To say no thank you to my lovely bridezilla friend?

[Tiggywinklespinny]

Someone has stolen my best friends sanity.

Best friend gets married in 18 months. Dress bought, venue booked. All good.

She has asked me and another good friend to be maid/matron of honour. However, we aren't partaking in the aisle walk, in front or behind. So no bridesmaid dresses required. We are only planning her hen party sans veil, L plates and condoms

This is the best bit, she has told myself and other friend that although we aren't wearing a dress of her choosing we must wear the same colour.

I have a very good sense of humour so thought she must be winding us up. However, no. She's serious.

AIBU to say something?

Is it really worth jeopardizing a friendship over the colour of a dress?

When my best friend asked me to be her bridesmaid, one of the first things I said was 'Yesyesyesyes, oh my God, I'll wear a liquorice allsort costume if it means I can be there with you'. Fortunately she just told me and the other bridesmaids to wear black!

The OP has said she will never fall out with her friend. She's just venting a bit.

And actually I think it's the bride here who should be asking herself how far she's willing to push her friends.

I can't help but roll my eyes at some of these replies! I'm not falling out with her, she's clearly got wedding brain!

The title actually mentions 'Lovely' bridezilla friend! She's not horrible, she's not having a cheap wedding, she's having a top table, she's having small flower girls.

We are simply organising the hen party, then we will be the same as all the other guests on her day. To me that doesn't say Matron of honour so why should she get to dictate the colour of my dress?

OP, I'm glad you're back to reassure me that I'm not reading your posts wrong. I've felt at times on this thread that I might be going slightly nuts ...

Only you're not going nuts, some folk only skim then feel qualified to give unrelated replies. I thought a lot of people worked on facts. Seems not

Only thought OP, you're not going to be asked to be witnesses are you?

That's the only other possible reason for matching outfits that I could think of...

Gosh - it's a shame you've already bought your dress..... get shopping woman! You can always "change your mind" later.

Is she asking you to be a witness?/sign the register?

I'd ask her - do the genuinely confused face? Matching outfits/colours says bridesmaids - does she want you both to be in official photos with her, help her on the day to go to the loo if she's bought a meringue, do her buttons up and share some champagne before the ceremony.
You can both reasonably ask her questions - if she wants you to do some bridesmaidy stuff beyond arranging her hen party then fine - but you do need to know what is going on in her head.

It's 18 months away, anything can happen. Just said to her 'oh you know you'd like us coordinated, I thought I'd wear my wedding dress too' huge smile. Might need smelling salts!

I'm sure it'll be fine, she will be a beautiful bride and once the novelty of micromanaging everything has worn off i'm sure she'll be 'normal' again!

YABU! I did this. I just wanted my two most important friends to be recognised.

I paid for their dresses though.

I wasn't expecting matchy matchy, I just wanted something they had in common so people could see how important they were to me!

That's alright! You asked for opinions! I said you're being U! You disagree! I'm confused as to why you asked if you're so convinced you're right! And I did read the whole thread and still think you're being U!