To not want the bank cashier to call me "love"?

[MrsWinnibago]

AIBU to be a bit at the cashier repeatedly calling me "love" when I went in today to pay some cash into Dh's account?

He called the man after me "Sir" and I just felt that it wasn't really on...if he didn't know my name as it wasn't my account, he could have gone for calling me nothing surely?

But I don't call woman love or pet and men sir, up here you call either sex love or pet. I would be pretty peeved to get a complaint in about me but in all honesty my boss wouldn't take it seriously at all as he does it himself.

And I hate hun, hon and babe. Think that's a recent Facebook thing.

Oh for heavens sake, get a life. There's so much unpleasantness around these days.People swearing,spitting,, dropping litter in the street, what on earth is wrong with a lighthearted endearment.
Around here it's quite normal to hear women girls addressed as "flower"

can I just ask, where DOES 'up north' starts officially on the east side of England? Sheffield? York?

It doesn't bother me. We get it here a lot in Australia so not sure about the Yorkshire thing. If I really notice it, I might get a bit cheeky and call them 'darl' back.

I can never get worked up about these things- it really doesn't matter to me. I like the way that it depends on the part if the country and you could be 'pet', 'duck', 'hen' or even 'my lover'!

Thats just the sort of thing that makes me feel happy and at home rather than the bland generic Mrs So and So I get whem visiting other regions. I am South Yorkshire born and bred and quite comfortable with 'love' being used by and directed at any age/gender etc and live in the North East where I am happy to be called 'pet' although this doesnt tend to be directed at men but can be said by either gender.

Its these little colloquilisms (sp?) that make for a happy welcoming feel imo.

Oh and as far as where 'up North' starts it really depends where you live. As a resident of the North East I now think it begins somewhere around Harrogate but when I lived in South Yorkshire I thought it start somewhere around Doncaster. I suppose those living further south have a different idea about where the north starts.

If anyone in a shop, bank etc calls me 'love' (except in the north of England where it is usual) I call them 'sweetie' For some reason guys seem not to like it much.

In parts of Scotland women are frequently addressed as 'hen'

Yanbu.

Inappropriate and unprofessional - however friendly they were trying to be.

I think there's a context and I think where terms of endearment are used openly and genuinely that's fine; it's when they are used to a put a person in their place they aren't. For me it's akin to walking into the doctors and the receptionist asking your name and you say Mrs Windymill and they say "and your first name" which they then insist on using "well sit down near and Dr Jones will call you when he's ready". Um if the doctor is afforded the courtesy of a title, then the patient should be too. I think it's a subtle and classic way in which the NHS subordinates the patient. I have no problem with my first name being used but I expect to be addressed as another's equal and if my first name is to be used then so too should the doctor's.

Walk into the doctor "hello" Near. "oh I didn't catch your name on the way in". "My name's Dr Jones". "Oh, then I think mine's Mrs Windymill". "Oh, um, well, it's Bob, yes call me Bob". Not really acceptable is it?

I agree with Windymill about the context of what's being said and about whether it is being used just to be friendly or out of habit as opposed to being used to patronise. And everyone has the right to choose NOT to be addressed as Love, Duck, Dear, Mate,Hun - whatever. ( Simply say something pleasant at the time making it clear how you want to be addressed)

Personally I prefer a personal, friendly human interaction than the robotic, scripted, "Would you like fries with that? Anything to drink with that? I am sorry that you are unhappy with our service. Have a nice day" approach.

The problem is the more we filter out anything regional, human, personal in case it could be seen as offensive then the more we leave ourselves the Script as the only way forward.

slightly off thread but I once in a sleep deprived newborn haze told the bank cashier when he handed me my money 'thankyou love you!'

It's definitely about context, but in this context - bank cashier calls female customer 'love' and then male customer 'sir' - I think it is patronising. Not worth a complaint, but potentially worth a 'thanks love' back to him in response. Male customer in this context should've got 'mate' or whatever informal regional term was the male equivalent. 'Sir' and 'love' are not equal imo. Yes, there are bigger things to worry about, but there are also many trivial topics are discussed on AIBU, so I don't have a problem with this one.

I'm in the North West and would definitely class Liverpool/Manchester/Chester/Cheshire as North... although I'm sure some in Sheffield/Newcastle/York will disagree.

In South Yorkshire, big burly men call other big burly men "love". It's like "mate" down south and not gender specific.

Sheffield down south to me in Newcastle lol

I do not like being called hun, love, darl or any other terms of endearment

Slim, yes, all these cities are obviously the North to a londoner/sw dweller, so is definitely Newcastle.
but are you saying York isn't the north? It's not the Midlands though, is it, so what is Yorkshire?

Many people consider the north to begin at Watford!
York isn't the North if you are from Newcastle.

Slim bit puzzled how Newcastle isnt the north when its furthet north than all the places you quoted as being the north.

I just meant that those further north (i.e. Newcastle) will think Manchester is south! Ha! Often have an argument with a geordie friend about North/South :)

One of my friends gets totally outraged by people calling her love or chuck, or sweetheart... or anything remotely familiar. But I call her love all the time and she doesn't even notice :)

Unless its being used in a derogatory way I cant see why people get so upset by it to be honest.

She probably doesn't mind when it's you because you're a friend. Maybe she objects to bank cashiers calling her 'love' and then calling the man behind her 'sir'? Because in that instance it could be interpreted as though female customer = friendly/casual/unimportant while male customer = formal/businesslike/important. Context is key and I think in a professional context - when individuals are conducting a business transaction with someone they've never met before - the word 'love' has the potential to offend.

But there are official terms re South/Midlands/North, I'm not asking whether to a Newcastle person something else is to the south, but from the point of view of anyone looking at the map of the England if you like - I mean what the whole region is called.
Obv Newcastle can be in the north region with other places, whether they are south or north from Newcastle itself. Same as London can be north or south but is still greater london. And no, no one educated or just intelligent) would think that anything above london is North of England