To want to skin the Ba*#%rd ?!

[Sonumb]

I am so ashamed/embarrassed

My Ex 'DP' has given me an STD we split up just over a fortnight ago when I found out he had been cheating on me for 4 months

I'm 10 weeks pregnant & I am beyond fuming I actually want to rip his head off

As if I didn't feel bad enough as it was now I just feel so dirty & if it harms my baby in anyway I will have to kill him

I have been given Antibiotics so at least I have caught it early

Is their anything I need to do ?

Well someone has to tell her. Untreated Syphilis can be very very dangerous.

Anyone else who could do it? If it has to be you I would word very carefully.

Do you have full contact details for her? Could STD clinic or Dr do it? (Do they ever do that type of thing?)

I think you must tell OW.
No matter what you feel about her, even if you think she gave it to him, it is such an awful disease and potentially fatal if untreated.
What has the doctor said about your pregnancy?

Your ex DP is absolute scum IMO.

You don't have to do it tonight though OP. Give yourself a chance to breathe (and sleep off that migraine)

Personally I would try and get in touch with her - she deserves to know, and it sounds like your ex has no qualms about potentially ruining her life as well. Thank fuck you found out when you did and that he is already an ex!

I can only contact her through Facebook as she lives in a different town .
I were with him 3 years & up until 4 months ago he was completely faithful so it had to have come from her

So far my Pregnancy is doing well though I am already been closely monitored due to numerous Miscarriages so the next two weeks are going to be a very stressful wait iyswim

You have to channel Cher Horowitz's father:

"If anything happens to my daughter, I've got a .45 and a shovel. I doubt anybody would miss you."

If he was faithful why was he getting tested every 6 months?

Well if it has to be you, word it very calmly and dispassionately. We'll help if you like

Try to take things easy. You can skin the wanker ex later

What an ass.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and truly it's a good thing they caught it early, can prevent any harm to you or baby.

I would message the OW for sure, as leaving it untreated can be very bad, and she has potentially had it the longest. Obviously your ex should, but if he won't it's the decent and responsible thing to do since you're you're not only saving her health but any others that could contract it if she keeps carrying it.

How about 'Thanks for the Syphilis' or is that to blunt .

I can whole heartedly say up until 4 months ago we were in each others pockets etc so he didn't have chance to cheat then all of a sudden he was constantly 'fishing' & going away with his mum , I was just too ill to notice

That would do it. Succinct and to the point.

Maybe just a teeny leetle bit!

Seriously though, the nightmare scenario would be that she didn't believe you, blocked you and you'd then be left with the knowledge her health is at risk but no way of contacting her. That would just be extra stress.

Oh gosh, numb, I'm so sorry to hear this on top of everything else . I've been wondering how you've been doing since your first thread.

Well done to you for being on the ball enough to get a check up and I'm so glad they're able to treat it.

You just keep thinking of yourself and your baby, soon enough this will be just a memory. Un-mumsnetty hugs and for you.

Not really though. If you tell her and she chooses not to believe you then that is her lookout.

And anyway, none of this is your fault.

I'll try not to be so blunt but tbh what does she expect from jumping in to bed with a bloke & not using protection

Thanks Bex it means a lot

Fid

If I had her address I could always do a MoonPig card , that would cheer me up immensely

Oh yes! A lovely 'Sorry you've got Syph' card.

Maybe she thinks she's STD proof? No protection? What a numpty (both of them.

You're well rid aren't you?

@ MoonPig

Yup definitely well rid

I'm so sorry sonumb. You have really gone through the mill with this twat. If you ever miss him, aim better.

Buzzard