Totally freaked out over DD friend ( sensitive)

[ICanSeeTheSun]

When I was pregnant with DD I lost her twin. I was around 9 weeks when I was bleeding heavy and passing clots and by the time I could have a scan it showed an empty sac. However I blocked this out for years as I was focused on the screen until they said we found a heartbeat.

That's the back story.

Dd now has a friend, He is her best friend and I have seen her sat talking to him. This has been going on for a while. However tonight she said Oliver ( which I picked for a boys name) was in mummy tummy with her.

I have never believed in spirits or ghost or anything like this, but this has freaked me out.

Could DD be right.

There are twins in her class at school.

Yes that goes without sayin Alice, what's your point?

The OP is asking the question "Could DD be right?"

Therefore I assume she wants people's opinions...or which there will be many varying kinds.

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I wasn't disputing there would be varying views

I'd be sooo freaked out. As long as Oliver is remembered and welcomed then it'll be a lovely thing for her.

Hairs on the back of my neck, well and truly risen!

arthur

I think there is no right or wrong answers.

I don't believe in god, but millions of people do. There has never been any proof that god is real or not.

I am reevaluating something I have never believed in before.

Every one has their belief and sometimes something can not proven.

I may just be a phrase or maybe something else.

I nursed a lady who was dying; she was probably in her late 80's. Soon after she died we received a phone call to say her twin had died in Australia at the same time.

Either way OP, pick what brings you comfort and stick with it

Merry that is freaky

Thanks you all.

Crikey Merry! That is amazing!

I believe your dd knows this not by coincidence.

I am a twin so can sympathise/empathise...she may feel something lost, there is such a thing as lost twin syndrome, where the surviving twin feel/senses a loss. Do some research on-line.

It is lovely she has an imaginary friend, my Dd has 4!

Doesn't have to have anything to do with god necessarily.

There was a twin boy. I believe that it's possible some part of her brain remembers it.

I don't tend to believe too much however have had losses before my children where born.

The children as babies and toddlers where often found babbling away to the corner of the room, or waking up crying to suddenly be laughing and smiling at this corner of the room. Toys by said corner would go off randomly when the room was empty and the toy was turned off.

I had someone in my house who strongly believes and I did not tell them anything about the random thinggga happening for the morning after they stayed over them to tell me;

"There was a person on the stairs last night an older person friendly just watching over, and a young child was playing in X's room"

Dh did not sleep properly for days after although after a few weeks if the toys started going off he used to say "back it in X is asleep you can play in the morning" and all the toys would stop and not start again till the morning.

Weird..

Pack it in not back

Stupid phone and sorry for the other phone mess ups

slithy there is research to prove that every event is stored in our memory even if we cant state we remember it. Every stubbed toe/cut finger is stored there. We know babies are very affected by mothers trauma when in the womb, so who knows...

My mum passed away 6 years before dd was born and when dd was a toddler up until quite recently she used to always say when I was your mummy or when I was granny X. I found it very comforting.

My brothers are identical twins, in their 40s.
Quite recently on holiday abroad together, one of them went missing for more than 24 hrs...he was last seen sober, after breakfast, setting off to do the short walk back to their villa on his own - and then disappeared...
DB1 knew DB2 had absolutely no money on him.
After 12 hrs DB1 phoned home to see if DB2 had phoned us...
Dsis and I were worried sick - phoning embassies and local police etc.
DB1 seemed unconcerned, completely certain DB2 was ok ..It might just have been lack of imagination but I don't think he was even aware of how 'odd' his calmness and the certainty seemed - made Dsis and I discuss it and actually take some comfort.
And DB2 was ok - turned up, safe and well - got lost, no money, phone out of charge ...

As I understand it, you don't actually know that the lost twin was a boy, do you?

No I don't

My ds1 (aged 5) has an imaginary friend called john, which is the same name as my DH brother who was still born in 1981. It totally freaks out my MIL but also gives her some comfort I think.

Really shouldn't have read this just before going to sleep.

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. I definitely wouldn't dismiss what your DD is saying & take comfort from it x