Oooooo she's very pretty - fuck off

[Putthenerfdown]

NC for this and in no way a stealth boast.

AIBU to be sick of hearing this about myself.

Met DPs family for the first time. We went for dinner and I was polite, we had an interesting discussion about the elections, I talked to his mum about books, we had a good time. I sent a nice text the next day thanking them for paying for the meal.

DP spoke to them today. I asked him if they had a good time "yes they enjoyed it, they said how pretty you are". Um ok...anything else "no just that your pretty oh and my DM thinks your very slim"

Which is lovely. Unless your bored of bring pretty or having a nice figure. And yes I TOTALLY know how this reads (like I'm a conceited bitch). But I've heard this for years and just once it would be nice to be funny or clever or kind or interesting and not yes she's got good genes.

AIBU and should shut up or not? DP doesn't see the problem "but you are pretty" was his reply.

[CoteDAzur]

I wasn't talking about "fuck off" at all. See my last post re "feminist issue". Massive communication fail

[Sazzle41]

I'm with bakingaddict. Work with a few stunning looking women but they seem unable to cope or join in with banter on team outings and have been described by a male colleague as 'empty vases' (nice to look at, nothing in it). Kim Kardashian is a case in point (I know, I know, but trash tv is a guilty wind down pleasure). She is fine being photod, but anything like meet & greets with new corporate giants re brand mergers and she curls up & dies and her younger supposedly 'not so attractive' sister (Id argue with that, stunning curves and 5ft10) positively shines: and shows where the real brains/personality of the operation is.

[Sazzle41]

I'm with bakingaddict. Work with a few stunning looking women but they seem unable to cope or join in with the mild p*ss taking and banter on team outings which the rest of us enjoy: and have been described by a male colleague as 'empty vases' (nice to look at, nothing in it). Kim Kardashian is a case in point (I know, I know, but trash tv is a guilty wind down pleasure). She is fine being photod, but anything like meet & greets with corporate giants re brand mergers/aligning & she curls up & dies and her younger supposedly 'not so attractive' sister (Id argue with that, stunning curves & 5ft10) positively shines: & shows where the real brains/personality of the operation is. Again, apols re the trash tv habit ... its the houses i look at funnily enuff, all that marble & sparkly chandeliers, like posh hotels!

[struggling100]

Jesus Christ on a bendy bus. Holds head in hands

[waterlego6064]

Sazzle, that's a lot of stereotyping! (And based on a very small sample). Are you saying you've never met a stunningly attractive person who was also intelligent and had an interesting character? They do exist you know!

Did someone mention good-looking lawyers? I met a barrister recently with more than a passing resemblance to Johnny Depp. But I noticed his impressive intelligence and professional track record before I realised that he was hot. Not really

[Thumbwitch]

I agree with AtrociousCircumstance - it's so reductive to just call you "pretty" and ignore everything else about you.

I don't have this problem myself so I'm not in any way identifying with you - but I can honestly see how it could get really annoying that "being pretty" is the best people can come up with to say about you after having chatted with
you for some time, or known you for a while.

I do also think that the PP who suggested that your reaction to this is rooted in your Mum's behaviour has a point as well though - clearly your Mum thought your looks were more important then your achievements, and that must have stung! - and this has set up a pattern for you where you feel as though your actual achievements are being overlooked in favour or your looks.

[FourForksAche]

cote, I do apologise, I wasn't sure whose post you were commenting on as you hadn't said and the context wasn't clear.

[CoteDAzur]

Four - I was indeed replying to you because I had thought you replied to me. As I said, massive fail

I wish MN boards were such that each reply would branch under the post it is replying to...

[Sallystyle]

Jesus Christ on a bendy bus



I am so going to start using that from now on.

[JapaneseMargaret]

Yes that's right, sazzle, beautiful women are devoid of personality, and women with intellect, wit and a GSOH are inevitably plain/rough.

Thanks for clearing that up for us.

[FourForksAche]

Got fat? better get a sense of humour quick ;-)

Yes, been there.

[waterlego6064]

jolly and bubbly

And slim women are actually skinny, miserable and bitches

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Sazzle are you serious? Come on.

[HercShipwright]

water well, it's true I'm sometimes miserable. And sometimes a bitch. But most people comment on my achievements. And it's always been that way.