AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

[EasyCube]

Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

Ps mooncups really are amazingly easy in comparison to tampons. Shameless plug I know.

All young girls should be taught to carry a spare san pro in their pocket/bag at all times from their very first period. It then becomes a habit.

Tampons are not acceptable to all cultures for teen use because of the perceived implications around purity and lack of "virginity", a lot of parents also worry about toxic shock syndrome risks.

I really wouldn't be happy at a guest rummaging through the bathroom cabinet without first checking it was OK & having a right old secret nosey and wouldn't be too keen to have her back. I'm a bit "funny" about personal privacy and tbh tampons deffo come into that category. Will she be complaining about the lack of pile ointment on her next visit?

Having thought about this again, I've decided my 14p smart price pack of external protection in the main first aid kit is perfectly acceptable for guest emergencies. I think she's humiliated her daughter by sending you a text like that, and needs a swift lesson in teen tact - poor kid!

Ditch this 'friend' NOW!

I'll bet you've not got a lady dispensing hands towels and Chupa Chups in there either.

Tut tut.

Xi Anything in the guest loo cupboard is there for anyone to use as far as i'm concerned. I'd be really if someone used the guest loo, emerged asked permission to use a tampon (or loo roll or hand cream or sun cream....) and then disappeared back in there.

Equally a downstairs loo is just as under-equipped if it's missing tampons as it would be if it was missing soap or toilet paper.

I'm trying to decide if I'd feel differently if i was a single man or 60 year old female...

But then I'm NOT. I'm a nearly-40 female with teenaged DDs, every visiting us knows that and a lot of them are menstruating women/teenagers... I hadn't thought about it much until this thread

YANBU - guest sanpro is not a thing! You have to carry your own if your periods aren't regular enough to predict when you need it.

How odd that she didn't feel she could ask when she was there, but that she thought it was okay to text about it afterwards. And surely the embarrassment is in her telling you about the loo roll, not having some loo roll in her pants that no one else knew about. Bonkers, completely bonkers.

Yes I provide these as well as a little bowl of condoms and some lube in the guest room. NOT.

Fideline - ah, I see what you mean. If it's definitely a guest loo? Then yes, I'd be happy to dig around.

Exactly Corus.

I would reply by text "You are very peculiar and rude. Goodbye"

Utterly bizarre. Have never heard anything like it.

Thanks everyone

I'm thinking of sending this text

'Sorry to hear that, easily fixed if you or xxx just asked. As you know I'm the only female in the household so the vending machine I have arranged to be installed in the bathroom will only contain condoms. Just a heads up for next month'

Of course I won't send that but I'm itching too!

Ridiculous and incredibly rude! There are plenty of tampons in my bathroom but anyone unfamiliar with the cupboard layout absolute chaos would have a hard time finding them.

I think I'm doing well if there's soap, loo roll and a clean hand towel

W T F ?!!!!
I've heard it all now!

X post, OP you should definitely send that text!!!

Erm yanbu. I don't have guest tampons. I have tampons which guests are welcome to, but they are just..tampons.

Easy cube do it

I have guest-everything! Sanpro, toothbrushes, flannels... But I do have a lot of guests over, many of whom have learning difficulties, and are uncomfortable asking.

Gosh what a great time to find out nice and early on in a friendship that she's mad as a titfull of frogs so you can get rid before you become good friends.

One less arse to be friendly to. It's a gift.

Our downstairs loo doesn't have a cupboard. I keep a basket of general supplies on the windowsill in there - spare loo roll, spare soap, packet of tampax or towels, nappy bags etc. I don't mind at all if visitors take a tampax if they're caught short but they're definitely not special "guest tampax".

More importantly, I have a bin in there.

Your new friend is probably going to be hard work.

Thanks EasyCube - just snorted into my coffee!

I don't have periods any more, my daughter has moved out, so I don't keep sanitary products in the house. Our house is only full of men at the mo, DP and son&friends. Sometimes one of the girlfriends comes in too, but I would fully expect them to bring their own bits and bobs with them.

Now I'm thinking I should put tampons on my next shopping list, place them decoratively in a basket, surrounded by candles, clearly labelled "GUEST TAMPONS". This, I am most certain, will cause great hilarity.

Your new friend is clearly as mad as a box of frogs (and very rude). Why on earth did she not ask you?

And just read CorusKate's post - now I've really got a fit of the giggles

FidelineandFumblin Blimey. Just me then and nearly everyone I know

Are you the person who visited with me on Sunday? You are so far the only one saying guest sanitary protection is the norm.

I'm going to be so embarrassed if this is the case [embarrassed]

You clearly need to employ someone to stand by the sink in your loo with a selection of sanpro, cheap parfum , lollipops and a basket for their tips.

That or tell her; "Her fanjo, her problem".

Urm up thread somebody said something about menstrual candles care to explain