Nursery went home and left dd!

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Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

Glad she is ok, bloody hell OP

I'd not be going to the meeting tomorrow, unless LA/child safeguarding team/ofsted were involved.
This situation needs a thorough investigation, it mustn't be swept under the carpet with an apology.

I'm really not sure of the relevance of pointing out that DP isn't the father.

I think it is poor form sign-posting others to the OP's other thread which is highly personal, and one in which she was asking for support.

I don't like the tone of some of the posts on the thread. There is a lot of troll hunting and victim blaming. I can't decide which is worse, but not what the OP needs.

I'm a bit perplexed that anyone would think that people being shocked that a 2 year old could be forgotten about and left in nursery while everyone went home is 'frothing'.

That's not simply a 'mistake' but potentially incredibly serious. And it suggests that procedures at the nursery are woefully inadequate or not properly followed. It's not forgetting to turn the lights off when you go home or putting a nappy from the wrong child's pile on a child (although even that could also be serious as some children are quite badly allergic to some nappies - but still, it's hardly forgetting a child).

This is too insane to make up. I believe the op.

Bloody hell.

Can't believe no one from the nursery have been in touch.

Hope you're having some

God some of you are real shits, d'ya know that?! Dragging up personal stuff from other threads is beyond the pale.

No, I agree its worth contacting the police too. Leaving a 2 yo alone in a buildng when you are in loco parentis seems to me to be a potential criminal matter. Not 100% sure though.

Am so shocked at this!!

Funny foot I think it's a bit harsh looking through op post.

Nice, waltermitty. Let's all bully spider now

I'm not bullying anyone.

Grow up.

When I 1st started to work with children at a nursery, my lazy colleague left a child in the loo.
But is wasn't home time luckily.
The children in her care were to have lunch in a room upstairs, so she did the toilet routine and took 7 kids upstairs instead of 8.
After everyone started eating, one of the children asked for littleXXX and after a frantic search, she was found alone downstairs in the loo. She was 3 years old.
The manager was friends with my colleague who was a massive ass licker btw and absolutely nothing happened.
I wish I knew about whistle blowing at that time, I had just started as a helper on a zero hour contract and my only sort of training at that time was being a mum to a 2 year old.
This colleague had experience and training.

I was working in another room at the time the incident happened btw.

Unfortunately childcare is a low paid job that attracts a lot of people who don't have relevant qualifications / training / passion.

I have had over the years a lot of colleagues who didn't care.

I have seen a nursery teacher pushing a child. She also said to another one that he eats like an animal.

I became a CM once I had enough but I am now trying to go back into nurseries, however, only if it is attached to a primary school though.

Shocking. There is no such thing as an accident, it is someones neglect or carelessness, they need to be held accountable.

If I made a serious mistake at work, I'd be held accountable and disciplined and I only work with money, not humans!

This is in no way the fault of the OP.

Funnyfoot the only reason you would be searching through OPs posting history is if you suspect them of being a troll. Why don't you just report the thread or hide it?

No,its not a police matter.its a local authority matter and safeguarding

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OP, do you have any alternative arrangements you can make for childcare?

I think I recalled you posting that your family was 1 1/2 hours away. Do you know of any childminders who might be able to help out?

FWIW, my DC went from a nursery setting to a CM, and they enjoyed it so much more - they much preferred the homely environment.

Good luck with arrangements.

I hope you and dd are ok op. Such a shocking and awful situation for you all. Good luck with the next few days/weeks and I'm glad the other school's head is so on the ball.

Sadly this sort of shit can happen and does happen when you have inept staff.

I hope your DD is ok

I agree and posted such minty that it should certainly be police matter.

Besides which so what if I did want to advance search? It is not a crime. Not banned by MNHQ so what the actual fuck has it got to do with anyone if I do advance search?

Maybe we should concentrate on supporting the op and not arguing amongst ourselves?

Hope you get some explanations and assurances tomorrow op

OP, if you attend the meeting with the nursery tomorrow, please take a friend with you who can take notes. It's likely that you'll be too emotional (understandably) to remember all that is said.

Best of luck. Hope your daughter is ok.