Nursery went home and left dd!

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Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

OP don't let the troll hunters make you feel bad or need to justify any of your actions.
It is truly shocking that you and your dd have been let down by this. Hope you get some support from ofsted.

Spider, OP went through something very fucking scary, and your judging her on the fact she works. wow, just wow.

Spider! What an idiot.

Yes, I would also be telling anyone and everyone (including the press if you feel up to it).

spider some people have no flaming choice. I hope you never have to live the life of a full time working family.

This isn't a police matter.it is a local authority and safeguarding matter

Think spiders point was that the kid was at nursery all day, then left alone and the first thing hmm does at home is go on mumsnet. Not about the working.

Sweet mother of Jesus.... That does NOT bear thinking about. DS3 is the same age as your little one and I can't imagine him being stuck in his nursery building all alone.

Hugs OP and DO feel free to give them merry hell tomorrow!

Hysterical.

Hysterical would be contacting ofstead because they send the wrong surname home on a private document ( which has happened in which the school corrected)

This is a serious matter.

spider ridiculous assumptions and do you know some people have no choice but to put their children into nursery so they can earn a living! !!

Yes, waltermitty, I am aware of what happened, as my post clearly states. What is needed is rational action, not shouting and screaming. This is a very serious incident, as I have clearly stated, but hysteria doesn't help in serious situations

Don'tcare, the dad was home too, the kid was happy with her lemonade having been sorted out, and the OP wanted to vent. I see nothing wrong with that. It's no difference to sounding off to a neighbour about it.

I suspect not spider posted equally judgemental comment an other thread about working mum recently. I suspect spider has issue with working mums.

Whether it was done on purpose and how bad the staff feel isn't the point, someone (probably multiple staff who failed to check the building properly) needs to be severely reprimanded for what's happened. A 2 year old alone in a locked building is very serious, anything could have happened to her and it's lucky in a way she was too scared to come out of the toilet cubicle and didn't go wandering around possibly injuring herself. I would want that nursery shut down in the OP's shoes.

The rational reaction is to assume someone didn't sweep the building properly before they locked up, and that this was negligent and needs reporting to OFSTED, which is the appropriate channel. It is also appropriate to pull the child out of this nursery with immediate effect. I am saying that with my professional hat on.

My god, OP. What an awful, awful awful thing to have happen. The school head sounds fantastic.

This is very very serious and the nursery needs to close. I am sure Ofsted and the LEA are going to be all over them like flies on shit.

My husband and I are open mouthed in horror thinking about if this had happened to our toddler.

I hope your DD sleeps well and is not too upset in the morning.

I pride myself on being a calm person but I would be waiting for the manager in the morning to pin her to a wall and threaten her serious bodily harm

Is not the DD's father Boffin. Is DP.

Not a dig just felt a stupid need to point that out.

InSpace being angry about something as unforgiveable as this is not hysteria.

Its been a few years since my kids were in nursery but we had to do heroic levels of signing out and signing in the kid, the parents, etc etc each time. Whoever locked up should have been able to look at a book and tell that the OP's daughter hadn't been signed out, surely. And if not-or if they thought that a mistake had been made-why not?

Also, I know that the staff in my kids' nurseries always checked the loos and anywhere else a kid might be lurking-for this very reason.

don't be an idiot spider, it would have been just the same if the child was in a nursery that was mornings only. THE CHILD WAS LOCKED IN AND LEFT. this is NOT the thread for a debate about working vs sahm

you should be ashamed of yourself

Nice, waltermitty. Let's all bully spider now

funnyfoot I don't think there was anything wrong with it, but there were some people wondering where the OP had gone, and just at that moment she popped up again, and you posted "Nicely timed post there."
I think someone was wondering if that meant, "Phew, you're proving you haven't buggered off" or, more cynically, "all part of the troll's cunning plan to post again just as people are doubting."

God, this MN malarkey is a minefield!

Fwiw - I started reading this thread using the app and it was only when I saw all the posts aimed at Hen to RTFT that I switched to the mobile site and saw that there were around 300 posts missing including all the updates from the OP. It seems the app is not displaying all posts, which may be why there are a lot of people asking questions that the oP has answered. I was getting v confused as to where everyone was getting their info from.