To think that if your feet are small enough to wear these shoes you are too young for high heels?

[unrulysun]

I saw these shoes in a branch of Monsoon today. I see plenty of things for little girls which make me roll my eyes but these actually made me stop and stare and then a few minutes later go back into the shop to talk to someone.

The heel on these is a good inch high. My DD is 3 and her feet are size 9. The ones I saw were in a size 7 which I think DD last had when she was 2. She’s not particularly enormous for her age so I think these shoes are definitely for 2 – 3 year olds. I don’t know what size they go down to. AIBU to think that a 2 or 3 year old shouldn’t be walking around in high heels? This isn’t wearing your mum’s high heels this is ‘these are your new shoes’.

And yy I know ‘you don’t need to buy them if you don’t want to’ and I won’t buy them. But I care about the little girls who they are bought for. I don’t think any little girl should be put into shoes like this. Frankly I’d be worried DD would twist an ankle in heels this high. She certainly wouldn’t be able to run or play. And I’m sad that these are on sale for little girls. Not in some weird online place but in a high street shop.

I’m going to complain to Monsoon. I would have liked to have given them the feedback instore today but the sales assistant shrugged and said ‘I’m just a sales assistant’ and the manager was ‘too busy’ to talk to –annoying people who think girls should be allowed to be children-- me.

They go up to a size 4 - I know many an adult with feet small enough to fit in them.

I allowed DD to have a small heel when she was a bridesmaid aged 8y. She loved it and felt they were a real treat. They were like this: www.felixdancewear.co.uk/proddetail.asp?prod=KatzHollyGirlsSilvr

It was one day. She loved them. They were not uncomfortable or anything. And she could always take them off if she wanted later on.

OP - give your DD another year or so. Bet she will be able to do pretty much any childlike activity regardless of what she is wearing.

I have pictures of DD climbing in a long maxi dress aged 7 or 8y, up a tree in a skirt before that , running around dancing and laughing in mini heeled shoes like the ones shown earlier.... really, nothing much stops them when they want to play!

unrulysun Mon 12-May-14 22:32:52
I don't think I said anything about being superficial? I'm not sure where that's come from? I'm worried about girls being judged on their appearance.

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But that is exactly what YOU are doing. You are judging the child based on their appearance - well, the appearance of their feet that is.

On what planet are those "high heels"?

They've got my size in stock. Hope being in my 30s is old enough...

Anyone else now getting adverts for these shoes at the top of the page thanks to Google?! :o

Think this thread has shown that adults can also fit into these shoes so they may not be just directed at children but those blessed with dainty feet

somepercentagenotcool piss off its not bollocks you rude mare

she is 14 but too small for adult clothing the knickers were in tesco last year

Deaky you said that it was all you could find, that IS bollocks.

If you had said "I saw...." then no one would have disagreed and would have said yes, it is wrong. But you didnt. You implied that you could only find those knickers for her, which isnt true is it?!

My apologies, you didnt say you only find those types, but you did imply it.

daughter cant get bras that are not padded Tshirt bras are my teens bras of choice as they hide their nipples and stops the childish boys in their school taking the piss

knickers in her age have slut tramp boys only blazed all over them Some, very few, do but most dont. Most are plain white or black.

tops are see through again, some are but the vast majority are not. The see through ones are designed to be worn over a vest top.

This takes me back to when my 4 year old came home absolutely victorious as her daddy had bought her a pair of these Monsoon heels, although prettier, multi-colours sequins. She knew I wouldn't have let her have them. I then had the embarrassment of taking her to parties for the next six months with these bloody shoes on and watching all the mums pursing their lips. I was so happy when she grew out out of them.

What, Tesco were selling underwear aimed at 14 year olds with the words 'slut tramp boys only' written on them?
Yes, I am sure that is absolutely true

Well I never thought I'd ever describe a loo brush as the best thing ever (which I've done on another thread tonight )nor that I'd be Googling Tesco underwear, but just have and what do you know- they have a range of very pretty, practical briefs and knickers for girls.

No thongs or slutty slogans in sight, although no doubt the fact some are pink with flowers and pink unicorns will mean they are not suitably utilitarian.

