to completely give up on wearing bras?

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It started innocently enough; I would skip wearing bras if I was going on a flight, or long car ride, but now I can't seem to persuade myself to wear them at all!

I am not flat chested (36D, kind of 'wide based' if that makes any sense..). I am pretty sure that ianbu but every so often I feel unsure, mostly because of peoples reaction... my sister is appalled and her boobs are much smaller! I increasingly feel like I shouldn't have to wear a surgical support to change/camouflage the shape of my breasts every day of life.. and that men's people's reaction to the outline of my breasts through clothing is their problem... I do get anxious about whether it is unprofessional for work though, but then I get angry about how the fact that they are so over-sexualised that I feel responsible.

I would wear one if I was in a 'who has the nicest shaped boobs?' competition but am i being unreasonable to give up on wearing one for daily life?

p.s. walking, jumping, doing up and down stairs felt weird and wibbly at first, but normal now :)

I HATE bras, have worn one's that have been fitted (and not) and always found them unbearable and although I'm only small, definitely need support after years of pregnancy/breastfeeding I have since discovered those crop tops that are similar to a sports bra but way more comfy. Primark do them in lovely colours if you have one near you?

I don't wear one when I am at home cos it's more comfortable without one but I always put one on when I go out. Saying that if I am just nipping to the shops and I will be wearing a coat then i won't bother either.

I wouldn't want a man pushing his penis/groin area 'in my face'. Why should I be ok with your breasts? Just because they are breasts?

Can't say I'd be thrilled with massive fat rolls, BO, or leg hair either....

Bra or no bra, I wouldn't be happy about someone pushing breasts in my face.

Thankfully, this has yet to have happened ...

I might consider it if I had small, perky breasts and nobody would notice whether I'm wearing a bra or not. Large wobbly unsupported breasts are not a good look though. I would find it very uncomfortable to say anything to a colleague who decided to go bra-less, though.

It's just too sexual for work. You might say that it's my problem, but I also feel uncomfortable if I have to stare into someone's cleavage, or if a male colleague decided to wear pants so tight that you could see if he's circumcised or not. Just not something most people would necessarily want to see in the office.

Trust me, I would be told if mine were a problem.

I honestly think most people over-estimate the extent to which a bra adds support. On the rare occasion I do wear a bra, my boobs look bigger and I have a cleavage - I don't have one at all when I don't bother.

I wouldn't be allowed to go without, I'm sure I am a health and safety risk. If I turned around too fast I would take some ones head off. Although during winter going braless does have its advantages, my knees are always lovely and warm when I let the norks out.

I used to work with a woman who never wore a bra - it was obvious and I was aware of it every time I spoke to her. She was quite senior, so it obviously hadn't hampered her career, but basically I was aware of her breasts all the time in a way that I wouldn't have been had she been wearing a bra. Possibly a bit poor of me, but a fact nonetheless.

It's pretty obvious when someone isn't wearing a bra. Just because no-one has mentioned it (I don't think anyone did to the woman I worked with) doesn't mean no-one is unaware.

Yanbu but i would feel uncomfortable without.
Intrrestingly though, if you google "do bras prevent sagging" there are lots of studies which say they dont. Something to do with the ligaments needing worked to ensure they still work and holds thibgs up.

I rarely wore one for about 10 years. Mind you I was a 32A at the time. Even with those minuscule boobs I got comments sometimes - didn't bother me, but you'll doubtless get more if you're bigger.

I only started wearing one again when I had kids - I got much bigger and they were really tender, I needed a layer of protection between nipples and clothes.

Look I ain't a boob hater, talking of boobs the girl in the new Cameron Diaz film has a bloody marvellous pair... Lucky girl

I just wouldn't like them so obvious. I don't like vest tops in offices either. Keep your jacket on! (Oh I'm so cold, yeah? Get fucking dressed then! Grr)

I'm 36 GG.
There's no way on this earth I'd be physically comfortable braless :(
I don't even understand all those social media memes or posts about feeling great doing that "flashdance" thing.
If I were brave enough I'd do a reduction.
YANB wanting to go braless - it's your body - I just can't see the advantages myself.

I started going braless when I lived in hot places - bras can make you really hot and sweaty!

Sunnydays, why would you go to HR about it? And would you also go about the fat rolls, BO, hairy legs, etc?

I am not that bothered about my colleagues, as long as they're more or less clean and don't smell.

I think if someone's comfortable with it, it's not a problem. I don't imagine anyone's going braless in combination with a sheer top - in any case, I don't think a sheer top is really appropriate for the office, even with a bra.

I worked in an office. A big city office. All of these were subject of hr 'investigations' due to employee complaints.

Not by me I hasten to add. But yes all these things can seriously offend. Inc smelly microwave food.

I always wear a bra but you're now making me panic about nipples bring obvious. Im a 30f and prefer thin, non-padded bras as my breasts are ample enough , but this does have consequences. Wasn't aware until now that a nipple outline was unacceptable in the office! Oh well.

By all means think people don't notice. Think they don't care. But sometimes you are very very wrong. At best it's hurt feelings on either side. Worse can be very uncomfortable for all...

I would love it but I would get grit in my nipples from the scraping.....

I would love to not wear them but as a 40E it really isn't possible. They just sag too much and make my whole torso look like a big blob. Plus I worry they will sag more if they aren't supported.

If your tops are thick enough and you think you still look nice without them then fine but I think it will be obvious in most clothes tbh.

Hurt feelings because somebody didn't wear a bra!

Thanks for the replies! It has been really interesting to hear your opinions, as a few people have mentioned, it isn't something that is usually discussed. I would hate to think that I have been making people uncomfortable and really like the point about men's ties etc, but I am pretty sure that I hide them ok, lots ok layers and cowl necks, and certainly nothing clingy or transparent! Work is usually a vest under a dress with a cardigan.

OP YANU, but I have to say that I haven't found that MN has been very supportive of women who choose to go braless.

For this one subject I would recommend you find an alternative forum who can help you if you choose this.

It's usually obvious when women aren't wearing bras, even quite flat-chested women.

However, it wouldn't bother me, and I think comparing braless women and leg hair to things like BO is a bit odd. As long as you're clean and tidy and not in low-cut tops or anything, I see no problem.

(I never shave my legs, surely that's nobody else's business?)

Bnn