Totally freaked out over DD friend ( sensitive)

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When I was pregnant with DD I lost her twin. I was around 9 weeks when I was bleeding heavy and passing clots and by the time I could have a scan it showed an empty sac. However I blocked this out for years as I was focused on the screen until they said we found a heartbeat.

That's the back story.

Dd now has a friend, He is her best friend and I have seen her sat talking to him. This has been going on for a while. However tonight she said Oliver ( which I picked for a boys name) was in mummy tummy with her.

I have never believed in spirits or ghost or anything like this, but this has freaked me out.

Could DD be right.

Oh gosh. My daughter said she had to say goodbye to Thomas as she was getting too old now to still see him. Thomas was the name I gave the twin who died in my womb whilst I carried my daughter. On giving birth, I had still grown two placentas. So yes yes yes I believe your DC OP.

I am not even the tiniest bit woo but...
A very good friend of mine had her baby at 23 weeks and her DD did not survive. I had a dream about a little girl that night, unsurprisingly. She was called X. The next day, my friend, who lives overseas, texted to tell me they had named their DD the same name as the girl in my dream. Coincidence probably but it was a very unusual name - not top 100 anyway.

So maybe your DD is aware of her twin?

I have a distinct memory/dream of being in the clouds and picking my mum and dad. No past life etc though

This has to be a dream you remember rather than an actual memory doesn't it.

Thank you for nicies last night I just couldn't stay on here as I was dropping off to sleep.
I think some people are more woooo than others. I only know what happens to me every night.

I had a twin that died in the womb with me, I don't remember anyone sitting down and telling me about it when I was small but somehow I absorbed this information. I remember being 3 or 4 yrs old and seeing my "brother"- who happened to look like a little cartoon man with a top hat and a cane!! I think children have wonderful, very fertile imaginations :-)

My son had an imaginary friend (complete with mother) and imaginary dogs and horse... He was a bit extreme with them but I just went with it...

We had a car accident which we walked away from. The car was hit on the side by a large van and he were saved from rolling the car by a traffic island. My son was sat were the van hit and the police & ambulance crew were astonished that he wasn't killed or seriously injured and amazed that the accident wasn't much, much worse.

All good... Son was ok and a few days later he said to me 'Well I was ok because Minnie (imaginary friend) and her mummy held me in my car seat... I was flying about but they held me tight... Like you do'

You know he rarely mentioned his friend again after that accident and as he said it every hair stood up. I am not woo at all but you know I have always accepted that something else was at play that day... Was it luck, fate or his 'friend' don't know but after I tucked him up that night I went to the garden (where Minnie lived) and said Thank You

Minnie must be his guardian angel I am so pleased he wasn't hurt. I truly do believe there's something else out there or round us. I can cry buckets all day about DD but when I visit her grave I have a sense of real happiness.

I'm not very 'woo' either but sometimes you hear about things that are very difficult to explain away scientifically or logically, even though almost all of it is anecdotal

I've had one or two experiences myself that I still can't explain, so I try to stay as open minded as possible.

This thing with very young children (who may have passed this way before) and coming out with things about people, places and so on, is rather more than anecdotal. There are some documented cases that are very difficult to explain away.

If you are certain you or your partner have never mentioned the unborn twin 'Oliver' in front of your daughter, then yes, this is very strange indeed. What about your grandparents? Could they have mentioned it?

Nobody really knows about the lost twin, I have kept it very private in RL.