To please, please ask for your positive stories of people getting well having been on HDU/ intensive care

[grobagsforever]

DP was admitted last week and moved to HDU last night. They don't know what's wrong. He has fluid on belly, some kind of infection and impiared liver function. There is talk of moving him ti ICU. We seem to be waiting on endless tests. He is 35 we have a three year old and I am 7 months pregnant. I need him . Please tell me your positive stories of recovery from these situations.

Ladies can we put disagreements to one side please so as not to derail grobag's thread? Please?

Hope the nausea is less troublesome this morning and that his review is helpful x

I don't think it's anyone's intention to derail the thread yellow

But this is a very emotional thread, people are talking about their own painful experiences and it's not really on to twist someone's words and call them insensitive when, had they read the actually post properly, they would have Realised how far from accurate that was.

This is grobags thread. She is a young, pregnant mum. It's not her choice re: visiting times.

I'm so sorry you, DH and family are suffering this.

And I'm sorry if this is totally inappropriate. But it comes from a good place.

Could they bring baby early so DH can meet them? Or would it just make things worse with your recovery etc?

My fil was in intensive care for 5 days following a heart attack. The facilities were amazing for our family. They had a separate area within icu Which housed a family suite. My mil, dh, sil and bil stayed there for the entire time. It consisted of a lounge, bedroom and kitchenette.

The care was second to none. Sadly our outcome was not positive.

I just wish these facilities were available in all hospitals. I'm sorry that you had to sleep on 3 chairs. Is it worth seeing if they can get you a recliner chair for next to his bedside.

That is very good news grobags - which ward did he end up on? I'm hoping you have a clearer picture today of his treatment plan.

I'm not saying it's anyone's intention tantrums and understand it's very emotional, particularly for posters who've been in simular situations.

I still stand by my request leave the bickering for another time. This is categorically not aimed at any particular poster but a gentle reminder that although this is in aibu it would be totally inappropriate for it to descend into a bunfight.

I think CrystalSkulls' comments have been very insightful actually. She is clearly posting from experience, sad as it may be. And the OP has asked repeatedly for stories and other people's experiences. I see it as a very valid contribution to the thread.

We have been extremely lucky that they have let me stay in. I'm sorry if other units are less flexible, this hospital has open visiting hours for ICU and the sister negotiated flexible arrangements for me now we're on ward. In fairness I'm saving them resources by acting as DH nurse, sorting dribks, toothbrush, loo trips etc. We're in a side room so not disturbing others. DH is on a gastro ward. Prognosis is still terminal but ge does not require ICU care.

Grobags wants experiences of people who have coped with horrible experiences like hers and have come through the other side. For kindness sake please please stay focussed for her. Other hospitals's visiting regime are irrelevant. Think why she is allowed to stay.

I'm so glad that the hospital have been accommodating of you. Is your little one allowed to visit now he's on a ward?

Have you had a diagnosis now gro?

Honey, you are eight months pregnant! You should not be assisting DH on trips to the toilet and the hospital should not be letting you do that.

Are your DHs parents there?

Can they do some of the helping out whilst you have a rest?

Actually as Crystal has had experience of a situation as awful and hard as Grobags, I think she would be excellently placed to offer support if she wishes.

However please could anyone refrain from posting stuff that makes Grobags feel like she has to justify the treatment of her husband in hospital, as if she is in someway privileged. That is not the point of the thread at all.

Sorry Grobags, you are a gracious and courageous lady x

Crystalskulls I think thegreylady meant come out the other side in both senses of the word. Both alive and well or sadly not making it but how they coped on the other side. Please don't get your coat.

Coconutty it's not always possible to know what the primary site of a cancer is. You can know it's terminal though by the fact that there is evidence of that cancer at more than one site, either on scans or by biopsies. Usually by both. There is a diagnosis of 'cancer of unknown primary' for precisely this reason. So the hospital isn't doing anything wrong in this regard.

Grobags probably also wants to help her dh rather than leaving his care to strangers. I'm sure they're not neglecting him in anyway.

The chairs thing is however crap.

Crystal - get your coat off and hung up - you're staying!!!

Your post has been cruelly twisted - you clearly have more of an understanding of OPers position than many of us have.

grobags I have just come across your thread. I can't believe this is happening to you. I'm so sorry.

The strength and positivity you and your DH are showing is truly awe inspiring.

Sending every kind of good wish your way

Sorry, no great words of wisdom, just to say I am rooting for you and your dh gro.

Crystal I didn't mean you at all. Don't go.

Lots of people here have shared heartbreaking stories. Let's all pull together and keep sharing the LOVE. We are not a nest of vipers, we are more than than.

Gro sleeping on chairs and eating as and when isn't sustainable especially when pg. You may not want to leave your dh's care to strangers but actually you will help him more by being rested, in good physical and mental shape and with him knowing you are looking after yourself and your dc. Do you have pils who could share this burden ?