To please, please ask for your positive stories of people getting well having been on HDU/ intensive care

[grobagsforever]

DP was admitted last week and moved to HDU last night. They don't know what's wrong. He has fluid on belly, some kind of infection and impiared liver function. There is talk of moving him ti ICU. We seem to be waiting on endless tests. He is 35 we have a three year old and I am 7 months pregnant. I need him . Please tell me your positive stories of recovery from these situations.

real not ral

What is wrong with people on here?

Lulu if you want to avoid 'bossy, self- centred, judgemental posts ' then may I suggest that you avoid reading your own?
I think what you are forgetting is that this is a forum. There is more than one voice here and there will be, therefore, differing views.

Speaking of which I've been on mumsnet for 7 years. I've never seen a thread like this where grieving, generous people who've given of themselves to assist a person in apparent distress have not only been so largely ignored in their giving of excellent and hard earned advice but have also been repeatedly attacked for doing so. That's not me using emotive language. That's me reflecting back to you what you and others have done.

My misunderstanding portofino, sorry.

To quote grobags from last night - can everyone please stop fighting?

Not everything is about you and your opinions

Yeah but it's not all about your opinions either mate.

I her what you're saying Maryz but if you read the OP and her subsequent posts, I think maybe she is being a bit overwhelmed with all the advice. But my opinion and I may be wrong.

Sharing stories is wonderful and brave but I think we all could remember to tread carefully with a fragile OP.

No need to get upset. No need to refuse to post anymore.

Hope you're doing ok Grobags. Thinking of you. It must feel like you're underwater and you can't see or breathe and you are going on instinct alone.

Lulu - do you appreciate you are in part addressing a poster who watched her child die and there are others in equally painful circumstances too. Do you actually realise that? You horrify me.

I've seen quite a few posts on this thread saying what should and shouldn't be posted.
This is an open forum and, so long as people stay within the guidelines, you can post what you want.
Who are you, the Thread Police?
OP has not once come on to say "I don't want this, that or the other" (barring one post to say "please stop fighting amongst each other [about what is "allowed" to be written] ) so who is ANYONE else to decide what OP finds helpful or doesn't.
We all have an opinion, and are entitled to express them.
Some have experiences they'd give anything not to have gone through, but are willing to take time to share them here. To be told that the sharing of their stories is not wanted, or helpful, is, frankly, fucking atrocious.

Lulu, as I recall, this thread was Grobags asking about others experiences. So presumably their opinions WERE sought.

Grobags should request that the thread is moved to Health or somesuch me thinks.

Maryz
And I find it baffling when other posters come along and say "don't give her any advice, don't try to tell her helpful and relevant facts, don't suggest questions she could ask, or things that could make the situation better"

Exactly.

Advice, suggestions and experience suddenly translated into nosy, bossy, self- centred, judgemental posts [sic]

WTAF???

No Maryz that is not what I meant. Not at all.

I just have read the OP on here and to me her replies have sometimes seemed a bit defensive of her choices. That makes me sad.

But I can see that my opinion is welcome and I do not want to derail the thread. Sorry for any offence or upset caused. It was not my intention and I tried to word my post in a inoffensive manner.

not welcome, that should be obviously!

Can we agree that we're all here because we want to support grobags, even if we might disagree about how that support is best given?

Yes?

I repeat her earlier plea then...

CAN WE ALL PLEASE STOP FIGHTING

Just checking in to send love and thoughts your way grobags. Hope today was a little easier.

Fuck me, what great posts there lulu