Nursery went home and left dd!

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Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

Hope all goes well today OP, stay strong and clear and be as factual as possible in your meeting gets point of thread

Agree on every point Goldmandra.

This is getting a bit silly now

Some people believe it, some people don't and some still need to RTFT.

I think there are a couple of newbs on this thread who don't realise that you will always be deleted for troll hunting on Mumsnet but not necessarily for calling someone a cunt. HQ classify "I don't believe this" as troll hunting. So, really, FunnyFoot, you need to give up now because all your posts will simply be deleted.

Christ, what a nightmare. That nursery doesn't deserve to have any children in their care if they can't account for them all!

I have a nosebleed.

How did I miss this yesterday?

wrong thread

Understood.

What Mintyy said ^

She's talking sense as usual.

I think people who spend their time insisting anything slightly out of the ordinary is not true or "trolling" have far too much time on their hands and have a very blinkered view of life. Mistakes are made, unfortunate incidents do occur you know, why are you finding it so hard to believe that this could happen? Especially when there are people who have worked in these establishments saying that it has happened before or could easily happen or do you not believe them either? Are they trolls too, is that what you think?

It's not the trolls that are ruining Mumsnet, it's all the suspicious troll hunting smuggery from many of the posters on here.

OP, good luck for today, don't be put off by a few people who really need to find something better to occupy their time.

I think this sort of thing could very easily happen if there isn't a rock solid procedure that is followed every single time.

I just wanted to wish you all the best OP in dealing with what should have been 100% avoidable by the nursery staff. Hope you and your DD are ok this morning and I hope you give them hell over this!

Best of luck to you.

It's not the trolls that are ruining Mumsnet, it's all the suspicious troll hunting smuggery from many of the posters on here.

Couldn't agree more, Ladymoods.

If you don't want to be called a twat, don't be a twat.

I've never reported so many posts on one thread as this one. I hope you're all ashamed of yourselves.

Anyway, while I can see why some of your would call the police immediately, I wouldn't, because my first assumption would never be that my child was locked in/missing, because that should never happen. Instead I would assume that they just couldn't hear me knock or had moved over to the school for some reason, not that she was in an emergency situation. So I would look for answers as to where everyone had gone before panic set in.

I agree lady, those who gave worked in childcare settings or similar ave seen incidence like this happen, or potential to happen.

trolls do a lot of damage actually.

denying that is foolish

Bloody hell, people are so nasty sometimes! Actually, I know of two serious incidents involving a nursery that didn't even make the local news - one was the incident I mentioned earlier where a toddler was left behind on a trip. The other was a child being lifted out of a high chair by their arm, and having their elbow dislocated. Both 100% true, but didn't come to the attention of the Press.

trolls do a lot of damage actually

Yes, they do... just look at the damage FunnyFoot and her little gang of bullies trolls are causing on this thread. IF you don't believe the thread stay off it.

Leave the OP alone ffs...

"Anyway, while I can see why some of your would call the police immediately, I wouldn't, because my first assumption would never be that my child was locked in/missing, because that should never happen. Instead I would assume that they just couldn't hear me knock or had moved over to the school for some reason,"

Yy Annie. Or that a child or staff member had had an accident last thing and ratios were such that all had to go to A&E and for some reason a text hadn't got through (I'm sure we've all had texts that arrived hours after they were sent occasionally)

Bear in mind from the time OP got there to the time she got DD it was half an hour - I'm sure she tried for 5-10 mins to ring the bell, knock on the windows, call the nursery office, check her emails and texts repeatedly etc etc. Then spot a light on in the school, go over there - 5 mins, explain situation and find out no boiler issues or fire or accident - 5 mins, summon caretaker - 5 mins, get keys and get into nursery 5-10 mins. Not a lot of time left for calling the police, who might have taken longer to achieve the same and would probably have told her to try and find someone from the school whilst they were on their wAy anyway.

I can believe this, sadly. When we moved to this area we went to look round all the local nurseries - one in particular looked lovely on paper with a sensory/softplay room. We were looking round, all children on the top floor of 3 having tea, worked our way down, member of staff opens sensory room door, and there in the dark was a 3 year old, silently crying. He'd been there at least half an hour (possibly more as they'd all been in the garden before tea, the door to which was by the sensory room so don't know if he'd gone in before or after), had no way of getting out, and no one had noticed at any point.
We reported them to OFSTED

Have you been up most the night posting on this thread. Seriously you. EEC to let if go. Your insistence is becoming unhealthy now, please get some sleep or something.

sounds like a band

That was to funny foot. But half my post disappeared how odd.

This thread is an awful bloody mess.

It would actually be funny if the original subject matter weren't so serious.

OP