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AIBU?

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To just ignore the school and proceed with the prearranged times?

110 replies

extremepie · 23/05/2014 14:45

Posted on here a few times before about Ds' school but here's a quick recap:

Ds2 has ASD and is currently on a part time timetable due to him and the school not coping with a full day.

The agreement, as has been discussed many times at various TAF/TAC meetings was that his school day should be extended by 5 minutes a week so that he should be attending full time by the time the summer holidays start.

There have been some lateness issues on my part, not quite getting there on time for pick ups and the school agreed that as long as I was on time, his school day would keep extending.

Since at least Easter I have been making a real hard effort to be on time every day but so far his school day has still not extended past 2pm!

I'm getting really irritated with this now as after all my efforts to improve my timekeeping it has not made any difference and I'm even more annoyed that Ds continues to miss out on a full day of school because they refuse to keep to the agreement!

I also suspect that part of the real reason they won't extend it is because they would rather allocate his 1:1 worker elsewhere in the afternoons and him leaving school early makes this easier for them :(

Wibu to just pick him up at 2:15 when they go back after half term, (as that is the time he should have been up to if they had stuck to the agreement,) instead of 2pm? And then to just increase the time by 5 minutes a week regardless of what they say?

OP posts:
x2boys · 23/05/2014 21:42

Rather than focusing on op being late her son in not getting his statutory rights when it comes to his education my son also has ASD he is only in nursery they tried this when he first started saying he could only cope with an hour it was them that could only cope with him for an hour ,I complained and agreed with the headteachers they would increase it half an hour a week until he got his three hours a day.Unfortunately children with special needs often are. Treated like this and it really isn't fair to them they are more vulnerable and need more access. To education but often don't get it.

littledrummergirl · 23/05/2014 21:48

Your son is covered by the equality act. He is entitled to receive an education and his school are not providing this.

They receive additional funding to provide for his needs, as they are not meeting these what are they doing with the funding?

I would go back to the la and see what can be done. I would also be writing a letter to the chair of govenors.

BerylStreep · 23/05/2014 21:51

What is the normal finishing time?

x2boys · 23/05/2014 21:52

Regarding the statement we are just going through the process now and I have been told that once it ,s all completed I will receive a copy of his proposed statement and if I am happy with it it stands if not send it back asap I have seen this too many times one mum I know was told to keep her autistic son off school because offered were visiting it just not on !

x2boys · 23/05/2014 22:07

Offsted not offered

Loverofpeas · 23/05/2014 23:30

My friends child had similar issues with school only providing part of a day when he was entitled to full time school hours like everyone else. I would email the school and tell them you are picking up DS at 2.05 this week as discussed in original meeting. Then the next week email and tell them 'DS will be picked up at 2.10 this week as agreed in x meeting'

Loverofpeas · 23/05/2014 23:32

I think your lateness has nothing to do with your sons legal entitlement to be schooled. He has a right to full time education.

ICanSeeTheSun · 23/05/2014 23:46

What level statement has he got.

Yanbu btw, by now he should be in full time school, I feel the school are dragging their heels.

Icimoi · 24/05/2014 00:13

Bialystock, there is no requirement for parents to sign a statement. It only has to be signed by someone on behalf of the local authority.

But certainly the council should have served a copy on OP and she should get this from them.

MidniteScribbler · 24/05/2014 01:37

If the school aren't bringing him out of class until you arrive, then it is your arrival time that specifies the length of his day, not the school. So week one you arrive at 2pm, week two you arrive at 2.05, etc until he is full time. I'm not really seeing the issue here? It's within your control.

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