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to be worried a lot by having baby due in November when my DD will start Y7?

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 00:07

It worries me a lot. I almost feel as if I FAILED her by having another baby just couple of months after she starts Y7.
It will be already hard for her and on top of that new baby...Please advice me or reassure me..I am just panicking so much...

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 00:34

Anyone???? Please Easter Sad

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EatShitDerek · 22/04/2014 00:36

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 00:42

Was it challenging having to adapt to a new school,new students ,teachers and not having your DM as much?
I am really scared..
As I mentioned,baby is due in November and not sure how it will be for her?I feel so sorry and sad...

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AnyFucker · 22/04/2014 00:44

Are you an actual grown up ?

DoJo · 22/04/2014 00:45

Maybe if you could identify what is worrying you, people could offer some more reassurance - I expect many (like me) can't really see what is such a concern...

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 00:47

Yes.It's just by nature I worry a lot.I know it's not healthy,please don't make fun out of me.
Why I wouldn't be grown up?I am genuinely concerned.

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EatShitDerek · 22/04/2014 00:48

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ballseditup · 22/04/2014 00:49

What are you panicking about? Confused

Perhaps ask the new baby to stay in for a bit longer?!

There's not much you can do about it OP.

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 00:50

Hi DoJo,EatShitDerek .
I am concern because I have high risk pregnancy caused bu having high blood pressure.I am on tablets which are ok for now but dr told me all this negative things about having hbp that I am driving myself creazy with worries.
And due date is mid of November.I don't want her to be affected in negative way.

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lizzzyyliveson · 22/04/2014 00:54

Your DD will be an old hand at secondary school by November. I predict that by October you will be told to stop fussing and that it is not cool for you to be asking about school and you will get your head bitten off if you dare to look in her bookbag for letters! Y6 teachers will work hard on independence and will do lots of transition stuff. Speak to them if you have any worries, they know your local schools and what is likely to happen.

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 00:56

Thank you.I really needed to hear that everything will be ok. I do try to be calm and positive but I find it hard....

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steff13 · 22/04/2014 00:56

How old is a child in year 7? We had our daughter when my eldest son was entering middle school, and it wasn't an issue at all. I don't quite know why it would be.

mixedpeel · 22/04/2014 00:58

Aw, katmat, late night can't sleep worries are the pits.

Treat the stuff from the doc re the hbp as useful information to help you do the best for your baby.

Your daughter will be absolutely fine, truly. She will feel grown up going to secondary school, and having a new baby brother or sister will just be part of her life.

AreWeThereYeti · 22/04/2014 01:00

You are definitely panicking too much. She will probably already be settled by November and may well be really excited and happy about the baby. I really wouldn't worry about this. The worst thing would be for her to pick up on your negativity.

(Ps, hope you are ignoring the usual unpleasant posts)

Nocomet · 22/04/2014 01:03

Y7 is much better than Y6 for not being available for most children round here as they either walk or go on dedicated buses. Massively easier than school run plus new baby.

No SATs to worry about and by November she should have got the hang of HW diaries, PE kit etc.

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 01:04

Thank you so much. You are lovely and supportive (I have tears in my eyes-maybe hormones?). I will calm down and try to be positive,as you said AreWeThereYeti my DD shouldn't pick up negative feelings.
I wish I am stronger,less emotional when it comes to my dd's .Thank you all one more time..

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AreWeThereYeti · 22/04/2014 01:09

Yup, sounds like your hormones getting the better of you. Grin

Hope everything goes fantastically Thanks

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 01:13

Thank you AWTY.You are really kind Cake

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mixedpeel · 22/04/2014 01:21

You seem to know yourself quite well. You describe yourself as a worrier by nature, and that you are emotional about your DDs.

I bet you are right as well that pregnancy hormones are playing a part in making everything seem worse than it is!

I understand that you will have heard some stuff that bothered/scared you about the hbp, but the fact is that you will be monitored and looked after.

Your daughter will be going into Y7. She will have a visit this term, you will buy uniform, bag, pencil case together if need be, all the special mum stuff you might want to do in the run-up will be done without a newborn around. As a previous poster said, by November she will definitely be an old hand when it comes to secondary.

Wishing you sweet dreams tonight and all the best for the pregnancy.

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katmat3 · 22/04/2014 01:32

Thank you so much on your support. I am so tired today.I have two dd's(y6 and y4) but younger one is in y4 and school is only 5min away so I am calm about her.I will calm myself and go to sleep.We were all day out.We went to Shakespeare's Globe (450th anniversary so we went to see play ,exhibition and many other things -free) and after that Trafalgar Square for St George feast event.It was sooooo nice.
Thank you so much on your kind words...

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AveryJessup · 22/04/2014 01:38

If you were due the week she started school, then maybe it would be a cause for worry but she'll have a whole 2 months to adjust and settle in.

I'm due in November and my DS starts preschool in September. I was actually thinking the timing is good because 2 months should be enough time for him to settle in a little so he'll be used to things by the time the baby arrives.

Why were you TTC for an Autumn baby if you were worried about this? I totally understand that none of us can plan our exact due dates but just as an example I was sure I didn't want a July/August baby for various reasons so I skipped TTC for a couple of months last year.

SilveryMary · 22/04/2014 01:44

What's the particular significance of year 7 compared to other school years?

SilveryMary · 22/04/2014 01:45

It does sound like you're just panicking, regardless.