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Totally freaked out over DD friend ( sensitive)

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ICanSeeTheSun · 24/05/2014 21:56

When I was pregnant with DD I lost her twin. I was around 9 weeks when I was bleeding heavy and passing clots and by the time I could have a scan it showed an empty sac. However I blocked this out for years as I was focused on the screen until they said we found a heartbeat.

That's the back story.

Dd now has a friend, He is her best friend and I have seen her sat talking to him. This has been going on for a while. However tonight she said Oliver ( which I picked for a boys name) was in mummy tummy with her.

I have never believed in spirits or ghost or anything like this, but this has freaked me out.

Could DD be right.

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sugar21 · 25/05/2014 00:11

I definitely believe in woooo. I lost my Lo at 7 months to meningitis and ever since there hasn't been a night when I don't hear her calling me or crying. This was 5 years ago now but I'm not freaked out about it. I just sit up in bed and say Mummy's here then the noises stop and it's almost as if there's a little warm place it my bed.

slithytove · 25/05/2014 00:13

Sugar Thanks

PlantsAndFlowers · 25/05/2014 00:21

I think it is highly unlikely a nine week old foetus would be aware of a non identical twin beside it.

I know you haven't told her directly about the twin, but the mind is a marvellous thing and I think she may have picked up on something from you.

careeristbitchnigel · 25/05/2014 00:23

Oh sugar, that has just made me cry

MerryInthechelseahotel · 25/05/2014 00:24

Sugar Thanks a little warm place Thanks Thanks

giraffescantboogie · 25/05/2014 00:25

Children can be very intuitive.

I do think that too plants but years ago we would have said that early attachment issues wouldn't be remembered and that babies adopted at birth wouldn't have any probs at all...who knows what we will discover in future.

sugar21 · 25/05/2014 00:27

Oh Gosh Im crying too now

careeristbitchnigel · 25/05/2014 00:28

A very unmn ((hug)) x

MerryInthechelseahotel · 25/05/2014 00:29

You must have shed so many tears over the years sugar I'm so sorry to hear about your dd

goodasitgets · 25/05/2014 00:40

Not scientific but I had an imaginary friend as a child (a girl)
And I am a twinless twin, the other baby wasn't spotted (before scans etc) and died
Thanks

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ICanSeeTheSun · 25/05/2014 00:53

Sugar I don't know what to say Thanks I just hope this thread hasn't bought you any distress.

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emms1981 · 25/05/2014 01:11

I'm so sorry for people loss reading this :( so many feels, my hair has stood on end and had a few tears. X

emms1981 · 25/05/2014 01:12

I'm sleep

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ICanSeeTheSun · 25/05/2014 01:13

I am so sorry that this thread have had people crying I feel guilty now.

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emms1981 · 25/05/2014 01:13

Woops. I'm sleeping in the same room as my boys tonight and one just laughed in his sleep.

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ICanSeeTheSun · 25/05/2014 01:16

He must be having a funny dream. How old is he

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emms1981 · 25/05/2014 01:32

I'm not sure who it was but they're 7 and 5 one does a lot of talking or crying in his sleep

MexicanSpringtime · 25/05/2014 01:49

I don't think we have the knowledge to explain these things.

When my dd was about two and a half she told me a story about "when she was big" and had children who died in a fire.

She also used to wake up every morning with a bit of blood from a nosebleed and when she went to bed I would say "may you sleep with the angels" to which she replied that she was scared of the angels. And being a bit slow as I am I would forget and say it again the next night. Then one night she said "I'm not scared of the angels anymore, they've stopped hitting me on the nose"

LRB978 · 25/05/2014 02:02

My friend had exactly this situation, she miscarried one twin, but the other survived. Between the ages of about 3 and 5 (I think, was a while ago now) my friends dd had an invisible friend called 'T' - the same name as her twin. What was more 'T' had a mummy called 'M' - my friend was also a surviving twin, her sister would have been called 'M'!! And 'M' looked similar to my friend, but not identical, according to her dd. Even if her dd had known about 'T' (which was extremely unlikely), there is no way she could have known about 'M', and was not old enough to creat the relationship, even if she had.

PrincessBabyCat · 25/05/2014 05:36

I named DD after the imaginary friend I had as a child. She was always nice to me, I don't know where I heard her name from either. Just one of those things. It is a pretty name though, and I've always had a fondness for it. I also had imaginary friends that were a bird that persuaded me to do bad things, a silver chinese dragon that told me to be good, and the ninja turtles. Then I went to school, made some real friends and my imaginary ones disappeared. :)

She probably picked up on your fondness for the name Oliver. It's also a character in a Disney movie "Oliver and Company" about a cat and "Oliver Twist" is a kids movie too. It's a name that could have easily entered her subconscious from TV. Just let her enjoy it and don't make it a big deal. Imaginary friends disappear on their own eventually.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 25/05/2014 08:52

Well...we had an MC at four months. Some years later, when DD was about 6 months old, a small girl of exactly the right age appeared in my dreams and I knew that everything was fine. Judging by the furniture she lives somewhere a bit warmer than UK with a Latin heritage.

Nothing is lost forever.

BerniesBurneze · 25/05/2014 09:12

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PicaK · 25/05/2014 09:24

I'm quite scientific but interested in how we react to things. My DS has mentioned a few times "the mummy I had before you". Logically I can see it's him struggling to understand that there was a time when he wasn't here - but it still freaks me out! I also lost his twin early on. It would challenge my preconceptions a lot if he started to have an imaginary friend of the same name.

Raskova · 25/05/2014 09:36

I have a distinct memory/dream of being in the clouds and picking my mum and dad. No past life etc though

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 25/05/2014 09:40

these are amazing stories, never experienced anything like them but like to keep an open mind.