to wonder why Mumsnet is obsessed with boys wearing girls clothes?

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Honestly, you know YANBU, you know everyone will say YANBU, anyone who dares to say YABU will be soundly told off so why bother?

There are so many threads about can I put my son in a dress, tights, pink, florals ... YANBU. You're a right-on, trendy, liberal parent. WE GET IT.

But by now, tedious is what it is: tedious and boring.

And if they ask AIBU to make my son wear a dress I don't think they are showing off.

Maybe they are a bit nervous about doing something that goes against grain and want reassurance.

I dislike the double standard. People moan and moan about girls and pink and princesses etc but if a boy wears it they are to be congratulated!

"Read it again - it's such a non issue I don't see why we need endless threads about it."

MN is a tolerant place in this respect, and one of the features is that there are endless treads about anything and everything.

If you do not like that, then ther are oodles o other parenting sites. The ethos of each is different and you might fit in better elsewhere.

I know MN has been in a mess for a few months now, and that this weekend has been awful. But that's not a reason to whine about yet another aspect of its community and the types of threads that are welcome.

It obviously isn't a non issue or there wouldn't be threads about it!

It isnt double standards though.

That misses the whole point of why people moan.

It's not because they don't like pink.

Its because they don't like it being marketed as solely for girls.

This thread is nasty.

1. We are clearly not all lefty liberals. (although I am )
2. There are lots of different topics because there are thousands of threads, so the same thing will come up more than once.
3. I will never, ever understand why people don't just ignore threads they find boring.

Errm, andsmile, did you just describe your DH as 'coloured'? What colour is he? Because no black person I know has been comfortable with that description since about 1979.

It doesn't miss the point. I agree that the marketing is irritating but if you don't want girls all in pink it isn't the answer to want boys to be in it!
They are all children and it irritates me to be so anti pink for girls but think it wonderful if a boy wishes to trip around in a long pink dress with lots of sparkle. If it is OK for a boy it is equally OK for a girl.

I agree wholeheartedly about 'safe' threads. If you spend a bit of time on here you soon realise there are some topics where posters will be universally positive/ supportive and indeed you may even get a 'you sound lovely' or 'you sound great' from it.

I agree with worra (i think it was?) who suggested that some users may be seeking company or reassurance and although they know they'll be totally agreed with they say things like 'but MIL doesnt approve so maybe Iam being unreunreasonable?'.

I think I did it myself once. I posted a thread once asking if I was being unreasonable to not lend my books out, as they hardly ever came back. I got 90% support (and a few grips handed to me) which to be honest I knew I'd get.

I don't need a forum to validate my book lending choices, so I guess I posted in order to feel agreed with, or chat with like minded people.

I didn't really think I was being unreasonable.

My dd2 likes wearing boys clothes. Especially batman.

Win or Fail as a parent then? lol