To think this is disgusting?

[lucidlady]

We are toilet training 2.5 year old DD. She goes to a childminder, and I send her off every day with several changes of clothes and a travel potty in case they are out and about. CM has been very enthusiastic and supportive of the toilet training.

DD still has the odd accident, which is fine, she has spare clothes and bags to put the wet stuff in. I've just opened up the bag of stuff that the CM put in on Friday, to discover that she has left the actual poo in the pants. I was almost sick on the spot.

AIBU to think this is grim and should I say something to her?

Why has it taken you 2 days to empty her change bag?

did you not see the ops post about how her daughter came home in the same clothes she left the house in, and that the CM did not mention there had been any accidents... surely OP could then safely assume that the bag was full of clean dry clothes...

To the TA who rinses pooey pants - do you have a special sink?

I think it only takes one bad experience and then bags are ALWAYS emptied asap. Mine was an infestation of earwigs from a twig in a book bag left over half-term. I moved it and about 100 earwigs scampered all over the carpet. Ugh!

Probably just an oversight.Just have a quick word with CM asking her to let you know if there's been an accident but no tales of disgust or vom boak vom as it sounds unhinged.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all
OP

Maybe she forgot tell you. If she's otherwise a good childminder I wouldn't worry about it.

People, read the thread.....OP did not know her DD had an accident, so why would she check?

I think the other posts asking why is has taken 2 days to clean out the bag is irrelevant, good for you if you are so perfect and organised, sometimes people are busy and forget.
Not sure why CM didn't just tip the poo down the toilet, I presume she checks and wipes your child, so why not just tip it out??!
If you are going to say something I would do so in a casual joking manner, if not just try to check the bag as soon as you get home.

The CM told you to get what towelling ones from Mothercare? Knickers? Just curious as to why the CM is telling you which ones to buy?

I think you should just buy packs of el cheapo knickers from Primark and tell the CM to bin them if there is a poo accident.

Stock up on some knickers and just say if dd does a poo again just chuck them in the bin, ty, probem solved any pants my sons soiled were binned I wasn't going to wash out poo uggh

Why should the op rush to put her kid's stuff in the washing machine? Maybe she has a wash day which is Sunday. Aibu is the weirdest place at times.

Op I would have had the same reaction. Speak to your childminder.

OFGS - OP collected her DD on a Friday evening after work. She was not told that DD had had an accident during the day, and her DD was wearing the same clothes she had been dropped off in. There was NOTHING to suggest to the OP that the bag contained any dirty clothes, let alone poo!

I would think it's perfectly normal not to open the bag until Sunday in those circumstances - probably just to make sure the bag was ready to go again on Monday morning, not with the intention of needing to put a wash of soiled clothing on .

I would also ask her to bin any poo filled pants in future which should hopefully save a repeat experience.

What a bizarre thread! Surely it's common sense if you've sent someone home with a poo in their bag you mention it? But maybe she just forgot. Def live and learn situation!

Can't believe the OP is being criticised for not doing immediate washing of all belongings!

OP this is a really bizarre thing to be getting worked up about!

The CM was no more 'disgusting' for doing what she did than your child was for pooing in their pants.

It happened

If I had absolutely nothing else in my life to concern me or worry about then yes, this would probably rule me for about 5 seconds.

Bin the bag, forget about it, move on

I do like the "hazardous waste" and references to vomiting. How have you never dealt with poo before if you have a 2 year old?

It's fair enough to have expected her to mention it at pick up.

What did you expect, OP? You start a thread to complain about your childminder's 'negligence' so you also then have to accept your own. No harm, no foul but there it is.

I don't understand why you're getting such a hiding OP

Why is your cm telling you what undies to buy? Get some cheap ones and just chuck. Life's too shirt to be scraping underpants into the toilet.

Then if your cm says anything tell her you're not forking out mothercare money for pooey duds that get chucked in the bin.

Jobs a good un.

I have read the thread, and I agree it's grim! I don't think there's anything wrong in not checking the bag til Sunday either since you had no idea the clothes were dirty. I would just assume she completely forgot to tell you though, rather than that she didn't think it was worth mentioning!

Christ almighty, the way this thread is heading I'm surprised no one has laid into the op for using a childminder in the first place!

It's your daughters poo...have you not dealt with it before?

Your CM doesn't have to wash her knickers for you.

My dd's CM sent her soiled stuff home (not nappies, obv) as did dd2's child care. They can't launder soiled knickers.

She should have rinsed them out No, she shouldn't have. Rinsing out someone else's dirty knickers is not part of her job.