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AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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EasyCube · 29/05/2014 18:16

Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

OP posts:

Idontseeanyicegiants · 30/05/2014 08:35

Have to say that in my teens I was utterly paranoid about my periods and never went anywhere without a stash of them somewhere with me. I wasn't regular for some years though so I could have got caught out at anytime. The daughter hopefully wouldn't know that her mum has been discussing the incident with anybody so wouldn't be embarrassed.
I use washables for the most part and DD1 isn't old enough to need anything yet so I don't have any spares at all here. I don't have a guest bathroom either, we have in loo for everybody to use and it doesn't have a cupboard in, it's too small! (Separate loo, cupboard is on the bathroom)
Wrt 'hiding' sanpro, when I used disposable towels I did actually hide them for a while because of DS's tendency to unwrap them and stick the buggers to the wall when he was young, now they tend to be kept in my drawer for practical reasons.

NearTheWindymill · 30/05/2014 08:36

I'm sure a Tena Lady would suffice in an emergency

Bluetubchairs · 30/05/2014 08:38

Yanbu!!!
What a nutter.

If you haven't replied yet how about:

A. We keep the guest tampons in the cabinet right next to the guest condoms. Strange your dd missed them.

B. we only use moon cups in this house. They are kept in x cupboard. Help yourself.

Disengage.

DesertRose1958 · 30/05/2014 08:51

Ragwort

Another one for you. Do you remember when we'd have to ask our friends - am I walking funny

And for the younger people here - no, it wasn't our high heelers causing the problem.

murphys · 30/05/2014 08:51

Did her butler forget to pack her dd's tampons then?

Most ridiculous thing I have ever read.

And c'mon, who hasn't gone somewhere with a wad of loo roll as a substitute being caught off guard when you started unexpectedly. Its hardly the end of the world.

How old is the dd btw? She might be an older teen if she is using tampons and not towels, so not a newbie to having periods then....

Does she think you live in a fecking 5 star hotel OP? She sounds rather entitled to me...

careeristbitchnigel · 30/05/2014 08:53

We have a basket in the downstairs loo which has flannels, handcream, tampons and some liners in it. Simply because i am too lazy to go upstairs if i need to change.

Would not expect anyone to provide them for me, how odd !

murphys · 30/05/2014 08:55

Have you been to their house OP? I bet you are itching to go there to see their guest bathroom stash now .

LightastheBreeze · 30/05/2014 09:03

Desert and Ragwort

I vaguely remember that you could buy some strange plastic period pants with some clips in to hold the pad, in the 70's I think it was. I did have one

Certainly remember the Dr Whites and belt thing, my mum gave me that when I was about 13 and the horrible incinerators.

Revengeofthechocolatebunny · 30/05/2014 09:11

Certainly remember the Dr Whites and belt thing, my mum gave me that when I was about 13 and the horrible incinerators

My mother gave me the Dr Whites & belt when I started and I just looked at her and said, no. Possibly the start of my teenage rebellion!

I remember reading a Judy Blume book, where a girl used a face flannel in her knickers until she could get to the shops to stock up and it put me off ever, ever using a face flannel ever again.

MrsKoala · 30/05/2014 09:32

Comfort items? That's a new euphemism on me

I used to work with a Californian lady about 10yrs ago and once she came in for a meeting, she said she needed to use 'comfort facilities' Honestly none of us knew what she was talking about. I seriously thought she meant could we get her a pillow or something. She was getting flustered and saying 'well where do you all go for your comfort breaks?'. We all thought she meant the canteen or rec room. Eventually she was forced to say disgustedly 'i need the TOILET'. Later some people were popping out for a fag and someone asked her if she smoked and she looked blankly back and said 'im from California' I'll take that as a no then!

Anyway i digress. This thread has made me hanker for my pre toddler days, when i could keep anything in the bathroom, let alone sanpro (which is particular favourite thing at the moment. He goes into my knicker drawer, takes out the tampax, shreds the paper and card then lines up the tampons on the window sil for the whole street to see, like a row of tadpoles). We have no bin, no loo brush (not that we would anyway - but the owners left one here which he got his hands on and had to be removed), no sanpro, shaving stuff, shampoo etc. We keep toothbrushes and toothpaste and loo rolls in there, but they regularly get flushed down the toilet and squirted everywhere. There are no shelves and we aren't allowed to put any up, or even put a hook on the back of the door. We are moving in a few months and i can't wait. First thing i'm going to do is put up a lovely big HIGH cabinet.

