To please, please ask for your positive stories of people getting well having been on HDU/ intensive care

[grobagsforever]

DP was admitted last week and moved to HDU last night. They don't know what's wrong. He has fluid on belly, some kind of infection and impiared liver function. There is talk of moving him ti ICU. We seem to be waiting on endless tests. He is 35 we have a three year old and I am 7 months pregnant. I need him . Please tell me your positive stories of recovery from these situations.

I totally accept everything you say Maryz and you are right to remind everyone that someone on the Internet could be anyone and not necessarily what they say.

And you are right too that it would be wrong and unprofessional for me to give specific medical advice. I wouldn't do this anywhere and don't believe I have on this thread. I don't however think there is anything wrong in using my knowledge to give general explanations which is all I have tried to do here.

But again, yes I could be a trucker called dave. I guess it's for individuals to decide what they take in terms of advice from posters claiming knowledge and experience you can't verify.

We are not on a ward we are on a sideroom crystal skulls. That is why I am allowed here. Shall I upload a photo?

Can everyone stop fighting please?

Oh grobags try and ignore unhelpful comments. Look only at the useful posts. Keep going, one minute, five minutes at a time. You are such a strong person, just keep going x

I hope that amongst the mishmash on this thread, grobag is able to draw some comfort from the positive thoughts and best wishes of many MNers winging their way to her and her DH.

She clearly was asking for positive support in her OP, and I am sure that we would all wish to offer that.

I found your post clear and balanced Yellow - so if you are really Dave, maybe you should think about a career change into medicine!!

You don't need to justify yourself, grobags.

If anyone has issue with their visiting privileges they need to take it up with the hospital concerned. Grief is a terrible thing but it doesn't give anyone the right to punish someone going through such a horrific time.

Hi grobags, sorry you are going through this.

My dad, at the age of 79, wa in HCU for a few weeks when his heart bypass caused him dangerously low blood-pressure that they couldn't seem to fix. It was terrifying. But yes.... he got better and is still going strong 4 years later.

Fingers crossed for you allxx

Grobags maybe ask to get this moved out of here? Sending you strength to get through each of your 5 minutes at a time.

I hate this time of day I always get close to breaking point cannot bear seeing him suffer but cannot bear to leave him either. This is so fucking unfair and cruel. He is fighting so bloody hard

Gro, nothing to say, just wanted to pop on and let you know I'm still thinking of your family, and sending love and wishes that you will get through another day together.

Xxx

Gbags you are his support and rock right now and that is very hard work. You need someone or something to anchor you through this terrible time. I had counselling once that gave me a 5 minute exercise to do to give myself just a little escape. It was a simple meditation breathing exercise but really helped in moments of crisis when it all seemed overwhelming. I'd be happy to share

Cancer is never fair. Nobody deserves to suffer and sad to say it doesn't matter how hard you fight. It's a matter of biology and certain cell processes will be overcome and some won't.
You sound exhausted. You need to go home, eat a square meal and sleep in your own bed.

Just to say I am thinking about you both and wishing the very best news- a better day every day.

Don't give up Grobags. It must be the most awful time for you both.

Please also don't feel you have to take any notice of or explain yourself to anyone on here.

It is your business and they can choose to not follow your thread if it in anyway causes them a problem.

You asked for positive stories to support you, not constant questioning and implied doubt from some- particularly when mumsnet closed the thread temporarily and investigated last week and found particular posters allegations unfounded.

I think you have enough to deal with without feeling you have to answer anything here.

I hate this time of day I always get close to breaking point

I hear you, grobags; you've held it together for yet another bloody awful day, and as it draws to a close the unfairness hits afresh

Much as I'd love to I can't give you a hug, so have a hand to hold from a distance ...

Take a break sweeheart go to your lovely little girl for a little while xx

Would you consider using a self-hypnosis relaxation CD for you and/or your DH? I have Maggie Howell's general relaxation CD (here), which I'd happily send if you like. I suffer on-off from depression and it gets me through the toughest bits.

You need to go home and spend some time with your daughter. Surely his parents can take over for a bit? I was that 3 yo once.

I agree that you need to let the nurses take over.

He deserves to have me. That's all I can do. My daughter won't remember this time and she os with people who love her.

Can't she visit?

gro please consider taking a break!! Sitting constantly at his bedside whilst highly commendable will do you no good! He needs you strong and that means going home and getting some proper sleep and spending some time with your daughter!

You will cheer him up with stories and am sure that you and her would enjoy drawing him some pictures to brighten his room and make him smile!!

Gro, if you want to be with him, stay. Make sure you get rest and eat properly. I can fully understand if you don't want to leave him.

Sending you strength and a hand to hold.