to wonder why Mumsnet is obsessed with boys wearing girls clothes?

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Honestly, you know YANBU, you know everyone will say YANBU, anyone who dares to say YABU will be soundly told off so why bother?

There are so many threads about can I put my son in a dress, tights, pink, florals ... YANBU. You're a right-on, trendy, liberal parent. WE GET IT.

But by now, tedious is what it is: tedious and boring.

But by now, tedious is what it is: tedious and boring.

So you have to come in and start another thread of your very own on the same subject.

How bloody clever of you.

Of course I know what I'm doing. That's why I started the thread.

I started the thread because it's ridiculous having endless threads discussing the same subject, which is essentially - 'can I dress my child in clothes intended for the other gender?'

The answer, countless times over, is yes, you can.

I see no need to endlessly discuss it, and yes, I do think a number of posters fall over themselves to emphasise their dress-wearing, nail-polish covered, glitter-adorned sons. Doesn't mean I think there's anything wrong with it - I don't CARE.

Considering you just told me to stick it up my arse I think you've got a nerve to be honest calling ME nasty!

Sallying, if people just did as they did - dressed their children in what their children wanted to wear with a few nods towards appropriateness and expense and seasonal constraints, it would not matter.

The bigger deal people make out of it, on here and in real life, the bigger deal it becomes.

Mrsdevere I don't think that is what the OP is getting at. I took it more as it's a given so why does it keep being raised? Possibly new posters don't know how often it comes up.

There is a current thread however about that awful American woman and her rainbow child. That woman however is actually rigidly adhering to gender stereotypes by squealing with enthusiasm about how much her son loves girly things. She has a clearly defined concept of what is suitable for each sex but is delighted her son is rejecting the "boys'" items.

Like worra I am inclined to think half of them are not real.

Point is, people know by now, unless they are brand new posters which I doubt, that they are not being unreasonable. So to pose the question as if they honestly think they might be - well yes, it does smack of attention seeking to me and drawing attention to the marvellous liberality of some parents.

There are hundreds of topics that have been discussed to death on here. Literally hundreds. Forget the old standards of breast feeding v formula, sahm v wohm, what about

shoes off in house
mil gave pfb a chocolate button
leather sofas are naff
linen trousers are a no-no
babes in arms at weddings even though the invitation says no children?
washing machine smells
best foundation
best moisturiser
best mascara - not just hundreds but thousands of times

Every topic under the sun has been done at some time or other.

is this the boys in tights thread? i have noticed this turns up quite alot. i don't know anyone in rl who does this

True enough.

I suppose I wonder why the question is being raised in the particular format - as in, my son wants to wear this, AIBU to let him? The answer is invariably no, whilst the examples given above - best moisturiser for example - will elicit a range of responses and viewpoints. Do you see what I mean? :)

Mrsdevere having no particular desire for anything up my arse I am saying with some reluctance it certainly feels a lot to me.

But it could just be the times I have been on/looking/checking.

However there are at least three I can think of in the last week alone.

I've been here since 2007 and I've not noticed any "obsession", "angst" or "endless threads" at all.

One of the boys in girls clothing threads in the last week was mine, I really didn't know if I should dress ds in a skirt when he was dressing up as a witch. Mumsnet is usually a good place to get some perspective ( we did put him in a skirt in the end)

If you're not, why are you so bothered by my post?

To be quite honest I think you need to calm down and don't throw your weight around in that fashion.

That post was disturbed and more than a little disturbing and I think if you meant even half of it then that is worrying. It isn't normal to react in that fashion to a post that you have interpreted of accusing you of being a "liberal MC mother".

If you are not interested, don't read the threads. There are loads of threads on here that don't interest me, so I don't read them. It's not hard.

And as for the assumption, "this isn't something I've come across in my narrow life so it must be made up..."

Glad you were able to access advice ikea.

OP I think Facebook is a pointless, narcissistic waste of time. I hide every thread about it or where it is even mentioned. You could just do the same.

I do get a bit annoyed at some of the snide comments about pink on girls and girly girls and steering girls away from that even if that is what they want (and Mrsdevere I think you and I may have discussed this before, they do happen; not all gender neutrality is equal)

If you go into 'customise' you can add a 'Hide' button which will show down the side of Active Convos. You can click on it without even opening a thread.

Problem solved.

You are spot on OP, I have thought exactly the same.

I have no idea why you are being jumped on for making that observation, you have no need to get drawn into someone's pathetic little fight about it.

I don't think I did say that usual.

I wondered why it was that the same question comes up time and time again. IKEA answered, I responded - mainly because to be honest there was a cross post in between us and I responded to try to be polite and calm things down.

I DO think some, if not many, of the 'aibu to put my son in ' threads are there to elicit praise from other posters - it is one that is guaranteed pretty much unanimous support from others. And I do feel that can become tiresome.

This thread will undoubtedly offend the offended that are easily offended.

Most however are not offended.

Which is exactly the way it should be.