To think that if your feet are small enough to wear these shoes you are too young for high heels?

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I saw these shoes in a branch of Monsoon today. I see plenty of things for little girls which make me roll my eyes but these actually made me stop and stare and then a few minutes later go back into the shop to talk to someone.

The heel on these is a good inch high. My DD is 3 and her feet are size 9. The ones I saw were in a size 7 which I think DD last had when she was 2. She’s not particularly enormous for her age so I think these shoes are definitely for 2 – 3 year olds. I don’t know what size they go down to. AIBU to think that a 2 or 3 year old shouldn’t be walking around in high heels? This isn’t wearing your mum’s high heels this is ‘these are your new shoes’.

And yy I know ‘you don’t need to buy them if you don’t want to’ and I won’t buy them. But I care about the little girls who they are bought for. I don’t think any little girl should be put into shoes like this. Frankly I’d be worried DD would twist an ankle in heels this high. She certainly wouldn’t be able to run or play. And I’m sad that these are on sale for little girls. Not in some weird online place but in a high street shop.

I’m going to complain to Monsoon. I would have liked to have given them the feedback instore today but the sales assistant shrugged and said ‘I’m just a sales assistant’ and the manager was ‘too busy’ to talk to –annoying people who think girls should be allowed to be children-- me.

This thread is sucking the fun out of my life that's for sure. I am off to find something less ridiculous.....

If someone is judging a person based on their appearance the problem is with with the judger, not the person wearing pretty shoes.

Why should someone have to wear boring shoes just because you're worried about someone's opinion of her?

YABU, if you saw my 3yo running up and down the stairs in my wedding shoes you'd probably report me to SS!!! :p

cardi - I honeslty don't think my views on children's clothing are superior they are right for em and mine, and I dont understand anyone ever wearing seriously uncomfortable clothing. But superior? No. Just different.

I also didn't ay anythign about 'traditional' bridesmaid dresses. I said I didn't ask my bridemaids to wear anythign specific - they were given a colour scheme, and aksed ot have their clothing/part of made from the same swatch of material, for matching purposes. And that was it. They actually chose very traditional (imo) styles - typical young child cotton dress-style.

maybe I only know people with similar clothing outlook, who knows.

you're right - in one respect I don't think bridesmaids shoudl have to wear 'traditional' dresses - as I said earlier, I would have been happy whatever they wore, as was after comfort and enjoyment. be that traditional dresses, suits and ties for pageboys, or trousers for girls and relaxed linen for boys - I couldn't give a stuff. what I didn't do was dictate what they wore style wise. at all.

It's not about that, it's about how we judge girls and women.

Now I completely agree with you on that. Girls are being sold very short these days and are bing turned into pink princesses when they should be aspiring to become engineers not a 'celebrity'.

However, your first post was about why are they selling a shoe with this high a heel and why wouldn't the shop manager talk to me about it?

Grocklebox if you're going to say you find someone incomprehensible it helps if you don't use the phrase 'ude cms' in your post.

Size 3? Where is that in the OP?

when they should be aspiring to become engineers not a 'celebrity'.

If that's their dream to be a singer or actor, why knock it?

Why do girls have to be engineers? What if they want to be beauticians or fashion designers? Are those not equally valid careers?

Princessbabycat you have missed the point. Quite a lot. The point is that we shouldn't judge people (girls/women) on their appearance. Not that we should and I am worried about people judging DD as superficial.

My dd aspires to be a dancer/singer/actor. She has no desire for celebrity.

I've had a closer look at the shoes & they really are very little different to the styles of some dance shoes.

My four year old is a size 26. And I havent a notion what an inch is. Its the 21st century, where we ude cms.

Sorry you have no idea what an inch is. How debilitating. I find google is usually quite good as a tool to find things out.

I bet the op turns up on another forum in one of those 'retail staff, what do customers do to annoy you' threads.

Redsolocup I said in my OP this isn't about kids wearing mum's high heels. If that reassures you any :)

OH USE CMS! Right. I get it.

What an unfortunate typo.

The point is that we shouldn't judge people (girls/women) on their appearance.

For someone thinks people shouldn't judge on appearances you certainly are very concerned about a silly pair of shoes.

So what if people thinks you DD is superficial? I don't know her and I could think she's a brat for all you know. Does it matter what I or anyone else thinks about her? If she isn't being judged for her shoes, it'll be for something else.

Perhaps you should sit down and think about why you care so much about someone else's opinion of you or your DD.

I care that girls and women are judged on their looks and appearance. I think you may have missed my point again...

Here in the UK shoes are made & sold in those sizing a, inches are still Commonly in use in clothes measurements.

I have no idea what a size 26 is (other than a 26 in bra back or 26 inch waist skirt)

I have missed no point. I'm saying changing how you dress based on someone else's judgement or opinion is stupid.

Well thanks people. It's certainly been eye-opening. Nighty night.

:)

so, going by your point then, Princess, no small girl shoudl get dressed up to be a bridesmaid, because to wear shoes with heels on, for one 'special' day, because it is expected, would be a ridiculous thing to do, wouldn't it?

Yes princess you have missed the point.

I am saying what you have just said. That we should not, as women and girls, be overly concerned with our appearance or looks.

And as an extension of that that clothes that prioritise being pretty over being comfy encourage us to do just that.

And that putting a heel on a pair of shoes for a little girl is the epitome of that attitude.

And now I really am off to bed.

Night night.

I would totally agree with you about high heels if they were high heels. But they arent. So your argument is specious.

Btw, pointing out my typos (my eyesight is v poor and my screen small) doesnt affect your oldfashioned and incomprehensible measurements.

EU shoe size 26 is UK junior 8 or 8.5

An inch is 2 and a bit cms

Aww I thought it was going to be something along these lines. I can see how wee girls would twist their ankles/struggle to walk in these 1.5" kitten heels, but I think that they would be hard pressed to hurt themselves in those shoes. Just had a look at the photos from a wedding I went to last weekend - all three flowergirls were wearing shoes like these, and they were running around non-stop till around 10pm...

They're pretty for a day or so' swear in a year - wedding/Christmas.

Not necessary but it would be a dull world if we only wore necessary clothing.

Wouldn't be too hard to run in either and if they were most kids would take them off.