to expect dsc not to wake our dc up early?

[livvielife]

We have dc aged 7, 6, 4 and 1. My dsc are 6 and 7. At home they're in bed for 7 and up at 5.30/6. Our dc tend to have a later routine, particularly in summer and tend to sleep from 9-7.45 on school days but would happily lie in until 9/10 on weekends. I don't expect dsc to be quiet until 9/10 but I think them waking the dc at 5.30/6 is unfair. If dsc go to bed early we read, do play doh, draw etc so it doesn't wake them. However in the morning they ignore dp asking them to be quiet (though he's quite likely to be saying it half-heartedly as he just puts the tv on for them and tries to go back to sleep on the sofa!) and wake the whole house up, therefore having an effect on the days activities as they're all tired by lunch time.

I've tried setting up quiet activities for them the night before and explaining more sleep = a better following day for all but still they're shouting and screaming by 6. Aibu to think that at 6 and 7 they should be capable of being considerate to everyone?

But your saying your kids won't go to bed earlier as they can't sleep and you think this is ok and are saying the same about the sdc, are tired earlier and get up earlier. It must be very hard for SDC being I a different y home with extra kids and a completely different routine to home. You and OH stay up playing games and having fun with your DC whilst they are in bed but when they get up they have to be quiet whilst OH snoozes on the sofa. I'm sure if your kids went to another home they would find it hard to follow a new routine. You need to treat them all the same and put your dc to bed an hr earlier even when SDC are not there and when they are there put them all to bed at the same time. I find t strange all your dc wake up the same time and both sdc wake up the same time. In my house 3 dc wake up completely different times. Stagger the bedtimes and put the youngest down first then 30 mins later for the older ones. My 3 don't go to sleep the same time. The 5 yr old goes to bed earlier than the 12 and 10 yr old. They go 8pm, 9pm then 12 yr old goes anywhere up to lights off at 10.30. Maybe one of the SDC are waking up earlier and that wakes the other one up. Put them in different rooms.

Fairenuff, I agree. Sounds like op is unwilling to change their kids routine, dp won't amuse the kids on a morning so there's not a lot you can do about it. Why do the kids have to get up at 5.30 at home, seems very early unless they need to be at childminder as DMs away to work.

Elbow to DH ribs at first DSC squeak. "Your DC need seeing to DH, take em downstairs quietly till the others wake up eh?"

Every. Time.

I pity you love, DS and I had this with a guy I went out with for a year and his ds. His ds woke up all through the night, wee-ed the bed, shouted for his dad from my ds room waking the whole house up, the morning wakings disturbed everyone. Far from the 'no fuss, back to bed from his dad, He got attention and fed on it. It got worse.

My ds ended up getting sick through sheer exhaustion in the end, and the weekends were torture, so I ended up putting a stop to sleepovers.

You don't have that option I know, but you do have the right to boot your DH arse to get him to sort this out, independently of the DSC mother. This is your home, your life and your family too.

You have every right to read the riot act to the dc and to your dh.