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AIBU?

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To feel like everyone has stolen my news

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Aylish1993 · 15/05/2014 20:49

Just that really as soon as I found I was pregnant I got to tell my mum and pils and that was it because family told family as they do, now my so called 'friend' has just announced it on fb when I was waiting 3 weeks till our baby was born so I could put a picture on. Probably being over dramatic but is it so much to ask that I want to tell people MY news?

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Universal · 15/05/2014 20:59

I feel for you I really do. This happened to a friend and close family found out her baby had arrived through someone else writing on her f/b page.
Realistically, most people will offer congrats with the best of intentions on f/book as soon as they hear your news. Other people are arseholes who want the attention of the announcement.
Believe me, in the long term this won't matter. But if you really need to then only share info in the future with people who won't post or ask them not to.
Oh and tell the person who posted how you felt about their actions. People need to be educated on the impact of their thoughtlessness.
Congratulations.

phantomnamechanger · 15/05/2014 21:05

I don't understand - you're due in 3 weeks and people still don't know you're pg?
FAir enough no one should blab the news of a pg or birth on fb before parents have had the chance to tell everyone they want to tell personally, but surely friend is not odd for thinking by now this is not a secret?

Ubik1 · 15/05/2014 21:05

Once baby is born you will not care

indigo18 · 15/05/2014 21:10

I don't understand either. But if it's about people putting stuff about your baby on Facebook, then it's about the fourth thread on this topic in recent days. Just stay off Facebook.

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Aylish1993 · 15/05/2014 21:11

The people I wanted to no I was pg do like family and certain friends but I didn't feel the need of letting people that I don't really talk to no by doing a big announcement on fb, seemed a bit attention seeking. I have a lot of people on there I don't really like haha.

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Andcake · 15/05/2014 21:16

I didn't announce my pregnancy on fb just photo of ds when born. Mostly because I don't think there is any need to shout about it prior to the safe arrival. In 3 weeks when your dc is born you won't be worrying about thus and pho to on fb will get lots of nice responses etc. in the last weeks of pregnancy it's easy to get hung up on some things which won't be important later.

cardibach · 15/05/2014 21:18

There's your problem then. They are called facebook friends. Only have friends. That way there is no problem. Why on earth would you want to be connected at all to people you don't like?

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Aylish1993 · 15/05/2014 21:23

Because I'm nosy for one and I have slowly been deleting people on there that I don't like, I no it's a really petty thing but I just really wanted that moment when I knew my baby was here safe and healthy so I could tell everyone and celebrate.

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evelynj · 15/05/2014 21:25

YABU. Friend has 'stolen your news' about something that would be obvious if anyone saw you & news that you don't want to tell people that you don't like?

I didn't make a big announcement of my pg on fb but didn't complain if someone mentioned the bump

carlywurly · 15/05/2014 21:27

This is barking mad.

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Aylish1993 · 15/05/2014 21:30

I currently I'm living hundreds of miles away from my home town I don't think I'm going to bump into anyone I no

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CoffeeTea103 · 15/05/2014 21:31

You sound quite immature.

Smartiepants79 · 15/05/2014 21:33

At 37 weeks pregnant I don't really see how this can be 'news'. It would never occur to me that, at that late stage in a pregnancy, nobody knew.
If you wanted to tell 'your' news then you really ought to have already done so.
Especially family. If I'd kept that from my family for so long they would have been extremely hurt.

verdiletta · 15/05/2014 21:34

It's very annoying when people broadcast your news, but to be fair she maybe assumed everyone knew anyway as you're nearly due? (Unless I've picked this up wrong which is entirely possible)

gamerchick · 15/05/2014 21:34

why would you have people on your facebook you don't like? It's a question I had to ask my now 19 yr old not so long back.

Berryglitter · 15/05/2014 21:34

Maybe your friend didn't realise you hadn't told everyone, considering you're due in three weeks. I get that you don't live near certain people anymore but it's not like it's hard to hide.

Yabu.

Universal · 15/05/2014 21:35

Your baby = your announcement

If someone has not announced their pregnant on facebook then it's unreasonable for someone else to do so. Everyone had f/b friends they are not close to. It should be up to individual what info they choose to share.

TateLux · 15/05/2014 21:35

Are you 16 years old?

kinsorange · 15/05/2014 21:36

There are a load of rubbish threads about at the moment.

SavoyCabbage · 15/05/2014 21:38

It's not the same situation as someone announcing it to your actual friends.

It almost sounds like you were planning but to be extra dramatic by putting a baby photo on when people didn't know you were having a baby.if you don't like them, you shouldn't give a toss.

Forget it and think about the lovely baby you are going to have.

Unexpected · 15/05/2014 21:39

But why would care about announcing the birth of your baby to people on FB whom you obviously haven't seen in real life for the entirety of your pregnancy and at least some of whom you don't even like? How many "friends" do you have on there that you can only delete the ones you don't like in stages?! Without sounding unduly harsh, I don't think those people are going to particularly one way or the other about your birth announcement.

Wantsunshine · 15/05/2014 21:42

You sound very childish. Hope your baby arrives safely. But get a grip, aye you are sitting around with nothing better to occupy your mind. That will soon change.

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Aylish1993 · 16/05/2014 09:28

What annoyed me was after she did she wrote 'wooops surprise haha'.

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liquidstatehasrisenagain · 16/05/2014 10:00

That would annoy me too OP, particulalry the second comment. You can delete the post from your wall and feel free to unfriend the 'friend'. Also make sure she does not know about the birth when it happens.

Am 33 weeks and am only telling immediate family after the birth with DH announcing it on facebook straight after that. It may seem silly to some but it is important to us.

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Aylish1993 · 16/05/2014 10:09

Thanks liquid :)

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