AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

What was the "friend" like in other ways OP?

I use reusable san pro & am not sharing it .

There is a pack of 14p smart price towels in the main first aid kit though, but that means guests would have to ask - horribly embarrassing I would imagine for all concerned.

It had never occurred to me that I ought to provide stuff for guest emergencies. I'll pop another mega cheapo pack in the downstairs loo under the sink in the new house now you've pointed it out. I'm not providing tampons though as everyone has such different brand & size preferences, and I presume this is only meant for tween/teen/change of life type emergencies?

If she didn't ask at the time, but is now complaining, I think I'd agree about the gentle move to the outer circle. She sounds like a bit of an energy drain.

Why say anything to you? What can you do now.

YANBU

I like the idea that it was the lack of guest tampons that caused embarrassment, not a mum who texts another adult about you using loo roll in your pants!

I'd be happy to give tampons (if I used them) to a guest if they ask (or ask their mum to ask), but I'm not that in tune with all women to be able to guess when they require them!

I would never expect anyone to have guest sanpro for me! I always keep a spare pad (can't use tampons) in my handbag anyway if I start unexpectedly.

I get annoyed if there's no bathroom bin though.

Absolutely not- YANBU, your "friend" is. She may have her own ideas of what a host should provide but as all these comments should assure you, she is on her own in this. I would hope my teenage daughter would

A) Leave the house prepared when she is expecting/on her period. I managed to do this as a teenager.

B) Have the gumption to ask you directly if you have any spare period items. Or, if she is too shy to do that

C) Ask her mum while they are still at your home, so her mum can ask you.

For heaven's sake.

I've been to events where there are baskets with tampax/sanitary towels, tissues, hand cream etc in the ladies loo - I copied the idea for my wedding (marquee in the back garden). But to have specific sanpro for guests is not normal.

The woman is a loon and has no manners!

FidelineandFumblin - what form does your guest supply take? Tasteful selection basket(i did see this once in a B&B)?

YANBU.

Friend is bonkers. The only things I'd expect to be provided for a guest in a bathroom would be toilet paper, soap and a hand towel.

It's normal to take your own sanitory protection along with you.

I've never heard of this and certainly wouldn't expect it. I just picture it in my head as having a Tampax on your pillow along with a complimentary guest chocolate and swan made out of a towel very rude though to just text and expect an apology for something that is just odd.

Never heard of this.

My mum keeps some supplies in the house in case me or my sis or sil need any when we visit but they aren't left out in the bathroom.

how ridiculous! Are you supposed to have a mixed assortment arranged in a little basket on the side?

Either she should have her own with her just in case or it's standard to shove a folded tissue under, until you get home.

Even if in some parrarel universe 'guest tampons' are a thing, you wouldn't text about it.

Wow, I think this is the first unanimous YANBU I've ever seen .

YANBU. Your "friend" is being incredibly weird, and rude.

I'm wondering (probably a step too far, I know) if the loo roll shifted on the way home, and the poor girl ended up ruining her knickers; her mum is vaguely aware that it would be inappropriate may be shout at her daughter for this, so instead is taking out her frustration on you by acting as mad as a box of non-nationality specific amphibians

Loon

They were only here for about 2 1/2 hours, not a weekend or anything

1. she was not spending the night and was expecting 'guest tampons' (still can't get over that one.)
2. her mum was there too and she did not ask her ("mum any spare in your handbag?") or ask her mum to ask you if too shy. Fideline maybe it depends on where you live?

Oh god I just choked on my coffee guest tampons HA!

YANBU. Your "friend" is being incredibly weird, and rude.

I'm wondering (probably a step too far, I know) if the loo roll shifted on the way home, and the poor girl ended up ruining her knickers; her mum is vaguely aware that it would be inappropriate may be shout at her daughter for this, so instead is taking out her frustration on you by acting as mad as a box of non-nationality specific amphibians

"'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'"
I'd be inclined to text back - 'I think you'll find you've caused her the embarrassment by drawing my attention to her period.'

And drop her like a hot stone. There's bound to be more coming from her in the future. Or - keep her as a friend and amuse the rest of us with her latest!

Chippy

Small cupboard above loo . We use just about everything imaginable in this house anyway.

Ah the old emergency loo roll trick, we've all been there. It's a rite of passage. Guest tampons indeed (although I might put together a little box in my bathroom with "guest tampons" written on and lots of folded up toilet roll now, just for the lols).

Please text back with

Blaming others for your own mistakes takes a lack of responsibility to a whole new level. Well done

But fideline, guest would still have to ask surely unless your cupboard is clearly labelled for guest use?

That is barking.

Please reply 'goodness, I use a mooncup, didn't know anyone didn't these days!'

(I don't use mooncups, as I'm sure you needed to know, but I'd love to rub someone this rude up against eco snobbery.)