AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

And they don't have to ask me, they can get a pad off DD till they get their tampax from home if that's what they use

Why didn't her mother have any?

It's a bin. I mean, surely it is there specifically for this type of rubbish? Why should I carry around a blood-soaked pad, when there is a bin right there by tge toilet?

I, personally, would never want my guests to feel like they have to cart their used pads around the town, because they are simply too filthy and disgusting for my sacred bin. Menstruation is normal, and there is nothing so disgusting about a used towel carefully wrapped, that it could not go in a bin in the toilet.

A pooey nappy (especially if not wrapped) would be more "yuck", but still wouldn't get all pearl clutchy about it. It's fine, really, as it is, in fact, a bin. For rubbish.

You know I've just had a think about the items I have in the loo, and I provide three types of bog roll as well, including moist loo roll, for those who have piles, and prefer it.

I also provide two types of hand soap, including liquid hand wash for those who have excema, two types of hand creme, and I provide clean face cloths in another basket, in case anyone wants to freshen up.

Clean towels are also available if anyone wants a shower, and I have shampoos, conditioners, new combs and three types of deodorant available (not everyone likes aluminium containing ones)

I've also been known to wash and dry clothes of guests when they come over for a cup of tea, and got drenched in the rain on the way. We have a guest bathrobe on the back of the door for them to wear (washed after every use).

I like to make people feel at home, when they come over for a cuppa, and provide what I'd like to see myself in other people's bathrooms whenever I visit them.

Being a good host is important to me, and I love a carefree guest who feels they can be themselves without having to hold it all in until they leave!

People are always staying in our spare room I have a different bag of things if someone's staying the night, including colour coordinated towels, a teddybear, a torch, ear plugs and a book!

Just last week she had a letter about swimming after half term so I will be topping her draw up with pearls and taking to her about them again although when we discussed using tampax when she started her period she asked me to buy her pads. She knows I have a variety of tampax in my draw she can take (about 10 boxes) but I can't say I have noticed her using them so I guess she's uncomfortable with them IDK. I would be worried about giving her 11 and 12 yr old friends tampons incase they haven't used them before.

Venus: if we had a bigger bathroom or even 2 (or more) and a spare room for guests to stay in, I think I woukd be more like you.. Right now there isn't much room for displaying things. My SIL has a huge basket of Hotel toiletries for guests in the guest bathroom. Mind you, they're just from fancy ones like Malmaison and the Missoni..

Also, can I come for a visit? You spund like a fab host.

Ha ha CorusKate!

Actually I did look at Anthea's you tube video about folding fitted sheets, but draw the line at her towel folding technique- they come out too squashy.

I think some 11 yr olds are still quite young and I know most of their friends DMS well anyway, some were quite shocked at DD starting at 11 and a couple said they didn't know if they would use tampons so the safe bet for me is to have pads at the ready for her friends if thy need them. It's up to their DMS to discuss what they want to use with their dds

"Spund" ffs.

Aahhh.. I hate being this ill. It should be illegal

Yes, do come for a cuppa Toys, the door's always open!
I might even bake that 3 minute cake :)

And I'm guessing in a few months the pads will stop being used in favour of tampax anyway so if her friends need them they will have the choice of either

Wow! Maybe in a week's time when I am less plague ridden? I might be on my period, though, so better hope I don't use your bin..

Wow, seriously, though, Venus, I bet your friends love all your little touches of hospitability and, probably, then feel horribly inadequate in comparison :)

Very rude of the new friend to say what she did but not ridiculous for the woman to assume there might have been a basket of various items available for a guest to use should the need arise. It doesn't need to be sitting underneath a sign saying 'these goodies are for a guest to use' because people can usually suss a discrete basket of comfort items out for themselves.

I love doing this and coming up with new things to add to the baskets, and people seem to enjoy using them given how much they are used. (blush) (grin)

Guest? No. I only have one bathroom.

Even if you did, after a 2.5 hour visit her text was crazy rude. YOU didn't embarass her at all, her mother did. #1 for not teaching her to carry spares, #2 for not carrying spares for her daughter and #3 TELLING you!! I'd be mortified if my mum had to do that.

I will admit I have coffee (well Keurig k-cups) in the house even though I don't drink it... and i love the stuff venus talked about above (I might do it myself if I had a spare bathroom) but the audacity of sending that text... wow.

I'd reply: "She should have asked. Poor thing. What are the odds you and she would both have run out of your personal supply at the same time?!"

ILoveCoreyHaim-- I have 4 DDs ranging in age from 12 to 24, and then there's me, 49. In addition there are the friends aged 12 to 14ish and friends of mine, all guaranteed to use the bathroom time to time. The DDs use both tampons and pads afaik though I haven't asked any of them. I personally prefer tampons. I buy variety packs - reg, super, super plus and pads in all sorts of shapes and sizes because some like wings and some don't, some have heavier periods than others. They all eventually run out and I buy more. I would imagine a guest would find my sanprocopia had just about anything she wanted.

exMIL for all her faults always had a box of reg or super tampons in all seven of the bathrooms in her home. Never toothpaste though, so we had to remember to pack toothpaste when we went for Christmas.

(One of my DDs started at 11, and one at 16, quite a wide range.)

If someone is staying the night, you could put them on their pillow, alongside the chocolate and clean towels.

^^ Has that been said, already? 17 pages and no way was I going to RTFT.

45, and I'm still caught short sometimes. Many a time I've been forced to improvise with toilet paper. Part of life, innit?

aged 12 to 14ish = 12 to 24ish

"sanprocopia". Now there's an etsy store name if I ever heard one.

I don't provide sanpro, because I don't use it (mooncup), and also because our downstairs loo is a tiny outdoor room with absolutely nothing in it at all (old Australian house, the loo is outside the back door) but fideline I really like your approach, and when my DDs get a bit older, I'll make sure that there's a supply of things easily accessible. I hadn't thought about it yet, but I'm glad you brought it up.