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To want to skin the Ba*#%rd ?!

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Sonumb · 25/04/2014 23:18

I am so ashamed/embarrassedSad

My Ex 'DP' has given me an STD we split up just over a fortnight ago when I found out he had been cheating on me for 4 months Angry

I'm 10 weeks pregnant & I am beyond fuming I actually want to rip his head off Sad Angry

As if I didn't feel bad enough as it was now I just feel so dirty & if it harms my baby in anyway I will have to kill him Angry Angry

I have been given Antibiotics so at least I have caught it early Sad

Is their anything I need to do ?

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AnyaKnowIt · 25/04/2014 23:21

Do you want me to hold him down.

Selfish bastard Flowers

DenzelWashington · 25/04/2014 23:24

Yes, document everything, however embarrassing it feels. Proof, should you need it in future, of how he was prepared to put you and your baby at risk.

So sorry this has happened, I do hope you're better soon.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 25/04/2014 23:24

bless you, what a disgustingly selfish, horrible twat he must be.

I know sort of how you feel, I've had one and it's horrible at the time (and still hard to admit, even just here) but if it's any consolation, I don't give it any thought now.

does he know?

Sonumb · 25/04/2014 23:25

Wouldn't take much to hold the fucker down Angry

I rang him to tell him n all he was arsed about was getting himself sorted Hmm Angry

He also said that he can't possibly have anything as he gets himself checked every six months Confused

Who on earth gets them self checked when they are in a long term relationship ?!!!!

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BlackDaisies · 25/04/2014 23:25

You have nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. Sounds you're well rid of him. I would eat lots of chocolate and take care of yourself Flowers

Sonumb · 25/04/2014 23:26

I'm too sick to eat atm as I have a terrible Migraine Sad

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HypodeemicNerdle · 25/04/2014 23:26

Buy a spade?

What a total twat. The medical professional who prescribed your antibiotics should be able to advise if there is anything else you need to do for yourself or your baby.

No reason for you to feel dirty, be kind to yourself

AgentZigzag · 25/04/2014 23:27
AgentZigzag · 25/04/2014 23:29

Congratulations though Thanks (on being pregnant and getting shot of the wanker)

YouTheCat · 25/04/2014 23:29

I think we need a posse.

What a bastard.

maddy68 · 25/04/2014 23:31

What have you got? Sounds an 'ok' one if it can be cured by antibiotics so please don't worry about your baby. At least you know what a scum bag your ex is. Sorry you are having to deal with this though :(
Don't feel dirty, almost everyone gets an sti at some stage in their life, so don't feel that you have anything to be ashamed of

Sonumb · 25/04/2014 23:33

I was to shocked to ask anything Blush

I have cyphilis (excuse my spellingBlush )

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fidelineish · 25/04/2014 23:37

Syphillis? What a shock for you.

At least you caught it early, as you say.

I'm also happy to help hold him down.

maddy68 · 25/04/2014 23:37

That's a nasty one if left untreated but you have your treatment and you and your baby will be fine let's hope his goes untreated and his knob drops off!

AnyaKnowIt · 25/04/2014 23:38

Antibiotics should sort that out.

Baby should be fine too if you are worried speak to your midwife

mineofuselessinformation · 25/04/2014 23:42

I think you would be quite entitled to cut his bollocks off, then flay him while alive with a whip made from bits of his own body. What a shit.

Sonumb · 25/04/2014 23:44

Yeah Syphillis Fid thanks for the correct spelling I can barely see or think straight Sad

He went straight to be tested & is awaiting the results , He can't understand how it could possibly happen Hmm

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 25/04/2014 23:49

Hope the twat gets a serious case of cock rot. What a dirty bastard.

I'll give you an alibi.

wheresthelight · 25/04/2014 23:49

You poor thing!! What a total c*nt your ex is!!! I vote for rusty razor blades amd then a vinegar bath!

Congratulations on the pregnancy and hope all goes well!!!

fidelineish · 25/04/2014 23:52

Actually I mistyped it too. I think it is Syphilis.

I'll draw him a diagram. What a twazzock.

fidelineish · 25/04/2014 23:54

(one 'L', that is)

Do try not to get too stressed though. Easier said that done. Have you thoigh about makig a nice voodoo doll and chopping its cock off?

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 25/04/2014 23:57

Nope it's two L's.

Not quite the point though.

Asshole. Times a million.

DoJo · 25/04/2014 23:59

You poor thing - having to deal with this on top of everything else must be a nightmare and he is a complete shit bag to have done this and to be so unrepentant.

If you want to look on the bright side:

  1. they caught it early so will be able to treat it and monitor you and the baby to make sure you are safe
  2. he's presumably now out of your life and you can concentrate on yourself and your baby without having to worry about where he is, who he's with or anything else to do with the faithless fucker
  3. you have nothing to be embarrassed about - he's the one who should be hanging his head in shame, not you and the fact that he isn't shows you just what a worthless twat he is.

Sorry I don't have any more knowledgeable input to offer, but I can't imagine anyone not being on your side here, so you can vent your rage and keep your real life blood pressure at a safe level!

Sonumb · 26/04/2014 00:00

Thanks everyone Smile.

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Sonumb · 26/04/2014 00:01

I asked if he were going to tell the woman he cheated on me with and he isn't Shock

Should I message her ?

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