To want to skin the Ba*#%rd ?!

[Sonumb]

I am so ashamed/embarrassed

My Ex 'DP' has given me an STD we split up just over a fortnight ago when I found out he had been cheating on me for 4 months
I'm 10 weeks pregnant & I am beyond fuming I actually want to rip his head off
As if I didn't feel bad enough as it was now I just feel so dirty & if it harms my baby in anyway I will have to kill him

I have been given Antibiotics so at least I have caught it early
Is their anything I need to do ?

[Topaz25]

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. At least you have caught it early and been treated. Check with your Dr if there is anything else you need to do but it should be OK. The consequences for you and the baby could have been very serious if you had not been treated though so if your ex ever tries to worm his way back in, always remember he was prepared to risk your life and the life of your unborn child by cheating on you, not even using protection and then denying responsibility.

Letting the OW know is the right thing to do, otherwise she might infect other people. I would keep your message simple and to the point: 'I have just found out ex has syphilis. You should get tested as it can be very dangerous if left untreated. I am not saying this to be vindictive but out of genuine concern for your health.' Then TBH I would block her because who knows how she will react and you don't need any arguments or stress. Once you have let her know then the ball is in her court and it's up to her if she gets tested, she is not your responsibility.

I hope you are able to move on and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and your life without your asshole ex.

[Topaz25]

FYI if you contact OW through Facebook and aren't on her friend's list it will go into her other messages folder not her inbox and she won't get a notification. If possible it might be best to send her the message and the post to her wall if you can to tell her to check her other messages folder. You don't need to put anything personal on her wall, just tell her to check her other messages.

[Topaz25]

*then post to her wall

[Melonbreath]

I would contact the other woman. Although I wouldn't be kind personally. Maybe a message on the lines of:

You need to go to the gum clinic. If you don't you'll wonder in a few years why you are going blind, bald and mad. I don't actually care about your fanny rot per se, but I don't want the partners of anyone else you sleep with in the future to suffer like I have.

[Sonumb]

Melon I have no intention of been kind or even nice , more blunt and to the point .

I have no intention of taking the rat back ever

[Sonumb]

Topaz Thankyou

[toomuchicecream]

A friend once nursed a man whose ex had exacted sweet revenge on him for his infidelity. The ex had let him get "excited" about being with her and had then used a sharp blade to cut him along his erection.the poor man- every time he had an erection after that (morning wood)the stitches burst. :) :) :)

[Sonumb]

too bet that hurt

[Sonumb]

I sent this message to her -

Just thought id ruin your weekend by letting you know that knob has Syphilis hope he was worth it .

[maddy68]

It could well have come from someone else! You just know about this one! I would contact her with wording such as:

This is x scumbags ex partner. I just thought you should know I have today been treated for syphyllis contracted from scumbag. He has also been tested. I suggest you get yourself tested and treated urgently.
Please do not reply i just thought you should know

[Sonumb]

She knows full well who I am so I didn't bother with an explanation

[HavannaSlife]

What a wanker, congratulations on your pregnancy

[AvoidingEasterDIY]

What a bastard - did he even bother to ask if it would affect the baby?

Congratulations on your pregnancy :)

I'm sorry he turned out to be a twat though, not what you had planned I'm sure. Wanker.

[Sonumb]

Nope he didn't even think about the baby until I pointed it out to him .

[Tanith]

You poor love

I hope this will make you smile: my best friend's slimy ex did something similar. He was prescribed cream for genital warts and, being him, didn't bother to read the instructions properly.
He therefore didn't realise the cream was supposed to be thoroughly cleaned off after 30 minutes and left it on. Ended up with chemical burns where he least wanted them

[SharonDippity]

I have a spade, very large garden and don't mind digging a hole

What a horrible twat he is. Glad you found out early enough and you and DC will be absolutely fine.

[AvoidingEasterDIY]

Tosser.

Tanith - oh poor man.

[Caitlin17]

Not relevant but why are you and the other woman contactable on Facebook? I really don't understand Facebook .

However is there no private way of letting her know? If you do you must not say either explicitly or by hints that your ex got it from her. You don't know that. If he was in a monogamous relationship for 4 years with you why was he being tested every 6 months? Either he didn't trust you or he was cheating on you. There is nothing to be gained and considerable risk in blaming her. Anyway even if she was the one who infected him it's still his fault you caught it so the question of who had it first is irrelevant.

[Sonumb]

Caitlin Its just her I can guarantee that as he isn't very good at covering up his tracks so I've manage to find quite a lot out .
The 'other' woman wanted to be friends and to play happy families before I told her to get to fuck .
To enable her to see my message I sent it with a friend request so she will see it & I'll be blocking her first thing tomorrow again
I don't see why I should have to be subtle about telling her as its not my problem how she deals with her health and I couldn't give a toss what happens to her it serves her right foe not using protection !

[Caitlin17]

OP I'm not suggesting you need care about her feelings but you might want to avoid a Facebook slanging match or worse. As for not covering his tracks, the 6 monthly STD testing was a surprise to you so he managed to cover that up Best of luck with everything .

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

Sonumb good for you! Revenge is sweet, now kill that count with kindness by focusing on you and dc - he's missing out now.

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

Cunt*

[Sonumb]

Caitlin A quick ten minute appointment is easy enough to hide as a Doctors appointment etc not like a whole new family or what not like he has been doing

[MrsWedgeAntilles]

Sorry to hear this, what a pig your ex is.
YA so NBU, if you stick your head out the window you can hear the sounds of MNetters everywhere digging out their used razor blades and stocking up on rock salt. Two glasses of wine each and you'll have a posse of thousands

STIs are pretty much my line of work. Don't feel ashamed at all. Not only are STIs nothing to be ashamed of in any case, but even if they were you did nothing to bring about this situation.

I'm never allowed to say this in consultations but what and absolute bollock faced arse cheek sandwich your ex is.

[Sonumb]

MrsWedge Thanks for making me smile