to completely give up on wearing bras?

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It started innocently enough; I would skip wearing bras if I was going on a flight, or long car ride, but now I can't seem to persuade myself to wear them at all!

I am not flat chested (36D, kind of 'wide based' if that makes any sense..). I am pretty sure that ianbu but every so often I feel unsure, mostly because of peoples reaction... my sister is appalled and her boobs are much smaller! I increasingly feel like I shouldn't have to wear a surgical support to change/camouflage the shape of my breasts every day of life.. and that men's people's reaction to the outline of my breasts through clothing is their problem... I do get anxious about whether it is unprofessional for work though, but then I get angry about how the fact that they are so over-sexualised that I feel responsible.

I would wear one if I was in a 'who has the nicest shaped boobs?' competition but am i being unreasonable to give up on wearing one for daily life?

p.s. walking, jumping, doing up and down stairs felt weird and wibbly at first, but normal now :)

Sorry, that wasn't a comment, just dropping the keyboard. As you were.

I feel a bra is essential in 99% of public situations as are other items I wouldn't go about without a bra. My shoes are uncomfortable sometimes I wouldn't consider going around barefoot and If i did I would expect strange looks. You could go without a bra but you might get some looks.

I am a 36 DD or E depending on brand and I always wear a bra when I am dressed. At work I spend my day with many boys on the verge of puberty and jiggling boobs would not be a good idea- yes, I think they'd notice!

However, whether or not you choose to wear one doesn't worry me. I'd mention it if you worked with me and your clothes drew attention to it- just as we have had to with students and short skirts/ low cut trousers and thongs etc.

If you are comfy, go for it.

I can't imagine not wearing a bra. I feel more comfortable with one on and clothes look better. But if you don't want to wear one yanbu.

The idea that its unprofessional is just plain odd. Bras tend to make breasts much more in your face. A bra is optional as long as you're not wearing sheer tops.

I wouldnt feel comfortable if I didnt wear one. Kinda naked. But I do love taking it of at the end of the day.so can understand where your coming from. its your body do what you want OP.

It's personal taste I guess. Offices also aren't exactly normal life are they? Odd stuff really grated that isn't so bad in a park...

A person is able to be offended hurt and discuss it with hr by over hearing a comment not even about themselves. So yes, something that is pertinent(?) can easily happen.

You can't go bra less to work. Are you crazy? It will be totally obvious, people will notice and look at your tits far more than they would if you wore one. I really dislike the sight of large breasts clearly bra less through clothes. Not nice.

I think it's weird how freaked out people have become about natural breast shapes. In the other parts of the world people don't necessarily wear bras, regardless of age and size.
I just don't see that it's that big a deal. I guess it's yet another way women have to conform more and more to a certain appearance, or be judged. Sad.

Offices also aren't exactly normal life are they?

Well, I usually spend at least 40 hours a week in mine, usually more. Given I aim to spend around 56 hours asleep , that's a fair old chunk of my life not being normal.

Don't they get saggier faster if you don't wear a bra? Isn't that why "a well fitted bra" is so important to prevent sag & back pain? Where are the bra-interventionistas?

I can't think without bra on. It's like plugging my brain in each morning. And I'm only 34D (ish).

PMSL @ Binkyresurrected .

I go braless more often than not. I'm baggy & saggy these days - hanging loose makes me look fatter & older, but what the hell. I didn't wear bras very often while thinner & perkier, either, including at work and in tight clothes. I have sticky-outy nipples which showed even through shell bras, so any unwelcome attention was coming my way regardless.

The only negative comment that really cut was from my best frenemy, who remarked on my boobs 'swinging all over the place'. I agree with whoever said that shows her problem, not mine, as they were only behaving like boobs! It's true that most other cultures are more at ease with natural boob behaviour - but, ime, people aren't generally that bothered by it here, either.

I can't think without bra on.

So THAT'S where you keep your brains!

I have never worn a bra much, other than pretty ones designed to be seen through clothing. Even for work. I have small boobs which still point in the right direction aged 48. The only problem I have is making sure my nipples don't look that obvious especially for work! I feel strangled in bras & can't wait to get them off usually down my sleeves

I'd be offended if I could clearly see the outline of a bloke's penis and scrotum

I take it you don't follow cycling events, Vetinari?

YANBU! Not at all. I have never worn a bra....I'm 40. Well I have bought the odd one, tried it on and thought "how bloody uncomfortable!" and then chucked it in the back of the cupboard.

I AM a little flat chested. I was literally flat till I had DC and now I think I might be about a 34b or maybe c.

I don't give a shiny shite what anyone else thinks of my sillouhette! If men look then so be it!

I wear vest tops from Primark mainly....under t shirts. I do get the odd nipple showing moment but so what? They're only tits! Why do people wear them if they're so uncomfy? I do see that those with large boobs might feel more comfy with support...but that's a practical reason for wearing them.

When I hear women say "Oh doesn't it feel nice to take your bra off?" then I think SO LEAVE IT OFF for God's sake!

holiday mine still stand upright thanks very much and I've never worn one. I am 40 with 2 DC.

Ehric your comment is very distasteful! Breasts are breasts not piles of steaming shit! How can it be "not nice" to see a breast through clothing? They're fucking THERE! They don;'t need hiding.

36F. Would love not to wear a bra but would find the perpetual jiggling, swinging and wobbling a distraction and quite inhibiting...

You sound like me, Maureen!

Mini I can see that you'd need support to be comfy. But for the rest of us? Those whose breasts don't swing and bounce uncomfortably? Why should we wear a bra if we don't want to? I can't believe some people are offended by it!

I must piss a lot of people off! I ride my bike daily with no bra on...I meet clients with no bra on and I conduct my day to day life with no bra on!

BlackCats I'm glad I'm the way I am too I'd hate to be so cowed by society that I felt I HAD to wear a bra! Imagine that!

It's Victorian!

I used to work with someone who always wore rather unstructured clothing and her breasts were just too visible. they were not huge, quite small I suppose (relative to her tummy, she was rather an apple) but you could always see her nipples and it all looked a bit pyjama-y, no matter how expensive the clothes or what brand.

You know what, I hate to say it, but I wouldn't. Really, I just wouldn't. It didn't do her any favours and a bit of structure and tailoring can really help you.

It's not fair, I'm not defending it, it's just how it is. I reckon her whole life could have been different with a decent bra and some darts and shoulder pads on her side.

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I am not offended by getting too good a view of women's breasts. I just sort of feel it's too intimate, like I have seen them in bed or something. It doesn't appal me - everyone sleeps - it just doesn't do them any favours. sometimes, depending on how aware they seem to be of how it affects their persona, I feel a bit sorry for them

I used to work with a woman who was known for her heavy breasts, large areolae and perky brown nipples. Yup, she didn't wear a bra, and wore a lot of see through tops. Ten years later, she came to work in our department and the first thing anyone said is "Isn't she that woman who never wore a bra and always had her tits on display?" Not, isn't that the woman who is incredibly bright/the accounts whizz/a fantastic manager, although she was all of those things. No. The only thing anyone remembered was her tits. And the men remembered in great detail...

her whole LIFE?

I stopped wearing one a couple of years ago. Now I just find them so uncomfortable when I try that I don't bother.

I know for sure I would have been told by my outspoken line manager at work but I don't think anyone has actually noticed! Not having particularly big boobs is a help, I suppose.