AIBU to not have 'guest' sanitary protection in bathroom?

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Long story short, a relatively new friend and teenage daughter visited I later received a text

'Thank you for having us, unfortunately you have caused xxx embarrassment as she could not find the guest tampons and had to come home with toilet paper in her underwear'

Is this a thing? I have never once thought before that I should have pads/tampons in the bathroom, easily accessed by guests

My mum was great and I loved her a lot but we never talked about periods (I bought my own stuff from pocket money/paper round money) and now I'm wondering if this is just another thing I was never told about and feel a bit stupid to be honest

Does everyone else have things available in the bathroom for guests? I'm thinking about other bathrooms I've been in and can't say I've noticed this before?

If the daughter doesn't normally carry an emergency supply around with her, how on earth does she manage at places like schools, cinemas, restaurants etc? You can't rely on every place having a machine in the Ladies, or indeed on having the right change for it. And I can't believe that if she visits friends' houses they all have guest sanpro on offer.

I actually DO have a basket of towels and tampons in the upstairs bathroom - however, non overnight guests would use the downstairs loo and therefore, no basket 'o'sanpro

Haven't read the whole thread but hasn't she embarrassed her dd even more by sending the text?? Now everyone knows about the toilet paper in her knickers including the whole of MN!

Teenage girls forget things and have erratic cycles like we all do sometimes Ici but they often have less confidence and less cash.

In the see through drawers I have there are medium flow tampons and sanitary towels along with shower gel, baby wipes, shampoo and spare loo rolls. I wouldn't bat an eyelid if anyone took anything out of it.

I do think people should carry their own but we've all been caught short. And those people who are saying use toilet roll can't have had heavy periods like I used to have. Wouldn't have lasted 10 minutes!

Did the OP say how old the DD was? I was barely 11 when my periods started and pads were big hulking things you couldn't easily stuff into your pockets and I hadn't acquired a handbag yet, so was caught out a couple of times. It took me a while to get used to the idea that I was now required to carry protection with me, as I was still in a bit if a shock/denial about the whole business.

Your friend is ridiculous. I mean, seriously??

Why would you not just ask for a tampon if you needed one, or get the mum to ask.

I wouldn't invite them round, again.

I don't use sanpro as I had a hysterectomy. So there is none in this house. Don't tell me I'm supposed to go out, buy a cabinet for my downstairs loo and stock it with a selection of tampons, towels and moon ups just in case some one needs one?
I'm 51. I've had my own place sine I was 20 and no guest has ever asked for sanpro. So I'm going to guess most women are prepared and continue not bothering to stock up.
A loo needs toilet paper, loo cleaner, soap and towels. It doesn't need tampons that are going to lie around for 31 years cluttering up the place!

Charlie: Any time I've had to use toilet paper it needs to be a wad half a roll big to last 10 mins, hence the elaborate contraption I made at riding camp.

That woman was very rude. No such thing as 'guest sanpro' but I keep my tampons and pads in the bathroom so if someone was looking they would find them. Wouldn't have an issue with someone using a tampon or pad. Surprised people keep them anywhere else, surely the loo is the most sensible place for them to me?

I don't imagine they have 'guest tampons' in the school toilets!

Plenty of teenage girls to ask if you get caught short at school.

I dropped my last pad down the loo by mistake once when I was 12 at a friends house and had to improvise and go home early. Do some of you not remember being shy teens getting the hang of this stuff?

Ok I'll be the voice of dissent. I provide guest san pro and disposal bags, shower stuff, spare toothpaste/toothbrushes and even guest contraception. We have a lot of guests and have a guest bathroom. I do think its good manners to provide san pro for emergencies. I have had to rummage in a few bathrooms, hence why I provide.

However, she is rude to text you!

Also I have a very erratic cycle and I don't know when I'm due a lot of the time! Maybe that's why I'm keen to provide it?

I also work with teenagers and a lot of them have been caught unawares. I am regularly asked for pads because they are caught unawares so I don't think it's abnormal.

But are these visitors staying in the house or just visiting for a cup of tea? I'd be a little surprised to be offered a free condom if I fell into the latter category.

I can understand the shyness, I do not think it is an issue with anyone, as you said, we have all been there and I imagine it did happen to most of us to get caught short and improvise a toilet paper pad. It is the mother that is unbelievable for actually telling to the OP she has embarrassed her daughter by not providing guest tampon.

C'mon, OP, you have to reply to this text! You can't leave us hanging like this.

Mad. Although I do have stuff for guests because I use a mooncup now and have tampons etc left over
I'm happy for people to rummage in the cupboard to find anything. Generally my friends help themselves (that includes "I'm starving" and rooting in the fridge)
I don't get why you wouldn't ask though if you needed something

Is your friend... foreign, OP? Could there be different cultural norms on this issue where she comes from? the moon

I would not reply to this text. I have a gob on me like the Mersey Tunnel but this is just too weird. Less said the better and drop 'friend' like a stone from a great height.

It's all in a cabinet! I don't ask if they want condoms I just emphasis that that is the guest cabinet and everything is for guests. It's used by anyone that comes round really. It surely can't be that abnormal?

Also, she might not yet at a "hand bag carrying age", but she could have some provisions in her school bag and any bags taken to hobbies, etc. Hence only forgetting on a random visit.

Guest tampons? What the fuck? Instead of assuming people will provide shit (that you should provide yourself), maybe she should ask her daughter to carry around her OWN emergency stash of period stuff? Ridiculous.

Genuine question - how do you know when you're in a house where it's OK to root around for something you need/fancy? And how do you know what the limits are? It's clear from this thread that we all have pretty different ideas about what's acceptable in this area. I would be pretty pissed off if a visitor to my house rooted about in my fridge, for example.

It surely can't be that abnormal?

Apparently we're complete freaks ToAvoid