To not want the bank cashier to call me "love"?

[MrsWinnibago]

AIBU to be a bit at the cashier repeatedly calling me "love" when I went in today to pay some cash into Dh's account?

He called the man after me "Sir" and I just felt that it wasn't really on...if he didn't know my name as it wasn't my account, he could have gone for calling me nothing surely?

Why would people not come up North for a holiday. It baffles me that places further south than Newcastle are classed as Up North.

Cock does make me snigger though. I did once go in a working man's club in Govern and got told to fuck off home you English That when I asked for a gin and bitter lemon

*twat not that

Doesn't bother me. Also in the North so get it a lot. What I find more irritating is the current trend for all waiting staff in restaurants etc to call customers "guys".

YABVU.

YABU but that's only because I live in Yorkshire. It makes me happy when people call me love, it's a friendly way to speak to someone here!

Being called "love" or any of the other regional variations is usually automatic and kindly meant. It's just being friendly and who could argue with that? Only tight-arses looking for something to be offended by, surely?

Meduck, hen, love or any of them are fine with me. I'm particularly fond of being called "pet" by people from the NE. It's been too long since I've been addressed as "hinny".

Yeah, not that many people I hear saying hinney now apart from the older generation. I think there's a restaurant on the Quay side which does singing hinnies and pan haggerty.

Madam makes me feel very old (ok 46 is old to many shop workers etc.), but I'd far rather love, Duck, Cock or any other dialect greeting.

Call him 'love' right back.

If he is being friendly, he will appreciate it or not notice it.

If he is being mildly patronizing, he will notice it, and it may give him pause.

I call everyone love, which is how I noticed it has this useful effect.

He thought you'd respond warmly to it. He obviously misjudged it, but it's hard to believe his intention was to make you feel silly.

Where I am, you assume someone's in a snit with you if they don't call you duck

I call everyone "love", everyone calls me "love"
there's no problem because I'm in Yorkshire

So why didn't the taxi driver calling you love not offend you. < confused>

I usually find replying with a similar name every few words stops it -"Thanks poppet! Now here's my checkbook Princess. Do you need my signature on that Sweetcheeks?"

I hate that too - patronising and over familiar, esp if he called the male customer 'Sir'.

A security guard in my town was giving me some directions and he kept calling me "Sweetheart". Grrr.

I could write to the bank and ask them to instruct their staff on appropriate way to treat customers.

I would rather be called love than madam any day!

Customers sometimes say 'ee-ya cock' when giving me money. Roughly translates to 'here you go madam'

I don't mind any endearments, I'm a barmaid so I'd spend 99% of my life annoyed if I did.

That said, its often the way these things are said.

Most northerners can make love sound like cunt if they don't like you!

I think it's lovely when OH calls me love (not so much anyone else) because he doesn't say it a lot. When he does he really gives a lovely charm to the Yorkshire accent. Sounds ace.
In the market where everyone goes "EE-YA LOVE!?" and you just have to turn your head! but its different when builders go wolf whistle "orite luv" thats disgusting. I just give them the finger and walk off. anyone else I smile at! very strange.
I love "love" it really is charming if used properly.

IcanSeetheSun I think it was because he was in his 60s/....older than me.

Hmm... I don't know why but "love" annoys me too. DH will say it if he bumps into someone (female) - "sorry love" but wouldn't use it if he bumped into a bloke. He'd probably say "mate" though. That annoys me less. Why not just say "sorry" ? Said with a smile, using a friendly tone-of-voice, etc. Come to think of it, I don't use any terms of endearment with strangers. I just stick to what's needed: "hi" "sorry" "thank you" "you're welcome", etc, etc. You can still be polite/friendly using those terms without the added "love".

*we're up North - lower than Newcastle but higher than the Watford Gap :D

The man behind you being called "sir" was probably known the the bank cashier is possibly an old and valued customer. If high street banks can be said to have such a thing these days. No reflection on you

There's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting. I'd think about picking your battles before getting too upset by it.

But if it was my boss calling me that, I'd have issues.

What part of the world are you in if you get called Duck? I'm from Stoke originally but live in Cheshire and it's all loves round here and I get funny looks if I call anyone duck. I miss being called shug as well. Think that's a stoke thing. I love being called endearments!

Admittedly I 'darling' people quite a bit. I do usually know them though.

People I don't know as well I might say "You're a darling/angel" if they'd done something for me, but I probably wouldn't call them it 'directly'.

Sweetheart/dear/darling and my love I'd only use with family, or maybe with an animal.