SoulJacker · 30/05/2014 09:43

Desertrose - I thought I'd stayed in some nice hotels but none had guest tampons so I guess I was misled.

BerylStreep · 30/05/2014 10:01

OP come back and tell us if you replied!

BerylStreep · 30/05/2014 10:03

I provide guest nappies.

How posh is that?

tallulah · 30/05/2014 10:11

Can I just ask what you all carry tampax in? I keep some in my bag and coat pocket just in case, but they always end up losing their wrappers.

When I was young, back in the olden days, you could get a plastic tube with a flippy lid to carry them in, but I haven't seen one for many years.

Fed up with having a bag full of wrappers!

OwlCapone · 30/05/2014 10:28

I use what I think is a make up brush bag. Really like a pencil case actually so I guess one of those would work too.

OwlCapone · 30/05/2014 10:29

First thing i'm going to do is put up a lovely big HIGH cabinet

With a lock. :)

VenusDeWillendorf · 30/05/2014 10:33

I got one of these teen starter packs from lil-lets recently - on a special in boots.
It's in the 'comfort' basket as well.

Also handy for your bag.

I carry a lot of stuff like plasters, condoms, baby wipes, sudocreme, sanpro, vaseline, sunblock, arnica spray, anti histamines, tiny bottle of water, oat cakes, anti bac gel, nail clipper, bottle opener, straw, tissues, ventolin, colouring pencils and a tiny pad of paper, a hat.. Everything anyone's ever asked me for actually!! Just handy in case some child cracks open their knees in the playground, needs a quick snack, or someone fancies a wild shag up a mountain, and is bitten by midges!

I used to be a GirlGuide, but I'm ok now

BerylStreep · 30/05/2014 10:40

Venus I can't tell if you are being dead-pan or not.

NatashaGurdin · 30/05/2014 10:41

ViviPru
How long has 'sanpro' been a broadly used term outside of supermarket merch departments? confused

I can't remember when 'sanpro' became a popular shorthand, those of us who use washable pads etc might refer to them as 'RUMPs' which is ReUsuable Menstrual Products.

Previous posters have referred to having guest mooncups etc but what about having disposable menstrual cups available? You know, to spread the word?

(On a (slightly) more serious note, they seem to me to be a bit of a contradiction in terms but presumably are useful for introducing the idea of menstrual cups)

OwlCapone · 30/05/2014 11:45

Venus no sewing kit?? :o

DesertRose1958 · 30/05/2014 11:47

Souljacker - tampons and pads for ladies and condoms for the men but the latter are often placed in a weird place like in amongst the sweeties and nuts alongside the minibar.

The last place I stayed however had them in a drawer in the walk in closet alongside the shoe cleaning items.

Hmmm. I'm now worried about the hotels I stay in. Maybe they are something else entirely. Now there's a thought.

PiratePanda · 30/05/2014 11:49

Speaking of which, did you know that aeroplanes carry emergency sanitary pads in the loos? I discovered this last time I flew and was caught short :-D

VenusDeWillendorf · 30/05/2014 12:02

Yes Owl, but that goes without saying! I have a little hotel one tucked in to the tiny pocket of my bag! I don't put it in with the other things as the needles are sharp....

Sorry beryl I'm one of those weirdos who everyone comes to and asks me for something.
In my defence I used to work in the middle of nowhere, for weeks and weeks on end, and often in dangerous environments as well, and I also been known to carry wound dressings, tourniquets and anti venom.

Granted, these wouldn't be part of the comfort basket in the bathrooms: they're in the first aid kit :)

Be prepared!

Cerisier · 30/05/2014 12:06

Venus no shoe shine kit? Very remiss .

OwlCapone · 30/05/2014 12:06

Anti venom seems rather OTT for a suburban school run :o

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