...

"darling do you want a cookie from the shop" no etc.

Don't feed your non existant child crap daily and then a few sweets on a birthday won't be a problem will it.

You idiot brt100!!!

That is not the reason her daughter requires the insulin shot. Read the damn post. She is giving her the insulin any way has she has to Hedge just changes the dosage to allow for the treat.