To think my husband ought to have looked after our baby properly

[Mrssodapop]

It's a hot day here and I left toddler aged 2 in the paddling with her dad supervising. The water was cool but a couple of pots of hot water had been added so it wasn't freezing. Toddler had been in the pool for about 5 mins before I went in and left husband to it. 10 minutes later he comes to tell me that he thinks ds ought to come out, gone blue and shivering. I get ds out and he is absolutely freezing cold and shivering so much he can't catch his breath. I took him inside and wrapped him in blankets and even got a hot water bottle to warm him up. I was worried because he kept on shivering and his temperature was 34.4! Over the next five minutes he warmed up and temperature was normal but I am furious with husband. I'm cross because he came to ask me leaving ds alone in the pool for a few seconds, also that he even came to ask me, where is his initiative. When I told him ds should have been taken out as soon as he went blue he started arguing with me that I shouldn't have put him in a paddling pool in the first place but my point is husband ought to have been watching him and taking care of him properly. Furious that he just sat there watching ds go blue and didn't respond, I feel he's a crap dad right now.

Are you not in the UK, OP?

Or does your child have circulatory problems or something?

This doesn't add up, on a hot day how on earth is a child blue with cold and chattering teeth after 10mins - yes your DP shouldn't have left her alone in the water but your story doesn't really make sense

After 5 minutes = fine.
After ten more = hypothermic.

DH shouldn't have left the DC unattended, even for 6 seconds, in water.

Seriously?

Is your husband 8 years old?

What sort of an idiot wouldnt just lift the child out himself?

Was he always this stupid?

Having read again, I am more baffled that your main gripe isn't that he left your toddler unattended in water.

My DS 6 shakes with cold after being in the pool for 10 minutes and that was in 40C heat in Turkey last year. If there is a big difference in water temp to outside temp then the body will naturally shake while it's adjusting to the new temperature

I'm cross because he came to ask me leaving ds alone in the pool for a few seconds

Candycoated

I obviously did not read well enough then. Apologies, OP.

its easy to miss stuff

I have come across dads like this in the past. They have had their heads bitten off so many times they're scared to do anything without checking first, no matter how simple it sounds to us.
But agree he shouldn't have left toddler alone.

Ah, the bigger problem is that he generally has no initiative. It seems to be a long running problem.

nanny it does sound like he lacks common sense though. Don't most adults know midday sun is not the bit time to be sitting outside uncovered?

Um ... before pool episode, OP worried that child not wearing sun hat? I quote: 30 minutes before he'd sat kids at table outside to eat their lunch in the midday sun with no hats on and hadn't even put the parasol up. He sat there moaning that it was a bad idea to eat outside. I despair. But then after meal, it's so cold (despite pool being warmed up with pans of hot water ...) that little child blue with cold.

Something's a bit odd here. OK, dad should not leave tiny kid unsupervised in pool. But on the other hand ... how can child go from being out in the noonday sun to suddenly chilled and shivering in a (warmed up) pool? Has OP got her facts right? Just asking.

Quite oldgrandma. One minute it's apparently blistering midday sun requiring sun hats and shade, and then child is blue with cold. Sounds like tosh to me.

OP is clearly a drama queen and embellishing the truth - hypothermia after 10 mins in a pool of warm water in warm weather, really?

OP's DH is clearly terrified to make any decisions or use any initiative incase OP bites his head off.

YABU, get a grip.

Does anyone else have a two ur old who wouldn't run screaming from a freezing cold paddling pool?

And six seconds does not a drowning make..

No Giles, I doubt it.

I bet it was more than 6 seconds for him to go in and tell her the situation. A child can drown in 20 seconds.

:o

Mine don't get in anything without testing it first no wonder bathroom floor is always soaked

Small children can lose heat very quickly in cool water even if it is a hot day and they have been out in the sun for a while.

I have a three year old who would have blue lips and shiver but refuse to leave the water. She loves it more than she hates cold. I would just bundle her up next to me in a towel and she would be fine (no thermometer or hot water bottle required).