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To have phoned the police on our neighbours

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 18:20

They just tried to force their way into our house Sad I can't breath.
This is the same neighbour who was on loudspeaker in the garden to his wife the other day moaning
about our fucking kids winding his dogs up. This is also the same neighbour who has continually taken over length by length our front garden. When today for the first time I asked him not to I got a tirade of abuse from him.

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 20:42

Have just rang the police. I told them that my eldest is out and that he may either walk back home and may come into contact with the neighbours or ask for a lift and we may come into contact with the neighbours.

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Fizbo · 31/05/2014 20:43

I was in a similar situation op some years ago.
The difference was I had bought my place and they were renting so it was easier.Luckily they had 2 kids at the time, with one on the way in a tiny 2 bed, so I knew they would be rehoused sooner rather then later.

Anyway like you I called the police after a verbal altercation, (they crowded around me shouting. 5 adults calling me a fucking bitch, as I had asked them for the hundredth time to not park in my allocated space)

I called the police and when they came I told them I was very concerned for my safety. The police asked me how I wanted to resolve the issue and I said, is it not an offence to swear at someone and crowd around them in a threatening manor? They agreed and went to my neighbours to tell them if they ever spoke to me again in a way I found threatening they would be fined. Every single time! they would also be issued with a ASBO.

They were warned this could effect their employment and could mean they would be unable to rent privately and could loose the right to a future council property. It worked! They never even looked in my direction again. They even scuttled off when I saw them in the supermarket. Thankfully they moved on. I feel sorry for whoever they moved next to.

Don't be fobbed off by the police, you should not be made to feel unsafe in your own house. Good luck!

PacificDogwood · 31/05/2014 20:43

Had you rung 999 or the non-emergency number?

I hope you are holding it together.
Thanks

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 20:45

I've rung 101. Thanks for the advice regarding swearing and threatening behaviour being a criminal offence.

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PacificDogwood · 31/05/2014 20:48

Hopefully you'll get the kind of outcome that Fizbo had.

If you are physically safe then 101 was absolutely appropriate (and I understand better why the police have not turned up yet). If you are frightened for life and limb, then 999 next time.

Pipbin · 31/05/2014 20:53

It's shocking that the police still aren't there.
And as other people have said, it's so wrong that you are being forced to lose money because of them. What is their problem with your garden? Nextdoor on both sides of us have messy gardens but I don't care.

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 20:54

Fizbo no they are owners so I don't think they will be leaving anytime soon Hmm

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Nicknacky · 31/05/2014 20:59

It really isn't that shocking or surprising the police aren't there yet. The op is safe and the incident is no longer ongoing. Unfortunetly the police will be engaged with ongoing serious incidents and all calls are prioritised. Whilst what's happened to the op is obviously bad, it's not an immediate or urgent incident.

Everyone wants the police to attend immediately, but that's impossible. You would need 10 x more officers on duty at one time.

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:01

Pipbin - there problem with our garden is that it makes theirs look bad (in their eyes) he mows and waters it everyday and also cuts the grass with scissors. We have a flower bed which borders their garden and when they first moved in they asked if they could plant a few pansies along the edge. Obviously we agreed to be neighbourly. The border is no longer ours to maintain they completely planted it up and if we attempt to touch it they go mental.
Last year shortly after they moved in the wife gave me a mouthful as some of the neighbourhood kids had apparently road across my lawn and straight over hers.
I never saw this so I said I will plant some small conifers along the boundary so it doesn't happen again.
I fetched the conifers in about a foot to allow for growth. I also placed some decorative stones I between the conifers to make it look nice.
The stones kept moving further into our garden and we kept putting them back. So they put sharp metal rods next to the stones to stop us moving them Blush
I took these out today and left them outside my house - they are gone now.

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Silverdaisy · 31/05/2014 21:06

Sounds horrible, hope all goes well.

Have your kids been winding up his dogs?

Only asking as that may be causing an unreasonable reaction from the neighbour.

Not excusing any escalated behaviour from him..

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:09

Silver - the kids he was referring to are 18 months a 3 years old. The dogs came sniffing twice at the fence whilst I was in the garden with them. The little ones on both occasions said hello doggies.

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Pipbin · 31/05/2014 21:11

So it's fair to say that they are bat shit mental then?

Are you attached to them? Can you make them think they have a poltergeist by clanking things against the wall?

Silverdaisy · 31/05/2014 21:12

Thanks kappadelta. The neighbour had no tolerance. Best wishes.

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:14

Thanks silver I really tried to be a good neighbour. I made sure kids didn't make noise and were aware of boundaries but I don't think anything I could of done could have stopped it happening.

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:15

Pipbin - not attached. The neighbours we are attached to are fantastic.

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Silverdaisy · 31/05/2014 21:17

Having to tip toe around your home is not on. Good luck x

PrimalLass · 31/05/2014 21:20

Can you put a fence on the boundary?

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:21

Primal - no the builders said no fences.

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vitaminz · 31/05/2014 21:23

Maybe the whole issue is that they don't/can't have kids and they are taking it out on you because you have what they want.

maddening · 31/05/2014 21:23

Put a fence up - get a copy of the deeds and maybe find someone who can confiem your boundary legally - if you get an offer a boundary despute is a good thing to have resolved already - maybe get the fence put up while they are out and have a solicitors letter detailing that the boundary has been reinstated and the legalities around it

EllaFitzgerald · 31/05/2014 21:24

You have my utmost sympathy. The lunatic next door to me has had me almost in tears today, but at least she hasn't gone that far. You were absolutely right to call the police.

maddening · 31/05/2014 21:24

Sorry cross post - investigate the no fence rule - you may not be legally obligated to have no fence

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:24

Vitaminz - I thought that. My kids have no grand parents so I would have been more than happy if they were nice neighbours for them to have a friendly relationship with them.

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kappadelta · 31/05/2014 21:25

Ella - are you ok? It's bloody devastating Thanks

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PrimalLass · 31/05/2014 21:26

Nightmare. I don't know why building companies do that. It makes those new build estates look too open for my liking.

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