I agree girls shouldn't be trained to value pretty above all else, same applies for everyone with appearance. I don't agree that these shoes would cause it, or that they are harmful/damaging. If you don't like them, don't buy them. They're not so inherently offensive that they warrant a complain to the manager/letter to head office in the way that the supermarket mental hospital escapee fancy dress costume was.

Oh god I was expecting "pole dance platforms"

Over reaction , much.

Ever seen kids at an occasion? They run round bare foot within a couple if hours regardless of what shoes they had on. Occasional use as a bridesmaid out fit is just fine and clearly what they are for.

Testing are girls "trained to value pretty?" I'm fairly certain I wasn't but I like pretty shoes. Given a choice of a pair of say Crocs, Birkenstocks or a kitten heel shoe I'll take the kitten heel every time. I hate ugly shoes and c this idea that unattractive shoes and clothing are somehow more worthy.

Seeing as quite a few 14 year olds would be in adult sized clothes my bet is they were from a range aimed at 18-21 year olds.

I don't see anything wrong with these as occasion shoes for the over 3s.
Either the OP is easily horrified or a savvy member of the Monsoon marketing team...

My daughter is 14 ,she has kids knickers from Tesco (age 11-12) with spots and stripes. They were exactly the same as the ones for age 2-3. As far as I know the range goes up to age 13. Peacocks also stock children's clothes up to age 14.
My daughter has special needs so I have to choose all her clothes for her - I have never once had any problems finding age appropriate clothes for her, in Tesco or anywhere else. In fact, I'm usually spoilt for choice.
Oh yes, about the shoes. I would have been happy for her to wear them from about age 4 onwards. I would have loved to have worn them when I was a little girl but I never had the opportunity.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the shoes for special occasions. My 8 year old has a similar pair from Monsoon, she had no problem Gangnam Style-ing in them at the school disco, or dancing up a storm at a friend's recent wedding.

And as for the posts about "can't get bras that are not padded", I have a 12 year old and I've never had a problem buying her non-padded bras - yes, there are padded bras out there, but there are just as many non padded. I've recently bought her some plain white non-padded bras from Matalan, Primark and BHS.

There may be "slutty" knickers for sale, I've recently bought packs of plain white, stripey, printed with little owls knickers

And see thought tops 1 yes, DD has a few, she loves them, so she wears them with the vest top that comes with it as a set, or I've bought a load of vest tops. She also likes cropped tops, I've bought longer vests to layer underneath.

Those shoes go up to a size 3, which I am. They go from children's sizes 7-13 to smaller adults sizes 1-3.
Where's your complaint? this would look lovely with a lilac floaty dress just for one day. Check out the "rose cascade dress" under it, a little girl would look very pretty in this!
Whats the problem, really?

I'm with you OP - I don't see why any pre-teen needs shoes with heels, it doesn't look pretty, it looks weird.

Admittedly they aren't as bad as the sparkly monstrosities they have in Brantano.

It's perfectly possible to make pretty satin shoes for children which are age appropriate (and not like crappy ballet flats either).

of course they don't need heels. No woman needs heels. Nobody needs shoes other than a flat brown laceup, but since this is isn't North Korea we can all choose the shoes we like.
And if a kid wants the tiniest hint of what is almost a heel on a special occasion shoe, who could really give a fuck?

Caitlin17 trained might be the wrong word, but I think that valuing pretty above all other considerations is pretty stupid. If I'm buying shoes, I'm considering, in no particular order, prettiness, price, fit, comfort, whether I can walk in them, what I can wear them with, whether I have anything similar, durability etc. By all means wear kitten heels and reject crocs, neither are for me, but don't whine if the kitten heels are always giving you blisters or preventing you from walking etc. I agree with you that ugly shoes aren't inherently worthy, they're just ugly shoes.

Tesco website: www.clothingattesco.com/kids/socks+underwear/icat/kids-socks-and-underwear#esp_cf=pdxtproducttype&esp_filter_pdxtgender=Girls&esp_filter_pdxtproducttype=Underwear&esp_filter_pdxtproducttype=Briefs&esp_viewall=y

Pretty much all of these seem NOT to have inappropriate slogans on them.