To think that if your feet are small enough to wear these shoes you are too young for high heels?

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I saw these shoes in a branch of Monsoon today. I see plenty of things for little girls which make me roll my eyes but these actually made me stop and stare and then a few minutes later go back into the shop to talk to someone.

The heel on these is a good inch high. My DD is 3 and her feet are size 9. The ones I saw were in a size 7 which I think DD last had when she was 2. She’s not particularly enormous for her age so I think these shoes are definitely for 2 – 3 year olds. I don’t know what size they go down to. AIBU to think that a 2 or 3 year old shouldn’t be walking around in high heels? This isn’t wearing your mum’s high heels this is ‘these are your new shoes’.

And yy I know ‘you don’t need to buy them if you don’t want to’ and I won’t buy them. But I care about the little girls who they are bought for. I don’t think any little girl should be put into shoes like this. Frankly I’d be worried DD would twist an ankle in heels this high. She certainly wouldn’t be able to run or play. And I’m sad that these are on sale for little girls. Not in some weird online place but in a high street shop.

I’m going to complain to Monsoon. I would have liked to have given them the feedback instore today but the sales assistant shrugged and said ‘I’m just a sales assistant’ and the manager was ‘too busy’ to talk to –annoying people who think girls should be allowed to be children-- me.

I personally wouldn't buy them for my DD but I wouldn't be horrified or judgy if I saw another 5 year old wearing them. My dd is almost 6 and only a size 9 shoe.I'm sure there are plenty of 6 year olds with even smaller sized feet. I can't imagine anyone buying them for a child under three.

They are clearly a special occasion shoe. I'd imagine them being worn by a little bridesmaid who would walk down the aisle in them and and then take them off and run around at the wedding reception venue barefoot.

I really don't see the problem.

And i do get annoyed with the attitude that everything girly or pink or pretty even is wrong. As a pp said, it is an option not something you have to buy so stop the judgements.

And children are probably children for a lot longer now. Did we not used to send them up the chimneys. I dont think the wearing if bridesmaid shoes once is going to make them old before their time.

I think the OP started this thread thinking everyone would nod sagely along and repeat 'let girls be girls' over and over, whilst pledging to never shop in Monsoon again.

Instead, most people have concluded that the OP is, quite frankly, bonkers.

Honestly when I saw this thread title and the outrage and the 'stopping and staring at them for a few minutes' I thought Monsoon were selling something like this for kids.

Tap shoes have the same size heel - baby ballet and tap starts at age 2 or 3.

Ballet character shoes needed for rad grade 1 so age 7 have same heel.

Don't get the fuss at all. They are for an hour or so wear at a party.

Dd is 8 and a size 3. She has 2 pairs of the monsoon shoes and another similar white pair for her first communion. Much better IMO than the flat ballet pump style as they have a strap to keep them on.

slight heel? they are 1" high what is wrong with flat shoes for a special occasion that way you could use them again?

these are the same people who sell bras and thongs to children who should be wearing vests and knickers its all part of the sexualisation of children and im not buying it there has been a case in court where a man accused of having (attempting i should say) sex with a child his excuse was she was dressed as an adult so he couldn't see the difference which is nasty as hell totally out of order but it throws the blame to the mom who dressed her that day in a lot of peoples minds (doesn't matter if its true as a mom you blame yourself anyway)

there was a campaign to let kids be kids and not sexualise them in anyway it died a death because people don't see the harm in it i do my daughter cant get bras that are not padded knickers in her age have slut tramp boys only blazed all over them tops are see through etc etc its a struggle to get her into a t-shirt that doesn't drop to the one side exposing her bra strap i think its a shame

the problem here is twofold one the shoes are not really suitable for the age range they will have to walk down the aisle pose for photos go the the party its hard wearing on my feet let alone a child

two you really can't use them again because after all the tottering around they do not want to wear them again so they end up chucked

op yanbu complaining will get you nowhere but it will make you feel better

I completely agree kids should be kids but in this case I think YABU. They're not "high heels" as you say. They're a low court shoe with a sensible band over the top and a broad base. They're in lilac so I don't think they'll be used for anything other than a one-off wedding. After the formal bit the girl might even slip them off and run about the dance floor in her bare feet. Any sensible parent probably wouldn't buy them for a 3 year old or might only put them on them for the church bit for an hour. Any 3 year old that didn't feel comfortable in them would kick a fuss up.

They are no different from the type of shoe sold for similar occasions when I was a kid about 40 years ago. An 8 year old might like the small heel and feel a bit grown up at a wedding wearing them. She might not but they are for a specific occasion so could probably keep them on for the short time she'd have to wear them. I agree let kids be kids and I don't like fashion particularly on kids but these are not everyday shoes.

deakymom how old is your daughter ? Mine is 14, and I've never seen knickers in her age range like the ones you describe, or thongs, or indeed had any difficulty in buying her unpadded bras, or t-shirts that fit properly.

I just wish you could get shoes with a heel like that in a size 8. It seems we are all now condemned to wear the fugly duck-walk 4 inch heels, or trainers.

so I'm wearing trainers.

I think yanbu

Children should always have comfy feet.

No high heels ever until 12/13 or so imo

Dd1 always had huge feet. At 14 months old her first pair of shoes were 6.5, when she started school she was a 13.5.

By comparison dd2 is 4 and a half and a size 8 (dd1 was size 8 when she was 22 months old!)

Both ds have average feet (I think) ds1 is 7 and size 1 and ds2 is 2 and a size 6.5

My feet are small enough to fit those shoes, will I have to wait till I am a big girl for me to be allowed to wear heels

My DD has staggered around the house playing dress up in these since she was three www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/9331048.htm?CMPID=GS001&_$ja=cgid:7915289327|tsid:41259|cid:162026447|lid:46591534007|nw:g|crid:37839468647|rnd:14959439336772220630|dvc:c|adp:1o2.

I don't see the harm in a 14 year old wearing a thong. They are only to prevent vpl.
Surely a 14 year old fits in adult dress sizes?

knickers in her age have slut tramp boys only blazed all over them

Absolute bollocks.

slithytove I still have to buy children's clothes for my 14 year old, even size 6 is too big for her.

I always liked a padded bra when I was young as it covered me up more so that my nipples ( or the shape of them) couldn't be seen through my school blouse. I didn't see it as sexualising - more the opposite!

Fair enough mummy probably far better than being the size 12 I was!

DD wore way higher heels than that when she was a bridesmaid as her dress was too long and very hard to alter.

deaky goodness knows where you're shopping but your post sounds highly exaggerated. And really I thought we would at least agree on one thing, if nothing else, that what a woman or girl wears is never an invitation to rape.

The shoes in question are not high heeled or sexualised.

They are about the same height as a tap shoe heel in that size, they are obviously not for every day use

Dd1 is 11, she has size 13 or possibly a 1 feet. Dd2 is 7 3/4 and she takes a 10.

Not especially helpful but not all girls have big feet!

Dd1 has some wedge heels, she can't walk very far in them - after her school disco she concluded they were very uncomfortable and has gone back to converse and Birkenstocks!!

Those shoes are for special occasions, I really don't see the harm in it. I would be happy for mine to have worn those for a wedding say from about age 5 or 6 (ie they could walk in them!).