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AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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EasyCube · 29/05/2014 18:16

Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Confused

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest Sad

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

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gorionine · 29/05/2014 21:17

Then the woman is even more silly to say "DD couldn't find the guest tampons" she should have just said "DD could not find any tampon/sanitary towels/san pro"
Maybe I am just petty[worried]

Botanicbaby · 29/05/2014 21:17

whether she meant visible or in a dinky little basket marked 'guest use', she was completely wrong and bad mannered to send that awful text.

Someone capable of sending that over a trivial visit (didn't realise it was so short) and who doesn't seem to think she could be teaching her daughter to be confident about it and ask if she was caught short. We have all been there.

ToysRLuv · 29/05/2014 21:18

Goodasitgets:I wouldn't mind in the slightest either. If people help themselves, I need to worry less about topping up their glasses and making sure they leave happy.. I've nothing to hide in my fridge, neither do I really meal plan, so stuff isn't reserved for specific occasions. I'm a very laid back, accommodating and informal person.

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 29/05/2014 21:20

No you're not gorionine. Crazy woman! (the texter, not you, obvs!)

I wouldn't keep "sanpro" out for guests either but would have no issues if a visitor got caught short and asked me for some.

God, I've been caught short at friends' before and asked them, and sometimes they've not had any as they've run out, or they were on the coil or some such - it would never have occurred to me to berate them to not have some in stock just on the off chance I might need it.

CaptainTripps · 29/05/2014 21:22

I honestly just...I dunno...I am just not buying OP's story! Is it just me? It lacks credibility. I can't ever imagine anyone texting such a thing.

BoomBoomsCousin · 29/05/2014 21:23

I make sure there is sanpro available. I don't think of it as "guest" sanpro, it's just that it's there for anyone to use much as the toilet roll is. I don't think this is a given though - I wouldn't necessarily expect to find any if I visited a house, but would be relieved not to have use toilet paper if I was caught short. "Friend's" text was V. rude, and much more embarrassing for her daughter than using a bit of toilet paper.

Littleen · 29/05/2014 21:24

lol that's crazy! BYOT ?? bring your own tampons or woman up and ask for some :P

ToysRLuv · 29/05/2014 21:24

Captain: I think it just about believable, but that's because I have met a few "interesting" people in my life. I suppose it's possible that she could have mh issues?

NearTheWindymill · 29/05/2014 21:28

I hope someone else has said this. Why on earth didn't the girl tell her mum at the time so her mum could ask you to help out.

Guest tampons Grin. I do keep sanitary towels in the downstairs and first floor bogs though so that dd doesn't get caught out and if they were to open the cupboard they would find them. I am a bit neurotic of always having lots in because my mum wouldn't have thought about it and I did run out occasionally and get caught by surprise. When that happened though - bog roll sufficed until I got to the shop.

NearTheWindymill · 29/05/2014 21:31

Actually that's just reminded me - I did get caught out at a friend's when I was about 14. Her mum gave me a super plus lillet - I didn't even dare to try and used bog roll instead. Think I hid it in my pocket, smiled sweetly and said thank you very much.

Pipbin · 29/05/2014 21:31

I thought that too Captain

Itsfab · 29/05/2014 21:34

Only read the OP but OMG what a pompous friend you have there and what a delicate daughter she has that she couldn't ask her mother to help her out with either nipping to the shop or asking you for supplies.

I don't have "guest sanitary wear" but would always give some to anyone who needed them. I am just not having them in the other toilets when I have young children. I keep SP in the en suite which is used by me only.

redexpat · 29/05/2014 21:38

Can someone please explain to me why periods are something to be ashamed of? I have truly NEVER understood it. It's not embarrassing, it's natural.

RPopz · 29/05/2014 21:43

WTAF. I would think the daughter is more embarassed at her mother describing the contents of her knickers to a relative stranger!!

Guest tampons are definitely not a thing! Why wouldn't she have her own with her?! And improvising with loo roll for half an hour or so isn't exactly the end of the world is it. I've had to do it many a time when my period has caught me by surprise!

YADNBU.

Mim78 · 29/05/2014 21:43

Never heard of such a thing. Very rude of her. Guest tampons indeed.

I do probably have packets of sanitary towels accessible but that is not deliberate!

CorusKate · 29/05/2014 21:45

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MrsKoala · 29/05/2014 21:46

What the fucking fuck! Seriously unpleasant text. ' the guest tampons' is like saying this is so normal that you are lacking in something very basic about hospitality and hygiene. ' YOU have embarrassed xx' is accusing you of doing something horrible to her dd by your negligence.

The awful thing is her DD appears to think this is a thing worth mentioning too.

The amount of times i have had to wodge tissue up my jack and danny because i have been caught out is not even funny (probably about twice a month for the last 20 years Blush ). Why would i expect anyone else to provide sanpro for me? Confused

The other thing i find odd about this thread - which is not the point of it i know - is how many people say the DD/they would be embarrassed if someone texted they were on their periods/leaked on their pants. As a teen i was never embarrassed and neither were any of my peers. Why would anyone be remotely embarrassed by something which is normal and happens monthly forever and ever ? Anyway - that's just an aside which i am now pondering.

Nanasueathome · 29/05/2014 21:47

Oh dear
I have had my weekly shopping delivered today and forgot the guest tampons
Will now have to place another order to get them delivered ASAP
As a matter of interest, nothing comes up on the website when I key in 'guest tampons' so maybe I'm looking in the wrong section/aisle

OnaPromise · 29/05/2014 21:48

You don't think she was trying to make some sort of joke do you? Or sort of a Hmm at her dd? And it has come over unintentionally weird on the text.

Very odd indeed. How do you find her otherwise OP if you are still around?

ouryve · 29/05/2014 21:49

Friend's DD needs to learn to carry supplies in a bag with her at all times, if she's not yet sure of her cycle.

How bloody ridiculous.

ToysRLuv · 29/05/2014 21:54

I don't really know why I found it embarrassing as a teen. I knew that, rationally, it was a normal thing, but still. Like you would be embarrassed if you had left a pooey smell in someone's (not a close friend or relative) toilet, or whatever.. Normal, but a bit "yuck".

Also, I never wanted to be any trouble (if with people I harly knew), so wouldn't ask for anything really. Not a glass of water - nothing. So, I would hardly ask for sanpro.

DillydollyRIP · 29/05/2014 21:54

I've never heard of guest tampons Shock
Your friend is very rude.

WorraLiberty · 29/05/2014 21:59

I might buy some guest mooncups

"Please rinse and return" Grin

deakymom · 29/05/2014 22:00

i leave everything on display i assume if its needed it will be used a friend asked once if she could use them i told her help herself it surprises some people but i leave them out there its not like they will be stolen for resale they will be used by people who need them!

your friend was rude to text you like that though x

stardusty5 · 29/05/2014 22:02

Oh yeah onapromise! If you read that text with a 'lol' or 'teenagers for you!' at the end, then it could be a deadpan joke. Have we all overreacted?!